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  1. I'm taking a step out of this forum for a while. I'm finding there are too many people passing judgment, acting in a hostile and unpleasant manner. Thanks for all the input. Take care, everyone.
  2. I agree with the first sentence. I am very confused as how to handle her, or what to do at times. I don't have a 'hero narrative', and that kind of remark is very judgmental.
  3. Hi WaywardKiwi, The only way a person can be legally sectioned in the UK is by complying with the sectioning provisions of the Mental Health Act 1983. There is quiet a procedure involved, and a psychiatrist needs to offer an opinion. Often people don't announce their plans for self-harm, and things are even more precarious now due to COVID-19. I really wish she would get some care and treatment for her impulsive and erratic behaviour, as it is profoundly disturbing. I don't think she will, though, as I think she believes if anyone doesn't approve of her behaviour then that is their probl
  4. Thanks for the input. I think you're in danger of trying to do a bit of mind reading there though.
  5. I don't think she is fully capable of dealing with her issues. She needs mental health treatment, but she's definitely not getting it. Yes, I'm making a choice out of compassion, and because she has some good qualities. If one looks for perfect, one is going to look forever. Her unreasonable behaviour usually carries a consequence. In this case, she lost money, had to make a 4 hour round trip and probably had an unpleasant birthday. I've also told her how I feel about her tantrums, and I'm sure she has worked out that I ended the romantic side of the relationship because of it. At least
  6. Possibly, but I'm not avoiding my problems. I am engaging fully with my therapist.
  7. I don't think it is appropriate to try and frame all this like it is a massage of my ego or an ego trip. It's a case of compassion and emotional entanglement. Yes, she was surviving, but the quality of her life was very poor. People need human contact and understanding. It also might be the final straw, so to speak, for her if I completely abandon her.
  8. I think that my drive her to suicide, so I've tried to be as gentle with her as I can. She has already said that if it wasn't for me she would end her days (she used those words). She doesn't have any other friends nor family members that she is in touch with. She has fallen out with her mother and two sisters.
  9. Yes, that's why I said I would rather keep things platonic. I think it is compassion and acceptance. The world would be a better place with more of that.
  10. Nope, you presume wrong. There is definitely no sexual activity, and her even mentioning it makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't accept the 2nd last sentence, but thank you for the input. Her behaviour is not normal, as she can't blame me for that. She clearly has mental health problems that relate to a time long before she met me.
  11. Talk about a roasting... As alluded to above, things aren't always that simple, and black and white. You have overlooked all her positive qualities etc. I don't know what Wiseman ha said because he is on my ignore list.
  12. That's a matter of opinion. Things are certainly less dramatic than they were, and there are times I am quite happy with the state of affairs. I think you may be 'splitting' there, as things aren't always that black and white. This poor woman is extremely lonely and isolated. It will really damage her if I just cut all ties.
  13. I'm still not convinced blocking her and just ignoring her forever is the way to go.
  14. That's not exactly what I wanted to hear.
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