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  1. You legit could have worded that a whole lot nicer instead of looking like a
  2. Hi, About a month ago I asked for advice on the best way to get an ex girlfriend back. A couple of weeks ago I then asked for some more advice in regards to blocking my ex. This will be the last bit of advice I ask for. If you are interested you can read back on my 2 previous posts. I'm going to summarize. Basically, me and my ex broke up at the end of January. We spoke quite a bit and near the end of February I asked her to rekindle things which she rejected. Near the end of March I told her that It would be best if I were to block her on social media so I could get over her which she agreed. It's been just over a month and I have unblocked her because I felt a little better about the situation and I felt like seeing her with someone else wouldn't faze me. She's not currently seeing someone else. A small part of me would still like to rekindle things. I know I have gotten a lot of advice which mostly advised to keep her out of my life. I'm looking to see if anyone has some advice in relation to starting a conversation about starting a new relationship. I understand people will advise against this but I guess I'm looking for someone with advice on how to try to fix things with this girl. I really do love her and I haven't stopped. We were together for nearly 2 years and I know she had strong feelings for me.
  3. Hello, About 10/11 days ago, I posted here asking for some advice on the best way to go about trying to make my ex change her mind about not wanting a fresh start. I had blocked her on all social media on the day I first posted on this forum. I didn't block her phone number, so she knew she could contact me if she had changed her mind. If you are interested in the situation that I was in, you can read back over the previous post. The no contact since then has been good and most of the advice I received was very helpful. I've come to the realization that really, I think it's too late to go back and I'm happy with moving on with my life without her. We broke up at the end of January and she hasn't budged so I have accepted it. The advice I'm looking for isn't about trying to start things over. To be honest, I've been good without seeing her social media and it has helped but I'm stuck. I feel like maybe I should unblock her and try to get used to seeing her move on with her life. I'm kind of thinking that, what if I unblock her some time down the line and all of the feelings come back when I see something I don't like? Would it be smart to just get used to seeing her stuff? Not lurking on her activities but just having her there. One of my previous ex's blocked me after we broke up and we haven't re friended online since but that was a few years ago so I'm well over that now. What I'm trying to say is that having an ex blocked out of my life worked for me before but there's a big difference between the two break ups. That difference being, my previous ex and I ended really badly where as I ended on good terms with my most recent ex. Basically I don't know if blocking is the right thing to do this time around. Its hard to talk about with friend's and family because there's so much bigger things going on in the world right now. Any advice would be appreciated.
  4. Your answer just proves my point of specifically asking for your advice. It's the best I've received so all I can really say is thank you.
  5. Wiseman2, I misinterpreted your question. I thought you meant support me emotionally during the pandemic. She didn't support me financially.
  6. To be honest the only explanation I can give for breaking up with her is really that I felt like it's what we both needed. Looking back on it now, It was immature of me to think like that. I wasn't trying to improve on the relationship, I took the easy way out. I'm not proud of it and rightfully so, I'm regretting my decision now. I'm man enough to acknowledge that I am to blame for this all falling down on me. In saying that, do you feel like there is anything I could or should be doing to improve my situation?
  7. Hi boltnrun, thanks for you opinion I appreciate the reply. This is where my situation gets complicated. I want her attention and but at the same time I'm hurt because she seem's to not be taking the break up as badly as I am. I've tried to reconcile twice since the break up. After the first meet up and then the conversation we had before I blocked her. The block wasn't out of spite. I explained why I felt the need to do it. What kind of contact would you recommend if any?
  8. Hello Wiseman2, Thank you for the reply! The breakup was due to a few months of arguments and disagreements here and there which kind of ended up in me neglecting her emotionally and intimately. I did acknowledge these things when I spoke with her in person so she knew that I knew where I went wrong. At this present time though, it didn't seem to be enough. In saying that before I blocked her social media, she did tell me thanks for everything and that she wouldn't have changed the way our relationship was for anything. She also acknowledge that for the most part, we were good to each other. She was supporting when we spoke because she's a caring person. The issue with that was that she didn't initiate any of the conversations. It kind of felt like she just knew that I would start a conversation with her again. I guess that's why I'm going no contact, to help myself heal and so that she know's that I don't intend on speaking with her for the foreseeable future. In saying that, do you feel like no contact could work for me?
