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  1. Thank you sooo much for clarifying and being considerate about it :)) I kinda felt bad then but its ok now. Yes, I am not left with any life outside the office. That is why I did not say NO to her at any time. I am doing all I can of course, to have things in my favor. Kindest Regards :))
  2. Thank you so much for writing this. THIS is so much like me. Any office that takes so much time from our everyday life becomes our life (~pretty much). Thank you so so much !!!
  3. Hi. Would b very nice if you could please read the entire thread before. I was and am doing everything to move on from her. It gets better when our paths do not cross. Also I requested in the very beggining to be more considerate since the situation is very weird. It is solely for the purpose of moving on, that I thought about switching away to another department/team or even switch job. Its like I am not putting in any effor. Regarding job choice, you have no idea on the ground realities here: In my country, it is really really hard to find a good high paying job. The ones that pay the most u
  4. You seem kind of stuck in this competition with this guy where you see him as bad and yourself as good and can't seem to understand why she doesn't pick good. Not everyone values good and keep in mind that like attracts like. Meaning she isn't exactly a catch herself. Basically, learn to focus your energies and what you bring to the table on those who actually value that and have same shared values. This girl is the opposite of all that and you aren't going to change her or fix her into being who you want her to be. I do feel like my self respect is lost in this "competition". But
  5. Thanks for this. I have avoided flirting and talking for a good number of days but I have kept my sight on her messages and acitivites very obsessively edpecially after she came back to me (as her rebound). She even used the phrase "They (refering to Joe) can go to hell." at one time and stayed late night talking to me while we worked. After that, I started losing it again. I was going strong. And now here I am again !!! (BTW I am thankful to you and everyone else writing all these messages for me. You guys are angels, just being here for a complete stranger. While I am so hurt that not
  6. Yes, that gives me hope. There is a bog world outside both career-wise and seeking a partner too. This is a very hard lesson for me as I have to do my job everyday and get to see these toxic games too at the same place.
  7. I should be doing this ideally. I want to but it seems to be the hardest thing right now. The other way for me is to switch the pool completely and work somewhere else within this company. This is also a possibility.
  8. You are right anyway. I need to straighten my behavior. This is of course very unprofessional. I should not be doing this at all.
  9. She started coming onto me. I did not. Then she started looking for someone better. I felt at one point that she sees almost every guy as a candidate. I am thinking about switching to another company and be out of this *** forever.
  10. All these thoughts do come in my mind. I just find it so hard them so hard to implement. :(( Guess I need to work on my emotions any way I can.
  11. Hello, I just need further help. :(( I was doing very well moving on but all of a sudden I was asked to help her on one of the tasks assigned to her by the manager. Initially I was reluctant but I had to help as a demand of proferssionalism. We worked on it for a whole week and she strated flirtin with me all over again. Within that work, I noticed she was one day she was very upset and I learned from her behavior that she had a fight with the guy she left me for. She was complaining about bad temperament without taking anyone's name. I felt that he told her to not be frienly with me. (Remi
  12. I am really sorry to hear all this. You know what ? People who do this are internally broken. Please do not look forward to his message / response. Please please do care of your heart. This person deserves no respect. He has no idea how to leave a relationship gracefully. It is going to sound a bit harsh may be, but believe me you have dodged a bullet. He would have made your life terrible ahead I am sure. With time, you will heal. You will be all shiny and bright again. I am very sorry to hear this experience of yours. Do not let your heart be too heavy. For the longer term he is at loss. He
  13. Thank you very much for writing and sharing your personal life. Really appreciated. I did not mind her getting assigned a different team but its just that her behavior is very strange. I don't get insecure if my girl has male friends or coworkers she is working on projects with. I have had girlfriends in the past. I am really upset seeing that she has total disregard for me. She clearly places me on the backburner and fills her time with someone else. This should not have happened at all. Yes, I am worried about her gossiping with me. The teammate she is working with me is also very gossi
  14. Hi, I am writing this primarily as a request for a boost and secondarily for an advice. I found this place to be a safe space for anyone to open up. This new girl joined my office four months back. I (male 26) was her first friend here. We quickly became close friends. We used to chat all day long. I used to help her through everything. I was also her first-go-to person as well. In a matter of three months, we developed a very strong bond. She used to complain to me about the rest of the people being boring and not cooperative. We would gossip a lot. I was there for here and with her all
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