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  1. Thanks for the advice everyone! (ves, I met her on Friday night so seeing as how it's sunday, I think I will give her a ring and talk to her, not her voicemail. Good call friscodj!
  2. So the other night I went to a local pub with a group of friends. It was my birthday bash (birthday was on Wednesday, just turned 24...getting old!) and I wanted to sing karaoke. It was a first for me and I was DAMN nervous! Things went well though, and it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be! Anywho, about 2 singers before me there was this girl who went up and she had an absolutely amazing voice! Sounded just like Patsy Cline...I was really impressed. Well after I finished my song, all the seats at my table were taken, so I seated myself down at her table. I mentioned how much I liked her singing and we struck up a conversation...turns out we had a lot in common! Things went pretty damn well I thought and we exchanged numbers. We also made plans to meet up at a club a little later. Ended up at the club shortly thereafter. It was a pretty dead scene but I sat with my friends and had a few drinks. Eventually she showed up and she sat down with me and my friends. Again, the conversation flowed easily...really felt comfortable talking to her. And I was picking up signs that she seemed to be interested in me. Anyways, we left after staying at the club for a bit...like I said, it was dead and she had to work the next day anyways. So we said goodbye and told her that I'd give her a call sometime. My question is...when should I think about calling her to setup a date to go out for coffee or whatnot? I actually jumped the gun and called her not 5 minutes but I got her voice mail...my heart was pounding and I didn't know what to do, so I didn't leave a message! But yea, what do y'all think? Should I call again a bit later and see if she answers or should I wait a few days? It's been a while since I've been in the dating scene and I really don't know what to do! Any advice would be appreciated!
  3. Certainly doesn't sound like a close friend to me. But I would say let her be the one to initiate things. I know I've had the same situation occur with my best guy friend...and, while we're not as close as we used to be, we're still friends. Problem with him is that he's usually too involved in his own "life" to call me or ask me to do something, so it always has to be me that calls. If I don't call for a while things just sorta...drop off. I'd say, if you are really wanting to save the friendship, you sit down and talk with her as jna35 mentioned. If she gets all uppity and starts an argument...well, then it's pretty clear she isn't keen on talking about it. Perhaps time to just let her go and hang with your other friends? She'll come around eventually I'm sure.
  4. Yea, thats how I'm feeling as well...I think I may just do that. I've been flirting it up lately with some cute ladies...I should just go for it now...stop waiting around.
  5. Yea, it almost seems like it would be worth it to do some NC... I mean, I feel like everytime I ask her to do something that I'm imposing on her and her time. And she hasn't once been the one to ask me to do anything...perhaps thats another reason why I'm wondering what the heck I'm doing. I think I'll take your advice and just let her ask me to do something...I'm not going to bother anymore and honestly, I'm going to go ask some other girls and see what they want to do. I may only be 23 and have many years ahead of me...but I also want to spend time with someone and have fun...whether it be by ourselves or with friends...with this girl it doesn't seem like she WANTS to spend any time with me. *shrugs* I just don't know...but I'm going to go with some NC for now. I won't ignore her, but I'm not going to actively ask her to do anything anymore.
  6. So it's been about 3 weeks since this girl and I had gone out. We work together so I see her everyday at work. We've hung out maybe...I don't know, 6-7 times outside of work. She has come over one night to cook me dinner and such. Last week she was on vacation at a festival and got back on Monday. Since then I really haven't seen much of her or got to spend any time with her. Yesterday she left work in a rush as there was a family emergency (I believe there was a death in the family). I've told her many times before that if she ever needs to talk that she can call me and she's said 'I know, but I don't need to talk about things' I havn't talked to her since she left work yesterday...but I've been thinking ever since she left last week for her trip...what am I doing with my time? Ever since she said 'take things slow' I feel like things have been going backwards rather than forwards. I said that I wanted to take it slow as well..but I find as each day passes I'm getting more and more antsy. I realize that after 3 weeks your not going to be madly in love...but I expect some closeness, some sort of emotion. I feel like I'm just one of her many male friends, perhaps with a bit more attention. I'm a very loving guy and I want to be loved. I want to cuddle and I want to feel like my heart is on fire. But things just feel like they always have...my life feels the same. I don't know...perhaps I'm just making a big deal out of things...but I am honestly looking at other potentials because I feel like I am unappreciated and unwanted. I don't know what to think or do. I need advice.
