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  1. This is very strange for me to read this because I have been in a very similar situation, I will hold my hands up and say I was like your husband, I would say I'm leaving, say I was unhappy, leave, come back and so on, although it made me (and your husband now) look very bad I can say from my point of view is although I wasn't happy and the relationship had died as we are only human and we know the whole relationship wasn't bad and that ending things would cause us a huge loss of love and happy memories, I was always told I ended it wrong but I left not having had an affair, will support the kids and even her if she was stuck, what I'm trying to say is it's hard for everyone when things come to an end and your are clearly both going through mixed emotions because at the end of the day this is never the outcome we want. My advice is listen to the other posts as they are very sensible and will help you in the long run. Look after your kids and stay strong, it will get easier!
  2. Hi all, Just in need of a little help I will keep it brief, 12 year relationship ended, 7 months on I'm with a lovely new girl, the problem is I'm finding it difficult to do things with this girl that I did with my Ex , for example... Watching tv shows I used to watch, The idea of going on holiday, Eating in the same restaurants, Family gatherings etc Just keeps bringing memories up! I'm not used to being out of a long term relationship so just wondering if anyone had been in a similar situation and what seemed to help you? Thanks in advance
  3. Thank you for all taking the time to reply I have read all your messages. My previous relationship felt like it had been over for far longer than it actually had I was living a very single life, I suppose I feel lots of guilt that I took the decision and hurt someone that I really didn't want to! Also as I had money and she didn't I paid to go to the places so I feel again guilty that I have taken that away from her.
  4. Hi all I had to end my 12 year relationship 6 months a go, I now have a lovely girlfriend but I can't help but miss the things and places from my past with my ex, my new girl wants to visit some places I went with my ex but I just feel like I cant go? Any ideas Much appreciated
  5. Thank you! Regards children it was more the fact I didn't have the choice rather than really wanting them if that makes sense
  6. Thanks guys it making a huge difference reading these replies 😃 Update the last few days when sleeping I have been dreaming about the things I disliked in the relationship which is crazy as my conscious self doesn't!
  7. Thank you for your quick replies it's so nice to hear from people other than listening to my head playing games with me all the time!!
  8. Hi all this is my very first post having just signed up, I felt the need to find a nice friendly forum where I hope to get things off my chest and receive some nice friendly advice as I dont have many people in my life. Here goes..... I was with my ex girlfriend for 12 years and we broke up 6 months ago.. It was my decision to end the relationship the reasons for doing it were because I felt we had become more friends than partners.. My partner was 17 years older than me when we met I was 21 and she was 37. We had many great years together but towards the last couple of years I started to feel that the age difference was becoming a problem as I looked at others my age getting married, having children, buying houses together and so on, which in turn made me think as I couldn't have these things with my ex girlfriend due to life circumstances etc. My mental health isn't great but I'm not suicidal.I feel it's the circumstances in which I'm speaking has made me a little unhappy in my head. I have been to councillors and had chats ect and I'm on a small dose of antidepressants. So fast forward 6 months I have found a new girl I have been with for 6 weeks, she is my age with the same goals and needs in life. We get on really well and she spoils me rotten! But here's the crazy problem I keep feeling like I miss my ex (absolutely crazy!) I get a huge amount of guilt how I have hurt her and that she didn't do anything to deserve it. I feel like my mind is playing tricks on me showing me some good times in my mind but not the times where I felt so lonely and unhappy. I feel silly for having to come here for help but as I'm 33 years old maybe I just need guidance as I haven't been through anything like this before? Just wish my mind would agree with me that it was the right thing to do and I have now been given the opportunity for new beginnings with a lovely girl! Thank you for taking the time to read this and any advice big or small is greatly received. Stay safe guys
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