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  1. how do you do you do nc with the person living on the same property? how do I handle this ? I was horrible last year,, I refuse to put myself through that again ,I will not be looking for him etc.etc.etc. but we live next door to each other on the same land,, I know he feels he knows my every move how do I get the effect of nc with him being around all the time...
  2. also one last thread are you jealous of your sister do you feel the need to hurt her subconsciously because if my brother-in -law EVER tried anything I would slap his face... she is your blood
  3. tell your sister what is going on ... she is YOUR sister she will be there for you always... he is not worthy of her or you! no relationship can develop between you he is with her and obviously he is a lier and a cheat ,, he said she wont find out well this is your relationship with her not him if he can hurt her he will hurt you....just a thought
  4. well here I am horrible at nc... lol I have so many thoughts I want to say to him ... evil good sad bad etc.. How do you get through a day with nc The worst part is I live in the home behind him
  5. thats the problem he doesnt open up completely,,, I think I need to find a different game plan He is being awful to me right now saying he has tried but it isnt working for him ,,, blah blah blah ,, I need to change how I react to this behavoir
  6. well here I go I will make this as short as posible....Ex and I broke up last summer ....I became a freak ,stalker, nut case,,, he saw some one else.. any way we got back together last August everything was going good until people who knew me & him became involved with our relationship,, They would start trouble between us but would only say things to me .. I tried to blow it off but finally insecurities started to get the best of me and I became exactly how I was in the past a freak nut insecure etc.. Anyway he has trust issues with me as well, I broke up with him yrs ago and he never lets me forget I was with someone else.. we are in a horrible circle he reacts badly to me out of hurt I react like a psycho out of fear he start fooling around .I need to break this cycle .he knows how I get so he feels secure enough to tell me to screw ,, How can I change my behavoir to realize I'm tired of these games! I want a happy secure relationship ,,,I love him to death but I feel we both are in destructive patterns,,, He is also the type that nc will make him think I am fooling around ,,, which will further piss him off even though he tells me to date,,, its his game actually I'm playing it with him.. I need help . How do I make him see I only want to feel secure .. P.s when we got back together I moved in a house RIGHT behind him on the same property I dont want to move I made a home here,, His family owns the property and they said they dont want me to move,,,, Also he Loves sport fishing,, his brother and him own the boat together...His brother took the month off of August to go fishing every day so lately he has been staying down the marina to asleep on the boat ...my insecurities and trust issues are a big problem](*,)
  7. well here I go I will make this as short as posible....Ex and I broke up last summer ....I became a freak ,stalker, nut case,,, he saw some one else.. any way we got back together last August everything was going good until people who knew me & him became involved with our relationship,, They would start trouble between us but would only say things to me .. I tried to blow it off but finally insecurities started to get the best of me and I became exactly how I was in the past a freak nut insecure etc.. Anyway he has trust issues with me as well, I broke up with him yrs ago and he never lets me forget I was with someone else.. we are in a horrible circle he reacts badly to me out of hurt I react like a psycho out of fear he start fooling around .I need to break this cycle .he knows how I get so he feels secure enough to tell me to screw ,, How can I change my behavoir to realize I'm tired of these games! I want a happy secure relationship ,,,I love him to death but I feel we both are in destructive patterns,,, He is also the type that nc will make him think I am fooling around ,,, which will further piss him off even though he tells me to date,,, its his game actually I'm playing it with him.. I need help . How do I make him see I only want to feel secure .. P.s when we got back together I moved in a house RIGHT behind him on the same property I dont want to move I made a home here,, His family owns the property and they said they dont want me to move,,,, Also he Loves sport fishing,, his brother and him own the boat together...His brother took the month off of August to go fishing every day so lately he has been staying down the marina to asleep on the boat ...my insecurities and trust issues are a big problem](*,)
  8. marriage was not really an issue .. I'm 36 and kids are not for me at this stage,, I just want a solid commitment he is scared to death of marriage,, but I know he feels I will always be here
  9. well here I go I will make this as short as posible....Ex and I broke up last summer ....I became a freak ,stalker, nut case,,, he saw some one else.. any way we got back together last August everything was going good until people who knew me & him became involved with our relationship,, They would start trouble between us but would only say things to me .. I tried to blow it off but finally insecurities started to get the best of me and I became exactly how I was in the past a freak nut insecure etc.. Anyway he has trust issues with me as well, I broke up with him yrs ago and he never lets me forget I was with someone else.. we are in a horrible circle he reacts badly to me out of hurt I react like a psycho out of fear he start fooling around .I need to break this cycle .he knows how I get so he feels secure enough to tell me to screw ,, How can I change my behavoir to realize I'm tired of these games! I want a happy secure relationship ,,,I love him to death but I feel we both are in destructive patterns,,, He is also the type that nc will make him think I am fooling around ,,, which will further piss him off even though he tells me to date,,, its his game actually I'm playing it with him.. I need help . How do I make him see I only want to feel secure .. P.s when we got back together I moved in a house RIGHT behind him on the same property I dont want to move I made a home here,, His family owns the property and they said they dont want me to move,,,, Also he Loves sport fishing,, his brother and him own the boat together...His brother took the month off of August to go fishing every day so lately he has been staying down the marina to asleep on the boat ...my insecurities and trust issues are a big problem](*,)
  10. Hub do you regret it.. did she have a hard time with the break ...Im asking because my ex broke off with me recently because he is having issues
