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  1. Also a possibility or combination of both. He is getting pushy and that’s not very nice. He would probably start getting worse and needy..
  2. Yes don’t have fwb relationship anymore with him. Its not unusual for someone to develop feelings by being intimate together. So he is developing feelings for you and being insecure about it. This won’t work in the long term, so best to end it.
  3. Agree with above about unresolved conflicts. Arguing lots will do it. Rule of thumb - never argue. It’s hard for sure sometimes, but arguing should always be avoided - kills intimacy. Are you focussed on your purpose, mission, goals and making progress? Also, try and treat her like you did when you first met her...
  4. Got it. It’s not about the specific incident itself, but an accumulation (would be helpful for at least a short summary if that’s the case next time when starting a new thread, especially for us newer readers). Otherwise if my partner felt I didn’t love her from how I responded and went sulking to sleep on the couch I would try and comfort her, tell her I love her and cheer her up. My advise is that if overall there are more feelings of unhappiness and a lack of peace around a person, it’s best to cut ties. So I agree with above If he has no job and is unsupportive / mentally unstable with no long term potential, it’s best to leave.
  5. I don’t think saying never mind and walking away is a temper tantrum or abusive. His feelings were hurt that’s all which means he cares for you. He responded negatively just as you are responding negatively to his negative reaction which seems like a negative cycle. why not just sit down and say - look we have issues we obviously care about eachother is there a way to make it work? See if it’s possible to make improvements and have both needs met. If not perhaps it’s better to end things now before it gets worse.
  6. You hurt his feelings. A lot of people would be hurt and offended if their partner responded the way you did. If he was swearing or being verbally abusive that would be a different story. There was none of that here. If you are not in it for the long term why bother and waste time?
  7. Best to focus on your studies and not waste time stringing along a guy you aren’t interested in. However, I disagree you cannot have a relationship while in college. Learn to manage your time better and you’ll find it’s manageable to have a social life, friendships, relationships, while studying. Even during my university days I tried to enjoy Sundays to recharge and take a break and did just fine.
  8. Choose your partner wisely. They say 95% of your happiness or misery will come from that one decision. By all means block - also I recommend not emailing via gmail because apparently you cannot block emails and they always show up in your mail one way or another... and it may be very very tempting to open one (I know from experience 🤦‍♂️) My ex created a fake Instagram account this week and contacted me saying I abandoned her and her baby (from someone else) causing her depression. That makes me feel SOOO horrible and guilty you can’t believe. But it’s all manipulations.. I felt incredibly guilty blocking the new account again, but some people will just cause you too much misery and drain your energy and don’t have your best interests in their heart...
  9. If you aren’t attracted to women then you definitely aren’t gay. You just aren’t into girly things and I know several straight women that are similar and get along more with guys. But that’s ok. I also wasn’t into such guy things growing up and was more creative / artistic, liked to paint and even had several girls ask if I was gay because I played the piano. But I also later was into sports like MMA and trained with 3 UFC fighters. You can have both feminine and masculine qualities and that’s fine. I think we are all a mix. If you are curious what your dominant type is, here’s a test —> https://core.tonyrobbins.com/gender-quotient-4/ My guess is you are more in your feminine energy, just don’t like typical girl things. But again, you aren’t attracted to women but guys so you definitely aren’t gay as there’s no physical or emotional attraction in that department 😉
  10. Yep I regrettably admit I was a bit wild as a teenager/first year college student, but now more mature, wiser, responsible, and a bit boring jk.
