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heres the story. boyfriend and i have been dating for about 6 months. we've been going through rough times. i used to trust him completely 100% until last night when he lied to me. and i don't know why he lied. long story short he used to date this girl a long time ago. later on they had an ftf relationship. maybe it might have been at least a year after that ended he hooked up with me. few months ago, hangin out with him, ex girlfriend (who lives in another town) calls him up cryin cuz she broke up with her bf. he said he needed to talk to her, i was over at his place. i said go for it, having compassion for this girl and knowing what breakups are like. they are tough. he talked to her for an hour. i sat in another room watching tv. i didn't even have suspicions. fast forward until last night. hes going out of town. says hes going to visit his kid. he calls buddy up to get some illegal drugs. i can't stand drugs. i asked him if he was doin that stuff. he said no, his friend asked him to get them for him and that he doesn't do it. i asked what friend. he said it was his buddy mike. mikes 'dealer' was out. mentions this in the morning using the term "she". i said ' what are u talking about? thought u were gettin it for mike' he said "oh did i say mike? I meant liz" (the ex) yea flippin right. its a blatant lie. for all i know he could be goin to go party it up and do drugs with his ex. oh. and he said hed call tonite. and he didn't. i figured i would call him tonight and i would hear if he was out partying or not but i ended up going out with my friends and didn't get home until 3am. i had a good time anyways. well i really don't care, i mean i do, i want to trust him, but now because of this lie i don't think i can ever completely trust him again. that hurts.

Hey people - I kinda need some advice on this situation. See, A friend of mine, about 5 months ago told me that she needed space to think and she did not want to talk on the phone anymore. SO I in return, backed off. In the meantime things got really busy and I never called her, partly cuz she didn't WANT me to, and then, Christmas passed by and I still didn't contact her, but I was crazy busy over christmas too, so thats just the way it happened. You know I do feel bad that I didn't even so much as send a card or something, I feel terrible about that. But, at the same time, she kinda pushed me away, and so she wasn't at the top of my priority list this christmas. That and to be honest, I didn't even CELEBRATE Christmas this year, because I was alone, and I just didn't see any point. So now shes all mad at me, she doesn't want to be friends anymore, and thats fine, I can understand that. But now she has gotten to the point of harassing me. She want me to send her some $$ that I owe her, and the thing is I was going to pay her back for this a year ago and she told me to not worry about it, just to repay the favor to someone else one day. Its not even A LOT of money, but its enough I guess. And I can't even dream of sending that kind of money right now. I just don't even have it. I can barely afford to take care of myself. Ya know? So its bothering me. She just keeps harassing me, through email, and i won't be surprised if it turns into phone (thank god i didn't give her my cell #). For instance, I emailed her and told her that at this time i cannot afford to pay it back and she emailed me back and told me that that is bull$$$$. Then i didn't reply for ONE DAY - not even one day, like 16 hours, and she emails me again in all caps telling me i better respond to her emails and stop being so disrespectful - with a pile of other fun words in there too. So I'm just kinda wondering, how should I proceed with this situation. I already sent her an email and warned her that if she continues this harassment that I was gonna block her. I know she is just doing this to be spiteful. And I'm not about to let her walk all over me and push me around the way she has always done in the past. The way she is acting is like we were in highschool again and I'm getting really tired of it. any other ideas??

Ok, I posted about this guy before, link removed That is the post if you wanna read it. So, yea, its getting pretty near the point where something has to happen, mainly because I could be leaving my job soon enough, and then I'd miss out. So anyways, we talk a lot at work, and we flirt a lot, but nothing is really going anywhere... my friend at work keeps saying that we would be sooooooooooo cute together and all this and i can tell he is at least a little bit interested in me because he always asks about me and is interested in things that i'm doing or things i have to say, and just the way we talk to each other is like we really do care about each other. I don't know, but asking him out is kinda hard... because i know i have not much spending money, and i don't think he does either, well, he does, he just likes to save up for bigger things, and so us going out anywhere might be hard. The other thing is that he never goes out to anything with our company events so that never works out. And another thing - I'm not just gonna go ask him out on a 'date' like for coffee or anything. If theres something happening that I am interested in sure I'll invite him to come along but I really don't see going out somewhere just for the point of going on a date. I think I'll ask him if I could see all his music equipment stuff because we are both musicians and that is something kinda cool we could do, i dunno what do u guys think.

just be careful with this. Losing weight is a good thing and all, but some people take it too far. Exercising is great, really good for you, but DO NOT OVERDO it. I really worry about you in your case because you lost such a big amount of weight in a small amount of time. That is not good for you. I think you should make sure you are eating regularly. My friend got into this exact same thing - it started out iwth her trying to be healthy, exercising and eating healthy, she turned anorexic, and its TOUGH to get out of that. So make sure you are eating lots oK? and with exercising it is GOOD to gain a bit of weight because you gain muscle.. so work on your weights and stuff on top of the cardio. You will be toned and fabulous.

just call, ask how the summer's been, say you want to get together with a bunch of friends and hang out since you've been so crazy busy and now finally have some time.