  11. Hubman why did you break up with your girl of 5 yrs? Im curious was it a bad break?
  12. Well i was with someone for 13yrs ...he didnt want to commit I dated someone he found out went crazy I went back with because I loved him still do we got back together and he pulled the sanme crap... after that I was out drinking and actting up never sleeping around just always out partying because of my depression over him,,, listen you can not play with her like she is a yo-yo she probably loves you alot ,, but you ruined her trust ... after a 10 yr relationship believe me she wants you but you keep hurting her>
  13. First my new company doesnt offer health coverage until 160 days .. so I need to wait.. he knows exactly what buttons to push on me .. this is ridiculous how I let myself get manipulated.. I dont see myself getting back with him especially since I can't even think about sleeping with him again when I know what he did .. but sometimes I just miss hearing his voice so when we speak it either makes me upset /or the opposite..
  14. Hey its me again.. so Im doing terrible with the no contact... I also believe D is doing awful himself.. we talked on the phone and he went to look at a boat for me that Im buying ,, after the conversation I said thanks and I was the first to hang up he called me right back saying something about nothing really.. what the heck is going on , why is he being like this ,he said that he doesnt want everyday contact, why does he act distant when I know that he wants to talk to me is this his pride he also admitted in conversation which I already knew that he is a controll freak so my trying to make him open up just makes him do the opposite .. any advice..
  15. why did you break up also how did it end did he chase after you did you hurt him
  16. well Im not finding it easy this NC .. Im breaking down... Everytime I talk to him I feel awful so actually not speaking to him is in my best interest .. he has treated me horrible but I still cry over him what the heck is that .. can anyone clearify this .. I am a strong woman in alot of ways but this one,, How do I let someone have uch control over my emotions? I spoke to him and of coarse he was being nice .. this is rdiculous I need to walk away.. how can someone do this to someone they claimed they loved.. he is a control freak also
  17. Hi well ... The girl my ex was messing with was at a pub I go to all the time with a guy friend of mine... I guess they are dating because she made a public display of affection being all over him ,, actually he is nice enough but you couldnt pay me enough to touch him physically well any way Im sure she thought I would say something to her or make a scene but I held my respect for myself and acted as if she never exsisted.... Boy was she intimidated by that method lol being a church mouse really worked ,,, just my being there alone scared the heck out of her lol talk about nc lol
  18. ok now advice on how to rebuild ? I want to meet new people not men necessarily just new friends I need to get out of the circle I m in.. any suggestions ..
  19. LOL I know I know you 2 are tough Hope and Ray Kay no sliding by you 2 lol I need you guys for strenght more than you will know right now LOL ... Thank you..
  20. Hey I just read a post that a guy just posted on thwe home page it made alot of sense ok I will do nothing but move on and leave it alon ... PROMISE
  21. I know Im a hot head .. I believe I have moved on .. This is why I want to scream at him and say every rotten mean disgusting thing he has ever done to me.. to let him know Im through being his sucker also to make myself feel better .. how about a phone call ?
  22. you guys are all right I understand this but I found all this anger in me I can not believe I allowed myself to be treated like that for soooo long What the heck was I in a coma .. now I want to scream at him and let him know my blinders are off .. because the way I left it I was actually trying to keep a door open ugghghgh..I truly have hate for him.. I know I should be a bigger person and not childish but silence was never a strong point for me
  23. Hi all .. well a few have read my post boyfriend of 13 yrs broke up with me because he never wants to get married ect... well he lied to me and i caught him fooling around with a woman going through a divorce .. Im 35 he is 43 she is 42 I have no children she has 3 anyway enough of that.. D told me when I found out it was only sex.. the womans ex husband is dating happily a woman I know who is a good person well the ex wife the one D was with is harassing her ex husband and this woman also stating things anbout me.. I confronted her and told her not to get me in her dramma anyway things have been said about me that the woman said D is saying about me .. through tyhis whole thing I have never spoken bad about him also I told him I never would but he seems to be speaking ill of me.. so I've been told but than again people lie and so doesnt he,, I allowed myself to be stepped on by him .. always not wanting to say hurtful things trying to be thwe bigger person BUT IM OVER IT! I want to leave him a message stating what a loser he is and how he is 43 living at home sucking of his mother with not an ambitious bone in his body and that I am better and always will be.. part of me wants to tell him off because I never have defended myself?/ answers insight please!!
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