  11. That’s really cool you are into music! Keyboard is pretty fun and it is great you got lots of friends, means you are a fun great guy to have around! I also totally get the idea you want to be true to yourself, authentic, and liked for who you are. A LONG time ago (over 20 years) I thought the same but took it a bit of an extreme. I was tired of the “dating game” or whatever and just wanted to have fun playing music in a couple local bands and just staying after school jamming in the music room etc (was a music nerd), so I literally stopped caring and gained 40 lbs and yes I got really FAT! I was 240 lbs at 17 years old. I was even called earthquake by one girl 🤣 Then I got a call from a friend. He was in trouble and desperately needed help. He was sleeping with this older woman, her husband came home from work and wanted to attack him, he ran out of the house naked fearing for his life and wanted me to go to this boxing 🥊 class with him just to hide somewhere so he wouldn’t be found after school So being a good friend I went to that boxing class. Almost felt like dying first time, but stuck with it. No joke, within 2-3 months lost all that fat, and was in best shape of life, almost had a six pack. Even did a bit of jogging and for first time in life girls would start whistling if I had my shirt of jogging. I’d go to a bar and girls would try and take my shirt off, it was crazy I wasn’t use to that attention..Then played in couple other bands, moved to Europe years later, was on national television blah blah and had women fighting over after being on TV that night, not saying to brag but I have a point to say... What I realized is that women are attracted to YOU but want your best version of yourself! If you are your real authentic self but at your prime, being the best you can be, your truest self, that is what is attractive! So whatever it is you love to do, if you try and be the best version of YOU, you’ll no doubt attract more and more women.. Also worth noting your location also plays role - if it’s a small village there definitely will be less options.. Also meeting that one great girl is kinda like meeting one of your best friends. You have plenty of friends, right? That’s great but how many of them are your closest best friends? Maybe 2-3? Like a best friend you’ve known all your life, it is something rare, you instantly got along great...well it’s a bit similar with finding that special girl. Good luck!!
  12. The last ex who lied about living with another guy, having a 5 month old baby, leaving to her moms with the baby when I broke it off, lied and slept at her exes shortly after, wanted me to pay for her OWN apartment, would have her ex texting All night even though they were “broken up” cough cough ... and blaming me for being the bad one, and recently sent some provocative DMs wanting me to get her pregnant and asked “what would you do if you found out your child was not yours?” 🤦‍♂️ .... was a Scorpio ♏️:D but also is my best friend so 🤷‍♂️ ...made sure to block and thankfully avoided a massive train wreck 🚂 No offence to scorpios, please don’t sting me!!
  13. Sounds reasonable. Unless there are other indicators I would just assume he wants to feel more attractive or comfortable, for which reasons you don’t need to be seeing anyone else. As wiseman pointed out, best would be to focus also on keeping the romance alive with date nights, finding a babysitter etc. Obviously not soo easy at the moment given the circumstances, but worth the investment.
  14. She sounds very attracted to ya and you are doing great at keeping her satisfied in the bedroom - what’s the secret ??? 🤣🤣 The last women I was dating also were aggressive (if that’s a way to call it?) sexually in initiating and pursuing .. all .. the .. time and it made me feel VERY guilty if I would turn down.. (I actually lost a ‘friend’ because I turned her down. Long story - but met her and a friend at a music festival like 15 years ago when I was younger, had idea to do last minute trip to Niagara Falls with her, it was getting late so she suggested a hotel but I was so naive lol and she asked if she could put on porn channel and I fell asleep - I wasn’t attracted to her in that way and she wasnt really not my type - and oh boy was she angry last time I seen her !) 🤦‍♂️ You could always just turn it around and just offer to give her a massage or something .. Yes, she will be sad if you reject her I think this is very common especially since women are not used to being rejected as much as us guys IMO. What you will need to do is be very comforting to her and give LOTS of reassurance like - “hey hun you are sooo hot and sexy to me, I have that stupid work stuff on my mind, I know it’s stupid, so I’m a bit stressed about that, so how about tomorrow I’ll ...” Yeah it’s pretty stressful times with Covid, at least the economy is picking up and I’ve been reading lots in newspapers right now workers have more power and are in demand than before. Even starting to save for an emergency fund 3-6 months of basic expenses would help get rid of any worries, but the economy is picking up, I just wish I invested 10,000 in Bitcoin when Covid hit and sold it now making almost 100k... oh well too late for that Also with working out etc yeah this was crappy year as well for many with not being able to go to gyms etc.. So far I’ve been trying intermittent fasting which is where you skip breakfast except can have coffee or tea , have lunch and last meal before 8 pm I think it helps with calorie control and is supposed to be overall pretty healthy .. so back again to my original question - what’s the secret ??? 🤣🤣🤣 Also don’t worry so much if you didn’t make her climax as usual, from what I can tell it’s more about the experience not so much the end result ..
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