  7. I was under the impression that, while sex was a large part of Tantra, it was really the discovery of becoming whole. From what I have read so far, it is a matter of changing ones self to no longer say no but to say yes. It reduces conflict and allows ones self to 'go with the flow', reduce conflict. However, I'm no expert hence my desire to learn more. Although interested in Tantra, I'm really interested in anything that will expand my consciousness and level of understanding about what we are and who I am.
  8. All my life I've been somewhat spiritual...I've never followed a particular path when it comes to religion, but I've always been intriqued by it. Recently I've been starting to read more about Tantra (not the Westernized sexual aspect of it) and meditation. I've found a couple books on ebay in regards to Tantra but I am really interested in finding out more about meditation and self-hypnosis. I want to be able to find out more about these thoroughly intriquing subjects, but I need suggestions as to what books I should be seeking out. Does anyone have any experience with these topics and have any suggestions to where I should look? I prefer books as opposed to online resources, but if you know of any websites that are informative, please let me know. Thanks!
  9. Yes, actually they have fully transparent braces now...I can't remember what they are made out of though. But I still like the metal ones...just too cute and sexy to not notice
  10. Ok, so tonight when I came home I had a HUGE argument with my so called "property manager". I own an apartment which is part of a strata lot. Included with the lot is a parking stall, which I havn't been using since I havn't had a licensed car for about 5 months Tonight I come home and one of HIS vehicles was parked in my spot. A little back story, this guy has been on my case ever since I've moved into my place (which was in May of 2003). I havn't had any complaints from any of the other residents (which are mostly renters, I am one of the few owners in the complex actually living here) but he has hounded me for various things over the past two years. Recently he complained about my visitors coming and going out of the parking lot, they were too LOUD and they parked in my stall. I got them to quiet down and they now park in visitors parking, but him and I had an argument about that. Anyways, I really laid into him tonight, stating facts from the bylaws for the Strata and such. I know I had him because he hesitated on several occasions when I asked him for proof of this and that. Needless to say, I have drafted up a letter which I am contemplating on sending to the council or to the city, but I'm not sure where to go from here. Is anyone here from BC and/or familiar with the strata laws of this area? I'm going to talk to some friends at the city tomorrow and also call the Strata offices in the morning, but right now I am just fumming and I need to release some pent up aggression. Just tired of this [censored] pushing me around...anyone here a lawyer? I have posted the letter I drafted up below. It's a real quick draft but gives the jist of what happened. ============================================== July 14th 2005 Jordan Friesen, Owner XX-XXXXX XXXXXXXX Drive Chilliwack, BC X0X 0X0 To the Strata Council (or whom it may concern), On the above date, July 14th of 2005, at approximately 9:15PM I arrived home from the Rosedale area of Chilliwack, BC. I arrived at the complex, located at XXXXXXXXX, and found a vehicle, other than my own, parked in my designed parking stall. Upon visual identification, the vehicle was that of Gary or Gail Dressen, Gary being the 'Agent for the Owners' of the Strata complexs located at XXXXXXX and XXXXXXXXX. When I politely asked for the vehicle to be removed from my spot, in accordance with strata bylaw 4.3(Y) under "Strata Plan LMS 528", he offered to remove the vehicle. Upon returning with his keys, he stated to me that the parking stalls were not property of the owners but were rather common property and I had no rights to my parking stall. On the first page of "Rules and Regulations for Owners/Residents of McIntosh Place - LMS 528" item 4 specifically states "One parking stall is assigned to each unit upon receipt of a copy of the vehicle registration." Since the vehicle parked in my stall was not legally registered to me, the vehicle was thereby in breach of the Strata bylaws and subject to be towed. Upon repeated requests to move the vehicle from my stall, Mr.Dressen refused and asked for the registration of the vehicle I was driving. I did not provide said registration as I have not once been asked for it for any of the other vehicles I've owned (which totalled five vehicles in all). When I asked why I was now obliged to provide this information when I had never previously been asked, his response was 'Courtesy'. When I asked if any other owners/residents had provided their vehicle registration, Mr. Dressen said that he did not have their registration but could provide them. When I inquired further he replied that he did not have any copies currently. As I did not desire to provide my registration until I was satisfied that all owners/residents had also provided their vehicle registrations, I was forced to park my vehicle in the vistor parking area. I would like to bring this matter forward to the Council and know what can be done to ensure that all owners/residents can follow the rules and not have to deal with such conflicts. Sincerely, Jordan C. Friesen Owner of Strata lot XX at XXXXX XXXXXXXX Drive Chilliwack, BC X0X 0X0
  11. I had always wondered about that 'locking up' myth...thanks for breaking that one wide open Where I went for my braces (which I ended up having for my last year of high school...ugh) one of the receptionists had them, and I would say she was in her mid to late 20s. She was a pretty woman, but with the braces it totally gave her this real innocent, girlish look. I guess thats what it is that does it for me...almost provides the wearer with a bit of youthfulness. While I had mine on, I really wasn't that self conscious of them...of course, I was far more shy back then than I am now...but still...a very cute look Kookie: How long did you have them on for?
