Started talking to a guy on an app. He was complimenting me on the app saying I seem like the ideal woman and worth any man’s time, saying I’m cultured, deep, beautiful and have a lot going for me. He said he felt lucky to have found me, but also would say he’s picky and wants a woman with values etc. He said his last relationship ended 2 months ago and it was toxic and she cheated. He was sending me lovey-dovey emojis 🥰😍😘 and it all seemed like a bit much for a stranger. But I went on a date with him anyway and he was complimenting me every 10 mins. He got a little tinyyyy bit touchy and asked to kiss me so we did. He also attempted to touch my leg but I think he then decided it didn’t look like I wanted that. After the date, he kept saying he wants to focus on us, get off the app, was talking future plans like Halloween… and saying we could eventually do a trip to another state at some point. I got overwhelmed and freaked by the fast pace behavior and told him it made me uncomfortable and seemed too forward and we only had one short date. He apologized and said he could take it slow and would prefer it. But he said he had been used to fast pace because of his ex and other women wanting fast pace.
I wanted to like him but after reading his apology response, I decided maybe I was spooked and needed some time to think so I ignored his messages for the rest of that day- he sent a few. I planned to respond to him the next day in the late afternoon but he beat me to it by sending a selfie of his face while at work and asking about my day. The selfie had his one arm up under his chin as if he was showing off his watch perhaps. It’s kind of like a GQ pose… I thought it was odd to send a selfie when I had been silent and ignoring him. For some reason, I felt turned off by that. So I didn’t respond and later that night I received another message where he said he genuinely apologizes for going too fast😞, he’d like to take it slow, but he’ll give me some space and hopes we can go out for dinner sometime again.💙
I still ignored him because at this point I wanted to like him but …I have fears because I had been with a narcissist mentally abusive man in the past. So we didn’t speak for about 4 days and that made me feel like reaching out to him but he beat me to it again lol. And he sent me another face selfie where he’s sitting on a couch laying back with his head rested on his arm which is bent behind his head. Not sure if he was trying to show off his arm muscle there. He wrote shameless selfie incoming lol…if you feel free to talk hit me back. I can move slow for things to grow. I hope you have not given up on the prospect of us and that he would like to get together and he’s free these days.
I liked him/I wanted to like him but this behavior has me wary and confused. So, my question is, what do you think is up with the selfies? Could this be a nice guy or what?… Is your opinion to give him another chance or no?
I want to add that I’ve never sent him a selfie and before I confronted him about his fast behavior, he had also sent me a selfie with a 😘 2 days after our date and said he wanted to snap something fast to let me know he was thinking of me.