Lawrence

Thanks brando i didnt see your response. This is breaking me in two. I dont think i could ever love another. I just dont know.

Oh update. She rang me and told me 20 more times that i left her for no reason and how i was "the biggest ****ing mistake of her life". All this from someone who was supposed to love me and wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. I hate her. Then why do i still love her, why am do i have tears to my feet. Why? Why is love so cruel.

Hi. Some of you may have read my topic on jelousy. Well...she took me back, and i was so close to perfect it wasnt funny. For a week i was so good, but she was so withdrawn. Sometimes I would tell her i loved her, and she would say "i know". She would tell me she wanted to be alone, and i knew stuff was upsetting her and she didnt tell me what. Everything had changed. I get a message today telling me she doesnt know if she wanted to be with me anymore. We talked alot on the phone and she told me that she wanted to be alone. I told her that she cant keep me out of the loop, and that its hurting me that she just wants to be alone all the time and wont tell me whats wrong. She said that she wanted to be alone. Unless i wanted to come over and just listen to music, but i wanted to think so i said i wanted some time to myself too. (this part was done my txt messaging) She proceeds to tell me "alright, well ill talk to you tomorrow or whenever". I said "what do you mean "or whatever"". She said "*shurgs*. So i said "you cant be serious right now" and she said "you want to be alone, i want to be alone, we are alone". Then she tells me she doesnt know if she wants to be with me anymore. She said she doesnt feel like its there anymore. We talk (on the phone) and she just tells me how the break up a week ago was my fault and that i deserved to be left. So i told her i didnt want to be with her anymore. She said fine. Then she told me that i had no reason to leave her, and at least she had a reason to leave me. She told me never to talk to her again a few times. I told her i tried so hard to be there for her and do everything she asked, and she said "you dont try, you leave me". She continued to hammer into my head that i had no reason to leave her. Stupidy, i come back to her and said that i loved her so much and that i was always there for her. She reminded me again that i had no reason to leave her. She told me she hated me, and numerous times she told me she never wanted to talk to me again. She also reminded me of the fact that i was everything wrong in the relationship, that i deserved to be left. I told her that this is one time where i didnt do anything wrong. "if only i could have never given you my heart so you couldnt rip it in pieces. your wish is granted, i will never talk to you ever again. not everything in this relationship is my fault, and i wont let you string me like your puppet anymore. you ****ed this as much as i did. goodbye xxxxxxxx. im glad you hate me, shows me you never cared about me." She then told me 3 times that it was infact i who left her. "I F***ING HATE YOU SO F***ING MUCH. I WISH I HAD NEVER MET YOU. YOU ARE A MISTAKE." And a final reminder that i was everything wrong in the relationship. Im breaking in two. I dont know if i love her anymore, but why do i feel so bad, and feel like i would take her back in a heart beat. Why??

Well..actually no. You see... (and yes i know i should have mentioned this before) my ex gf cheated on me. Long story short, i dont have any girl friends. I only have me mates. She on the other hand, has heaps of guy friends. I guess i feel like im only a piece of a 100 piece pie. I know she would never cheat on me. She has been true to me in every single way. I have no reason to be jelous, its just hard for me to absorb all the information. Any tips, you think i should just swallow my pride and see how it feels later on?

Arghh this isnt what i wanted to hear. She wont be here in 2 weeks. Shes made that quite clear. Maybe if we just become "mutal friends" for a couple of weeks, but i dont know how that will help either of us. Edit: ****, i forgot to mention. She knows how hard it is for me to loose my jelously and she understands, its mainly just the controlling issue. Should i just not say anything when im jelous and change the conversation really quick?

Unfortuantly we have talked about this many many times. She knows exactly how i feel. Talking wont help, only changing will. And im very willing to change, because i love this girl and i want to spend the rest of my life with her...

Hey all. Im new here and im in dire need of help. Im 18 [male] and ive been going out with my beatiful girl for about 6 months now. Now i know it may not seem much to all you, but its an eternity to me, and i love her very much, as she does me. Problem is, i have smashed everything we once had into pieces. She broke up with me last night, and sent me an email this morning. Thats about the jist of it. She has many male friends and i just get so jelous and controlling. I dont tell her that she cant go, but i am controlling. She loves me so much that she basically pushed all her friends away... Now i know that this could not be the way to go, but i just dont know what to do. Yesterday she told me she had lunch with her friend ryan at work (they work together) and thats what caused us to break up, because i got jelous. She says i make her feel like she has a chain and ball around her leg. When ever she mentions another male, i get upset. She cant go to lunch with them because ill get upset. She cant talk to them on the phone because ill get upset. Shes driven everyone away and we both cant handle it. I dont know what to do, i need to save this relationship, and i need to get rid of my controlling and jelous ways. This is my last resort. I have looked everywhere and i dont know what to do. Help me.