  12. I saw a girl at work today with braces and suddenly remembered how sexy I find them! It's been a while since I've seen a woman with braces, mostly because you get them when you are younger, but I have seen the odd older person with braces. I don't know what it is about them, perhaps it makes the person that much more 'innocent' than without them. What are everyone elses thoughts? Has anyone ever made out with someone with braces? Has anyone ever done that while you ALSO had braces?
  13. I don't usually take them off...unless it gets REALLY crazy then I will since I don't want to break them. But if it's just little kisses here and there, it's bo big deal.
  14. It is very rude and degrading to honest nice guys who's every thought isn't about sex...but it's an article and one that you don't have to take to heart. I can say that for a long time I've been the shy, nice guy but have been working on it the last while. But even being the shy, nice guy I've had girlfriends and such before...perhaps not anything overly successful...but still. Not really an article I enjoyed reading or will care to read again.
  15. Never! None of us are doomed to be single forever...and if anyone is, it's certianly more me than you Do like Derek said and go outside your normal circle of friends. While a little overwhelming at first...if you've got a good personality (and working in a bar, I'd assume you're good at interacting with people) you shouldn't have any trouble meeting new folks and making new friends. That doesn't mean you have to ditch your old friends, but just find some fun activities to do if your tired of the same ol stuff. Go to your local YMCA or community centre and see what activities they have going on in the summer...there is usually something interesting to do there and pleanty of opportunities to meet new people!
  16. The age difference is definitely a contributing factor to the issues you two are experiencing. At your age, much as BellaDonna said, you are just beginning to find out about yourself and about life. I think back to when I was 19 and how I am now and know that I am a completely different person. At 29 I'm sure I'll be even more different and have a different world perspective than I do now. I generally don't view relationships with such a large age gap as possible because the people are just at different points in their life and have different priorities (especially when one person has kids, a HUGE responsibility). I'm just a little suspect of your situation since you said he was saying he 'loved' you the first time you met...doesn't that seem odd to you? And the fact that he isn't even divorced yet from his wife is another factor that worries me...there could always be the possibility that he could get back together with her and you end up with a broken heart. My advice would be to let him go and find someone who is ready for what he has planned in life...you are young and have many more years of flirting and dating ahead of you. you don't need to get tied down to the first charming guy who comes along. Just my $0.2
  17. Well I can certianly relate as to the being single part and the difficulty in finding someone. I too have tried the singles websites and found them to be nothing more than a glorified meat market. Great if you want a one night stand, but if you're looking for something with a little more substance, it's best to look elsewhere. As for where to find and meet people...I can't really say. you mentioned you work as a bartender, but I can see your reluctance in dating anyone who frequents the place (that would just be too awkward). Why not go out with friends one night and just cruise different bars/pubs for some guys. I know you generally won't meet upstanding guys in those places, but you'd be surprised. And for a woman to walk over and start chatting a guy up...a very attractive quality...so if you see someone who is 'cute'...GO FOR IT! EDIT: Oh yes, and I almost forgot...there is NOTHING wrong with you. You aren't being picky or snobish or anything like that. I also have problems finding someone compatible...it just takes time to find that right person. And then it takes even MORE time to see if they truly are the right person.
  18. From a male perspective, you can't (usually) have such an intimate relationship and then, even after expressing to him that you love him, want to remain friends. It just doesn't work that way on our ends. As much as us men get the rep of being unemotional, we are actually quite fragile inside...especially when it comes to love. I also agree with SadnConfused...you can spend your entire LIFE second guessing yourself and wondering 'what if'. If you wern't prepared for a serious relationship then why did you begin one? It's quite obvious that you have feelings for him...why not just go for it? It may last forever, it may not. you are still very young and have many many years ahead of you. Believe me, you are not going to be missing out on anything by having a relationship with him...in fact, you may be missing out on something if you don't!
