We have been together for 8 years. I was the problem. I couldn't be bothered to hear her problems or would interject my problems any time she would try to talk about hers. She was lonely when I was working and kept saying that I was only one person. When the roles were reversed, she would listen to me, but I was just sad and lonely and jealous of her work to the point where I drove her away.
She came back and I didn't know that she had any intention of trying to work things out, but I have done my best to hear her and not inject myself into consideration.