Theres this guy at work, hes not really that cute, but I think he is cute, he has a great personality, is an awesome guy, and we have so much in common. He always talks with such a gentle voice, and lately he and I have been really flirting. So I"ll give the details just cuz I want someone to analyze the situation to see what they think and what I should do... So, at the beginning he didn't talk much. He is very shy. I didn't say much to him, but we got to working together and talking together and now we could go on for hours and not run out of things to say. He always is happy to see me, happy to be working with me, when we get off at the same time he always asks if he can walk with me cuz (sometimes) he goes the same way home as me. Well, I say about half the time he asks to walk with me, sometimes he just takes off... but now that we are closer, well yea. Ok. So theres that. Then the other day he started showing concern with me because I had this meeting with the managers and he was all asking "are you ok? Is everything ok? I hope you're not in trouble" and i was like "oh no, its just a meeting, everything is fine", and he was like "are you ok though?" and I was like "yea, except for this headache I've had for 3 days". And then he asks me all about my headache and if I'm stressed and why I'm stressed out and sounds really concerned. We flirt a lot, just like making lots of jokes with each other and lots of eye contact, and smiles, and laughing, and he is a great guy. *sigh* Been a good while since I've had a crush like this. Ok, so the problem is, 1) i'm not entirely sure he likes me. 2) Know he won't ask me out cuz he's shy and I'm a big flirt anyways so I flirt with a lot of people but he might not know i'm REALLY into him. 3) I will have to ask him out - so how should i go about doing this, i tried asking him out for drinks after work and he said he can't... i don't think he really drinks, which is why he said no. but there is a couple company events coming out that we can hang out at that MIGHT give me a bit of an in.

Well, I'm not denying the fact that I cheated and Yes it was wrong. Problem is, that I DO kinda like the guy I'm with now, I'm just not ready to commit, and I told him this the minute we started dating that I was gonna see other people and that I wasnt ready for commitment. But, you know after a couple months of dating, we kinda got to the 'where are we gonna go from here', so it was kinda like either we get together exclusively or we break up completely, and at this point i'm STILL not ready for commitment. But, If i break up completely with him - then i feel like i've lost a good guy that could potentially turn into a good boyfriend. Secondly, the guy i cheated with was totally just a fling, i mean it was fun, we were both really drunk and high and it just kinda happened that way is all. I don't want to be with HIM, because I don't think hes willing to wait for me, or will treat me right in the long run. But it was fun.. So, I guess I'd just let u know more details of the situation is all.

So, here's the deal. I'm a young girl (22) and I'm not really ready for any sort of commitment. That being said, I've been seeing this guy for the last couple months, and about a month ago we decided to become boyfriend/girlfriend and not see other people. Hes a nice guy, treats me really well, and would be a good guy to commit to. He lives a few hours away from me but he comes to see me every couple weeks and we generally have a good time. The only problem with this guy is he is constantly lying and making up these outrageous stories. I mean, true, its possible these stories could be true, but i seriously get the feeling they are not. Like he'll make up stories about business contracts or how much money he's made or how he has to work 86 hours straight without going home, I don't know. If you heard some of these stories, they are really questionable. Furthermore, I'm not entirely sure I'm attracted to him - hed be a good guy to raise a family with one day but thats about it. I'm mainly not attracted to him cuz of all these outrageous stories and i just kinda want to be with someone that is honest/hardworking and not so complicated. And hes ALWAYS so serious and analyzing everything all the time -it drives me crazy! Then a couple nights ago a friend of mine came into town and we ended up hooking up and we ended up making out. He is a hottie and he too is not really ready for any sort of commitment so we hit it off good. I feel kinda guilty cuz I 'cheated', but at the same time i keep thinking, well if the other guy is lying to me all the time then why is it so bad that i made out with another guy. Ya know? That and I'm young and now is the time to have fun and mess around a bit. I don't know, I thought I was just having fun and all but now that this guy is gone I miss him soooo much and want him to come back again, which i don't even know if it'll happen cuz hes kinda 'flaky' i guess, so he might come back but who knows when. He seems to like me - but i kinda wonder, because I didn't go all the way with him, is he not going to come back because of that? Oh well. I guess I just needed to get this out, to tell someone, cuz i haven't been able to tell anyone and it drives me crazy. Any input is greatly appreciated.