So this girl I was very close with for our last semester of college (exclusive/pretty much dating without labels due to her fear of commitment), and then we moved away from each other but still text and snap constantly. We discussed our future and decided that the end of college is a big event and we will revisit becoming romantic and maybe adding a label in the future.
Recently, she’s seemed more quiet and reserved and not being on her phone as often and just a huge mood change in general. I brought it to her attention multiple times and she told me she’s just not on her phone as often at the moment and that “she feels alone when she’s not texting me”.
It’s easy to say that she’s talking to other guys, but her friends tell me that they can’t see her doing that. I’ve been thinking of what it could be cuz this change in behavior is not normal. I know that she has a VERY immature mother who for a lack of better words, is a child that the girl has to keep in check. However, the girl also started a habit of smoking weed constantly throughout the day, maybe to cope with losing a great life in college. This, along with her literally being bipolar, I fear could be the reason for her being weird rn.
We just saw a concert a few days ago and it felt awesome to be with her. We went with her mom and her moms friends and it did feel like we were there “together”. She still seemed to avoid anything bluntly romantic, which I didn’t mind cuz I don’t wanna rush into anything romantic and ruin everything. However, the next day she was quiet over text again.
In the recent past, she’s expressed that she really wants me to stay in her life (she lost a lot of friends over the span of the last year and I was there to make her feel wanted and loved as college ended), but this is just so strange.
Could it be weed and her going through a lot that’s affecting her behavior? I’m so lost and tired because I don’t know what this could be.