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  1. Thank you for all the advice. He has disclosed to me that he has been unhappy with life way before I met him and he feels he has depression..ok fine then go get some help instead of just talking about it. The past 10 months he has told me he has issues to deal with but has never attempted or committed to getting help. It may be part of why he has not been able to treat me the way i deserve BUT its up to me to decide..and that is not ACCEPTABLE Behavior. I deserve more and I have tried to help but you can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves so now its time to focus on me and get
  2. Thank you ...if that is the case any insight as to why he would respond "maybe, we will see" to the absence could have him realizing what he is missing? If he sees no future and its done why still offer that up or want to still be connected through social media
  3. Guess I was trying to convince myself he would open up. I always got the "only time will tell" and if I wasn't interested i wouldn't be here. I guess it was false hope now that he suddenly says he sees no future yet can't explain why. The last 10 months he has said he doesn't know. I am starting to think he has not had a good woman and doesn't know what to do with it. I was told by someone who knows him well, he has had nothing but failed relationships and that he likely feels like he is in control and has me wrapped around his finger. That I would have gained his respect by treating him like
  4. Don't get me wrong he would do things for me and be there for me but he could just never show any affection nor could he ever tell me how he felt about me
  5. And when I would try to explain myself his response would be I'm sorry and I am sincere when I say that. He is an empty vessel with nothing to give to anyone
  6. How do I explain. I met a mature male (early 50s) and I am a divorced female in my (mid 40s) 10 months ago. When we first met, he would say all the right things, compliments on how beautiful i am and how I am the perfect woman. He is very awkward when it comes to women yet he seemed to have confidence when we first met. He told me that he is extremely insecure and would never allow us to take photos because he did not like pictures of himself. About 3 weeks in to meeting me, he asked me to be his girlfriend. He had separated from his spouse at that time a year prior to meeting him so I figur
  7. Thank you for all the insight and advice. It is greatly appreciated
  8. I was not interested in a full blown relationship the way things were going no..I needed to see that he would be a man step and get help. He did nothing
  9. He wanted basically casual exclusive dating BUT again his issues are preventing him from being fully engaged in a relationship and until he steps out of his comfort zone and admits he needs help it will be status quo. He knows exactly what I want and deserve. This has nothing to do with me he knows I am a good woman. His issues lie within himself and will be an ever repeating cycle. I have to question if something traumatic happened in his childhood that has shaped who he is today. He never spoke of it and I have to wonder of there is a reason why. Either way this statement was made to him whe
  10. And yes I gave him a chance when he told me what he had done despite the bad character .....gave him a chance
  11. I have to go on with my life. He has to figure himself out. Dancing fool yes separated she ended it he was glad but didn't have to guts to tell her he wanted out....there was no infidelity...he went about it with the 2 women when he was single and before he met me
  12. When I've tried to speak with him before to understand why he doesn't want to be in a full-out relationship with me what I have gotten from it is that he has had failed relationship after failed relationship and he sees value in what we have and the fact that we have a friendship he is never had that before in past relationships so he doesn't want to get involved too deep until he is certain because he's worried that it's going to end up just like his past relationships
  13. Ex is overseas now and moved back over a year ago. I have stated after 8 months together how can he not know what he is feeling? I feel as though he is just avoiding to tell me what it is. He stated that is not it at all and he has feelings but he has to work on his issues because he is like this with all women. To state I got married because I wasn't getting any older and married her even though I didn't want to....tells me he has underlying issues whatever they are AND until now has NOT gone for any counseling he says he is not good with that crap and will go when he feels up to it. His ex m
  14. He did not cheat on his wife he had not been with her fir a year and a half I met him in February when I met him he had already been separated for almost a year
  15. Honestly I don't think he has moved on to anyone this entire time that we were together I had access to his apartment I had the code it's not like he was trying to hide anything from me
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