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i am going through the same thing too ... its been 4 months since my gf broke up with me for somebody else ... i tried my best to keep myself busy with a lot of stuff but there is that deep sense of loneliness in me ... almost everyday ... i know that we have to go through this like what Blueyes as we go through the healing part ... i agree that it really sucks when the loneliness is there ... even when i am partying out with my friends ... i hope that one day this will all be alright ... I wish you folks the best in this journey ...

i have also come to ask the question "why" ... the reality behind is that the ex never loved us enough to stay .. eventhough how much we have loved them and given much to the relationship to work. True enough said that their action of breaking up with us and moving on right away with someone else has been planned all along before the breakup. The break up was just the right time for them to get over the fence which they see the grass as much greener ... it is a sad reality but indeed i believe ... going through the process right now ... answering to the question why ... well They just never loved us enough to stay around ... but hang in there .... and good luck

hi webchick ... that's really great. I am glad you got a new bike. I suggest you really make time and ride the bike. It helps a lot. I got into mountainbiking before my ex left me 2 months ago ... but after breaking up with me, i found my therapy to go through the day by riding my bike. It really helps to get things off your mind. Although i am still in the process of picking up the pieces and getting my self together. keep it up and hope things will be better for you soon.

things would definitely remind us of our ex ... my ex broke up with me 2 months ago and still there are a lot of things that triggers and reminds me of her ... i dont know how i would get over this ... but on the other hand, too ... i do wonder if ever she thinks about me ... after our breakup, there was no effort on her part to get in touch ... i also in turn had to go NC ... hang in there and things will be brighter ... i hope soon ..

i think its normal to have dreams of your ex at this point in time ... i do have dreams of HER ... and lately i have nightmares of THEM ... i find myself waking up at 3am in the morning and really find it hard to go back to sleep ... i dont know about contacting your ex ... i would second the advice on writing it down in a journal or share to your friend(s) about it ... i dont know what the result might be if you contact your ex ...

true to what others said .... "its me or him" and this situation is indeed leading into a wrong direction ... it doesnt matter whether its your ex or somebody else but the fact remains that in LDR, trust and communication is something that has to be emphasized ... If there is a sense of guilt in your heart with your actions, there is definitely something wrong ... stay on the right track girl before things get out of control ...

Cari, i am also in a similar situation with you ... my gf of almost 4 years broke up with me a month ago with reasons i still can't understand ... until later i found she was falling in love with someone else .... She left me with nothing to look forward to anymore ... we had plans for the future but these plans will never materialize anymore ... I know how difficult it is ... i always think of her ... i keep asking the quesion: why .... i am still at total lost myself ... work output has been crap this past weeks ... i cant sleep right, i started having nightmares ... I agree that venting out what you feel to friends and family really helps and they too can help you get grounded back to the reality ... although painful the reality maybe but we have to get a grip of our lives again ... i know it will take time but this time there is only one person that we need to think about ... ourselves ... This site has been a great help for me so far ... i know you will be able to go through this ... be strong Cari ...

i understand the feeling ... my gf also broke up with me and i was caught off guard ... she suddenly breaks up because she doesnt feel the same way for me and after a week she is seeing someone else ... i understand the loneliness ... i too dont know how to deal with it ... i am somehow lucky to have found this site ... venting it out through this site really helps ... it is somehow helping me cope up with the situation ... but it is really hard to face loneliness headon ... but i have no choice but to go through it ... thanks guys and gals for helping one way or the other ....

i too wish that i could also make this alright for me to feel better but somehow i dont feel alright ... i totally lost myself when she broke up with me a month ago ... i am at a total lost ... i dread night times ... its the time when the world is still and quiet and you listen to your heart ... and it drives me crazy .. i do miss my gf so much and i really love her so much but she left me with nothing to look forward to anymore ... i do agree that somehow exercise helps ... i was a recreational mountainbiker before the breakup but right now i have really gotten really serious with the sport and whenever i feel the loneliness setting in .. i ride and hit the trails no matter what the time is ... but it is really difficult cause life has lost its sense of direction ... i know that we should find ourselves again and try to move on .... but its really hard ...

i am also going through the same situation ... i had a great 4 year relationship with my gf ... amidst the distance, we were able to share love for four years then as i was about to pack up my things and transfer where she was to finally be with her ... she suddenly reveals to me to postpone my plans because she doesnt feel the same way anymore for me ... then she broke up with me and only to find out a week after she breaks up with me ... she is seeing her officemate ... all our plans and dreams flush down the drain ... fast forward ... its been a month since we broke up ... but still i am having a hard time getting over her ... i love her so much that i really find it hard to move on ... although i know deep down i was left with no choice and with nothing to look back to ...but move on with life without her ... i am on an NC with her and it kills me ... it really is hard ... i believe that time will heal all that we are going through but right now i really dont know ... it really is very hard for me ... i know we will overcome this .... it was really a blessing finding this site on the net ... somehow it is helping me but i really am having a hard time getting over her ...