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  1. Don't overthink it. If it was a yes, she would have said yes. She could change her mind, but it's not likely and she'll let you know if she does. Instead, just try to be her friend.
  2. Congratulations! So far, so good. What is her personality? Does she tend to be on the shy side? Has she had a lot of experience with dating/relationships or is it new to her? Slow and steady wins the race. Go at her pace, making sure she knows you care for her and value her. As long as you keep having a good time together, that's positive. When it's time for a kiss, you'll know. Don't overthink it, go with the flow, and most importantly, have fun.
  3. People who are only friends don't send revealing pictures to you. They respect your boundaries and your relationship. As usual, honesty is the best policy. Make it clear that you value her friendship but that certain behavior is not acceptable. Regardless of her feelings for you, the behavior can't continue as it will only hurt your friendship and could end up hurting your girlfriend. Better to settle it now.
  4. How close is your friendship with the first guy? If you've left left things awkward, then yes, it would not be wise to ask him to help you get in touch with his friend. It could lead to hurt feelings on his part and could make him feel used. However, if you are on good terms and he is the kind of guy who understands that you simply didn't work out and has no problem with how things ended up, then why not ask? There are plenty of good people out there who would be fine with helping two friends connect. I would have no problem doing so for my friends. Because, in the end, all I would want is for them to be happy.
  5. Exactly. Try not to turn this into a cycle of wondering does she like me. Don't try to "sus her out." You'll only serve to drive yourself crazy. Just be you and have fun with her. Be open and honest with her and with yourself. Follow your gut and follow your heart. It tends to know what is best, even if we don't realize it or don't like what it's telling us. Best of luck to you.
  6. Age is a number, that's all. Six years can be a lot, or it can be nothing. I've known people in their 30's and 40's who were immature. I've know 21 and even 12 year olds who were wise and mature beyond their years. What counts is how well you get along and if you enjoy each others company. Life has presented you a doorway, step through and see what happens. Better to take the chance, then spend a lifetime wondering what could have been.
  7. "We are the music makers, and we are the dreamers of dreams." "A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest men." "So shines a good deed in a weary world." Wily Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
  8. Uh.... still waiting? Sex brings up a whole lot of issues to a relationship. It ups the ante not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually as well. There is no time table, no deadline. It should be done when the time is right for both sides. If your partner cares, they will understand. Once it is right, you'll know.
  9. I don't belong in the world either. I feel I was born in the wrong time, to the wrong family, on the wrong planet. But maybe the ones who don't belong, are the ones the world need? Maybe those who think differently, have gone through struggles, who feel isolated, maybe we have something within us that has allowed us to survive? Something that makes us strong? Some light within us that we can shine and use to make the world a better place? Don't allow a fortune teller to dictate your thoughts. Be your own fortune maker and take charge of your own life. It's never to late to change your circumstance. If you are unhappy with a job, find a new one. Find something you enjoy doing, something that you love and that makes you happy. You deserve to be happy. Whatever things that you have dealt with in the past, don't let them define you. You are strong and you have come out on the other side. You can't change the past but you can learn from it and use it to build a better future. If you need to work though things, find someone to talk to. Not all doctors are bad, most are good. I wish you the best.
  10. Game playing doesn't work. It leaves people hurt and upset. Would you feel good about yourself if you knew your actions left someone in tears? How can you do that to someone you claim to care about? How would you feel if they did that to you? And eventually, those tears turn to anger and the person will realize they are better without you. Besides, if you like someone, wouldn't you want to spend more time with them, not less? A key to any relationship is communication. It can be good to have time apart, but you should always keep that communication open. If you have to be aware for a long period of time, find time to talk each day. Your relationship will be better for it.
  11. FenixReborn


    Love vs Family Are you willing to risk her potentially not having that relationship with her family? Are you sure that whatever you have between you is strong and will last? If it's true love, I'm all for going for it no matter who opposes. But we aware of the risks and know what you are asking her to possibly be giving up.
  12. You need to look at what you want in a company and if you feel like you are getting or are likely to get it with the company you are at. Some companies are great at promoting from within and recognizing when they have a valuable employee. They will encourage you and help you in your career. Other companies provide little room for growth. Of course it's always easier to settle and stay where you are. But is that what you want? Ideally, you would want to find a place you are comfortable with, people you like, and where you can develop and grow personally and professionally. If you aren't getting that, it's best to move on. That's no guarantee another place will be better. I'm currently at a place that sounded great at first but has proven time and time again that it's not what was advertised. But I can say with firsthand experience, if you are not happy with you're current circumstance, don't stay any longer then you have to.
  13. funkyzoom, First thing is to understand that there is nothing wrong with you and to not beat yourself up over it. I know, that's easier said then done. Also know that you're not alone. I'm 37 and a virgin with little that could be considered a real relationship. And it's not about looks, financial situation, confidence, or anything like that. It's simply never the right time or match. I've been depressed, I've questioned why me. I looked up what people had to say about this recently and found that more people then you would think wait this long and longer before finding love, men and women. And plenty of woman have no problem with it. I've even been told that it's sweet and romantic. So don't give up, you're pot of gold is out there somewhere. The key is to not let the negative thoughts overwhelm and to instead focus on the good. Be you and do what you enjoy. You have to be okay with yourself and happy living your own life. When you are doing what you love, you can be your true, authentic self and the light that is within you will naturally shine. You'll be more likely to find someone who likes you for you and with whom you have something in common with. And even if you don't, you'll be having to much fun to care. Yes, there will be down days where you doubt yourself again, but they will pass. Always remember you are a good person who deserves love, most of all from you.
  14. What do you want out of this? A relationship? If she is interested in someone else, that is not likely to happen. So you need to figure out if you okay with just being friends with her. If you are, then be friendly and keep in touch with her as you would anyone else. There's no need to avoid her or cut off contact, you might be missing out on a great friendship and some wonderful times and memories. Be you and be nice. Nature will take it from there.
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