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  1. Do you even read and comprehend? There was no continuation of listening to his infidelities stated. I was told about everything in one shot. As his friend I didn’t even suspect until he dropped those bomb of information. Don’t assume: fact is we didn’t really spoke for almost a year until he told me he stopped stepping out. Strictly need to basis.No flow in conversation. That’s why he didn’t let me know he was being accompanied by a female on the resent trip.he is well aware of what my reaction would be. That’s someone I’ve known almost half my life.held him in high regards , to then in one conversation learn that he is flawed and not what I thought he was. It took a lot of mental work. We grew up under similar circumstances Same background Even as adults we’ve experienced similar struggles So it’s was for us to relate and understood each other no judgment It’s easy for you to say what you would or wouldn’t do I was a loyal friend despite learning of his lack of morality, it’s unfortunate that he turned on me. But I will not be shamed by you What do you mean I’m waiting in the wing? Are you insinuating that I’m waiting to sleep with my friend?! If so,You are wrong! First you claim I didn’t speak up Then it was pointed out to you by someone else that I actually did spoke up Now you claim I didn’t speak up enough because I’m waiting in the wing ( waiting for my turn) Sometimes the person who stand in Judgement have the most skeletons in their closet.
  2. Thank you Skeptic76 and Cherylyn I appreciate those sound advices, i will apply it to my life and attitude going forward
  3. Every one is right in that it may serve me best to not have my friend in my life any more. But it’s a lot of up and down as far as My emotions while I was shocked and disappointed in his decisions as far as cheating because I’ve never seen him as that person, and I’m upset and hurt about the fact he is blaming me wrong fully. The fact is He has been my friend for so many years since we were teens, We talk almost everyday.So it’s hard not to miss our friendship I think I also want closure he never had a conversation with me about the situation apart from the text. And then cut communication. I had to hear from someone else about what happened with his wife and that he thinks it’s me who told. I feel that once I have a conversation and say how I feel, I’ll be alright.
  4. My best friend who is married, has told me about his affairs In details.We talk about any and everything, so he is comfortable telling me these things.I don’t agree with his actions, and have told him what he does is wrong and maybe he need professional help. Recently he stopped talking to me. He went on a trip with one of his male friend and a woman that he has been having an affair with. He had only told me about going with the guy, he never mention the female. After he got back from his trip I called and text multiple times but he never respond to my text nor call me back. Few weeks later I ran into him, he acted strange and didn’t say much. He then later text asking “why did you do it?” I was Clueless, so I asked what he was talking about. He accused me of pretending not to know. About a week ago I found out he accidentally exposed a woman in his room to his wife on video call while on his trip. And that the wife then got details about his affair with the woman. And confronted him after he got home. All of this I didn’t even knew happen. But somehow now my friend thinks that I am the person who told on him. He is the type of person who sometimes don’t take accountability for things but rather look to blame others. I don’t think of him as the one who has gotten betrayed, his wife is the betrayed one. Whatever my feelings are about his actions, I did not told on him, as messed up of a person that he is for all his cheating he also have good ways and we've been friends for a very long time ,we both have been there for each other in some very tough times. It bothers me that he would think I told on him after He confided those things to me. We have a mutual acquaintance who had over heard me talking to him on phone about some of his behavior she later question me about what she heard but I didn’t give any info to her.. I sometimes wonder if it could be her that went to his wife. As well a few people also know of his affair. But I’m the only person who has spoke up to him in the past and let him know he needs to stop. He has now cut communication With me. It’s sad that our friendship is ending this way. I want him to know I did not out him. Any advice on how to go about convincing him is appreciated.
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