  19. I don't think it's something that sound be brought up at all. I honestly don't care for the taste of a womans fluids, but on occasion I have changed my mind. I mostly enjoy doing it becuase I like making my partner feel good...I've always been who enjoys providing pleasure a little more than receiving it
  20. So if any of you had read my last post ( link removed ) you'll know that my current girl wants to take things slow. You all helped me to put things into perspective and I'm cool with taking it slow. But the one thing I'm not sure on is physical contact. Ever since we (or rather, she told me) 'took it slow' I've been quite hesitant to cuddle with her or give her a kiss. Before we would cuddle on the couch (she would usually cuddle up to me) and we have kissed before and such. Now I'm just not sure...I'm afraid to put my arm around her strictly because she wanted to take it slow. I'm not sure if that means no physical contact. I'll still touch her, like rub her arm or something and put my hand on her leg when I laugh at something she says...its just...I want to cuddle but I'm not sure if it's the thing to do. I don't think it's a big deal, but perhaps it's a bit more emotional a thing to do at this point where she still wants to get to know me better? Advice?
  21. I just recently started seeing someone whom I work with, and so far things have been OK. There is always that potential conflict incase things don't work out or what not, but if you are both mature adults things should be OK. It really just depends on the person. In my situation, the girl is really nice and we are good friends. If things don't work out I doubt it will be a big deal since you just have to let things go...you can't let it interefere with your work relationship. I did vow that I would never mix work and pleasure again, but now that I've broken that barrier, I would definitely do it again. But you really have to guage the person you are interested in first to get a good idea if there will be conflict or not. Hell, I even have another girl lined up at work if this one doesn't work out. Nice thing about my job is that there is about 1500 people who work here so it provides a nice distance between you and your (potential) significant other.
  22. Well, have you told Brian about the possibility that you are pregnant yet? I think the first priority would be to tell him and see how he feels about it, not your parents. But even before that, go out and get a pregnancy test and take it. I assume that because you are pregnant that you are not using condoms and/or birth control? Although it may be a little late now, it's definitely something you should be considering in the future. Anyways, don't stress out about it. If you take the test and it turns out positive, let Brian know right away. I think it's his right to know since it is his kid. Also, if he is the great guy you portray him to be, I think he will be understanding and supportive. From there you can figure out how to tell your parents and hopefully he will be able to help you through that.
  23. I don't think anyone is truly perfect...and if they think so, they are severely mistaken. We all have our flaws, whether they be physical, emotional or intellectual...but thats what makes us unique and interesting. thereforeeee I would much rather date someone who was imperfect because imperfections add character and make things interesting.
  24. Congratulations for being so strong! I remember reading your other post (I think I commented on it as well) and am happy to hear that you have chosen to ditch this guy and remove him from your life! Changing the locks: excellent idea. Letting him stay at your place for a while: not so excellent. As Dannysgirl said, it would be best to get him out of there immediately. I'd be worried about him trying to act sincere and trying to win you back or trying something more serious...like causing you more bodily harm. He's not your responsibility...he's a big boy, he can find somewhere to stay for a bit. Good luck with your future and keep us updated as to what happens!
  25. Religion has always been something that I've been deeply interested in, although I've never been very religious. In my family we never really went to to church at all...in fact I went to a friends church a few times just for fun and because I was interested. I find that I have a hard time believing in an all powerful being watching over us all the time. But it's also hard to discount some of the things that happen in this world (i.e. "miracles"). I suppose one would say I'm agnostic, but as lillady898 mentioned, I too have taken teachings from many different religions to come up with my own viewpoint on things. One website I regularily visit when I am curious about something is Religious Tolerance (link removed). I find that they are a very good resource to read through if you are interested in a particular religion. For example, after the 9/11 attacks, I was interested to find out more about Islam and Muslims. It's interesting as it is namely a religion of peace and harmony...not warmongering or 'jihad' as the media likes to lead you to believe. If you are questioning what you believe in or what path you want to follow, you may want to check out that site. I find them extremely unbiased, although some have expressed to me that they (the site) are a little harsh on Christianity. I, myself, find this hard to believe as one of the editors is a Christian, but we are all entitled to our own opinions.
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