Sweetie_Splash

I Dont know what to do in this situation, it turns out that 2 of my friends and myself all like the same guy, my one friend is like "NO,I'd never get with him" but she thinks he's cute and what not.My other friend has proposed a bit of a competition with me and that bothers me because I'll just let her sort of take the spotlight but I want to get some sort of revenge.. ..I want to further my relationship with him in a more one on one kind of way so that if she tries to show out for him it'll be like he's looking at her but thinking of me . . Any advice please feel free to comment.

I've been dating my friends cousin now for a while now and I've always had these feelings that I wanted to be alone with him to ..you know, well I dont know how to tell him that i want to go do something and how do i let her know without just saying it... Another problem is that he just recently was given a perfect opportunity to cheat on me but he didnt and he told his cousin who told me that I popped in his head and he's not the one to go soft like that . . I dont know how to take that it's kind of a mixed thing but now i think that he and others were just thinking i wanted to raise the bar because of that incident when really I just know what I want and that is to do the grown folk thing lol . . I just dont know what move to make or what to say with him I cant be too soft because he's not that kind of guy . .Please help!

I've been talking to this guy for a couple months now (since at least january) well he and I started talking and almost getting into some serious things . .then i find out he has a girlfriend, however he's not in love with her and considers leaving her, well like i was saying we were talking about doing some rather intimate things with each other, weeks later when he pretty much tried to put me on the spot; i declined his invitation to become more intimate and later that week (a Friday night). I was texting him about a situation with another girl that he supposedly is in love with and used to stalk and he told me that after that night (of rejected intimacies) he was going to just cut me off. . .( what the heck is that) . . So i was upset for a day or so until Sunday. We work together on that day so i just played it off like he was nothing. I really wanted to make him want me. . so, ever since then every sunday i just treat him like he's a good friend, i dont bring up anything that happened between us . .like a faded memory. . so time goes on it's getting closer to march and my birthday. .he keeps flirting, saying little sexually suggestive things over the headsets we wear and so forth all the while I'm thinkin is he going to want to meet up again in the future like we used to or try something?? .. Well my birthday approaches and he tells me that i need to come over to his house at a certain time to get a 'card' that he got for me, I didnt go. .but out of the kindness of his heart he brought the card to me the following day at work . . I just wonder if he's trying to ease back in or clear up what he said, because he said it quite harshly. or is he just wanting a friendship. . . . . just curious because if i said i was going to cut someone off . . i wouldnt talk to them, text them, nothing . .i'd be done. .

I'll just jump right into this. .well i've been "dating" this guy i met on the net for like a year now . .we've known of each other for 3 or 4 years. Well nowadays he gets on my nerves he's so sensitive and gets offended over little things to the point where he'll go cry (seriously). . well it's just really annoying lately . .and he is always talking about getting married and having kids . . i just laugh like it's a joke because i'm soo young and not even thinking about that . .Sometimes i feel like just "breaking up with him" because in all actuality i never had intentions on taking this cyber relationship seriously . . i mean some of the things he takes so seriously i just laugh at and i dont know if i should just break it off or just let myself cool off from whatever it is i'm going through. ..

Should i tape it to the front of the bag . .lol . . I havent seen him yet, this week but hopefully i will on the weekend. .so there's still room for ideas. .

that's a great idea actually i never thought of that

Here's the deal. I first saw this guy when he worked at Family Dollar (lol) I always thought he was cute and stuff. .so now I see him at my work,in the drive thru, he's always smiling and acts like he's nervous or something . .well the problem is I dont know how i should go about getting him number? I know i should just ask but i want to be casual about it . . but i dont know any thoughts would help. . Thanx

Well I might as well tell the situation. This guy I'll call J, a while back I was just kidding around saying that i would love him forever and blah blah. .he knew i was just kidding b/c i didnt know him a whole lot then, but then he was saying he was wondering what a relationship would be like with me and basically he got on this kick that he wanted to be with me. So we started meeting up and spending time together (I dont know if u would call those dates) but we got close and started talking about sex and how he wanted me to with me and so then (this is recently) I started thinking about it and considering it and then all of a sudden he texts me and is like "i dont know what i was getting into. . .I was just gonna cut u off but i wanted to tell u...blah blah" so i guess now i'm let down because i was considering him to be something and now it's nothing. So now I just act like i didnt care and that we're just friends but really I want him to want me now and i guess jus get revenge on him . .lol . .

I just wonder why in every relationship i seem to get in, well there're not really relationships because I can NEVER get anyone to be with me, but it seems like everytime sometime wants to be with me and we spend time together, I always start to like them even if i didnt before and then when i start considering a relationship or just 'fooling around' with them, some thing happens and they dont like me anymore or something. . I find it weird because I never tell them i like them or am starting to think the things I do. So again I end up disappointed and a little hurt. How should I prevent this from happening in the future?

If you can you should definitely try to see him again . .(not alone, if you're unsure if he's a weirdo) but since you have feelings for him it must be something so take a chance.

We dont kiss out in the open for everyone to see because the customers might be disgusted but we're secluded areas. But yeah there are no rules against kissing in the work place because everyone's a couple there .. But disregard the kissing in the workplace lol . .Do you think i should cut him off . . lol

Lol well we dont really "make out" but we share sum prolonged kisses Lol . . LOl

I wont try to ramble or prolong this I just want advice/opinions. Ok, This guy and myself have been making out like every week at work . .people think we're a couple. .(we're not) but today (saturday) he isnt all flirty and kissy with me. .I got a lil t.o'ed when he hugged this girl and then this guy said basically he was "pimpin". Honestly I saw this as a possible relationship but more of a fling ..I didnt expect anything . . but since the other guy said he was pimping . .I dont want to be the weekend girl anymore.. I dont want him to think he's got me all in love with him and stuff. . . So Should I go into work tomorrow (Sunday, when he is usually wanting me) and be all "dont touch me plz." "no kisses for you, u aint my man boy. (my humps)" Should I be flirty with others and stand offish for the day . or should i just let it go because we aren't together and just stop kissing him and stuff..

Thanks for you tips LostinMyThoughts and Bethany . .i did what you said by letting him do the chasing and it pretty much worked . .I mean we're not together but he was definitely jealous last night at the attention i was giving and recieving from other people last night . .Thanks a bunch

Ok, I like the attention but i do want more . .but i feel like he doesnt like me like that . .enough to be with me . . but then i think it's because he just came out of a relationship where his girlfriend was cheating on him . .but i dont know . . How could i lure him in to see what he thinks without actually asking him . .