  9. Hi MissCanuck, first of all I'd like to thank you for sharing your opinion. Though I respect that what you're saying is a definite possibility, I also disagree with some of the things you mentioned. I didn't initiate the break up because she lost interest, I did it because I did. She reluctantly agreed to have the mutual agreement, so I don't believe she didn't have the same feelings at the end of our relationship. As of now though, I am uncertain. I know this girl and she is extremely honest, sometimes in our relationship a little bit too honest. Sometimes she would tell me things I didn't want to hear that would cause an argument. So I think If she genuinely had lost all feeling for me that she would have told me instead of hiding it. Its not the type of person she is. Also I know for certain she's not dating. When I mentioned blocking her because I'd see things that would annoy me, It wasn't other men. It was seeing her post's of her getting on with her life in general while I felt left behind. I agree that I should be blocking her for myself to heal though. It's a tough time for everybody and the stages of a break up don't make it easier for not just me, but anyone going through my situation. Thanks for taking your time to reply.
  10. Hi Lambert, that was a really eye opening piece of advice so I really appreciate the effort you put into that reply! I agree that I have been letting fear rule over my life understandably because it's a hard situation. I'm going to try my best to stick to this no contact process to help me see things clearly again. Thank you!
  11. Firstly I'd like to say thank you for that reply. Some of the things you said were really comforting to read and I appreciate you taking your time to analyze my situation and respond. For my own sake I felt like I had to do block her. I was checking her social media twice/3 times a day and it was really influencing my mood and killing motivation to do anything when I'd see something I didn't like. I understand what you're saying about the difference in missing someone and wanting them back but metaphorically speaking I feel like I'm at a T junction and I don't know which way to turn. I love this girl. She did so much for me that I didn't appreciate. She had the compassion of a mother, the drive of a lover and she knew me inside & out like a best friend. I wasn't in the right place in my life in terms of my career and I let the agitation of every day life ruin what was a real promising relationship to begin with. I told her that was why the last few months of the relationship were a little negative. Like I said I was her first serious boyfriend but she was my third serious girlfriend. Neither of my previous 2 ex girlfriends had a patch on what she gave me. It wasn't only her though. I hit it off with her family so well, even going on a holiday with them at 1 stage. For a relationship that was just under 2 years, we did so much and it felt so much longer. Though the break up was mutual, I initiated it. Trying to recover from that is difficult and honestly if I had the choice, the only thing I'd recover is our relationship. Instead of the same old relationship with some issues we had, a new relationship without the issue's and a better me. I've been looking up guides online and even went out of my way to pay for relationship coaching session's. The thought of doing that with a difference ex is something I'd have never considered for a moment. But those session's haven't worked for me and if anything have made my situation worse. Just 1 big money grabbing scheme. At the same time of me blocking her on social media to help me move on, I hoped it would make her only remember the good things about me after time and reach out at some point. I'm getting mixed opinions online about if removing yourself from someones life actually makes them miss you after time. Some people say do it, some people say don't. Honestly I've tried keeping myself in her life for the last 2 months and it hasn't worked. I felt like it was make or break for me and I had to go for it. I'm dedicating myself to this no contact rule but I don't know how long I should do it for? Do i just randomly unblock her after a month if she doesn't reach out and I still miss her? I can't just unblock her because it will make me look like I'm not moving on. I agree with you that it is a last ditch jolt to try re spark a romantic connection. There's such bigger thing's going on in the world right now but not having her is my biggest issue. If in case I am in this situation after no contact, do you have any advice for me to follow that could help? Your last piece of advice was brilliant so I would really appreciate your attention.
  12. I was with my ex for over a year and a half. We're both in our early 20's and she told me that I was her first serious relationship. We had a mutual break up at the end of January. For the first week of the break up she kept texting me but since then she hasn't initiated a conversation. We've spoke a few times and met up twice since. The first meet up was for me to try to fix things but it didn't end well. The second meet up was nothing to do with our break up, I needed help with getting into an account that she had set up for me. The few times I spoke with her through text were just to check on her well being or to have a conversation while I was lonely. I realised this wasn't doing me any favours so today, exactly 2 months since our break up, I texted her that it would be best if I blocked her. I was constantly checking her social media and It was driving me mad. Before I blocked her, we had a chat. I told her that with everything going on (covid-19) and currently being out of work and stuck at home that seeing her on social media wasn't helping my situation. She understood. Before I say this I want to give a little bit of background. My ex girlfriend is a nurse so she herself has her hands full with the pandemic. She told me today that because she's been constantly occupied with work and the pandemic that moving on has become a little easier for her than it has for me. In saying that, she also said she was unsure if this was the reason why she hasn't been handling the break up as badly. It doesn't seem right though? I was her first serious relationship and in the most least vain way I can say this, I know for certain that she was in love with me. She told me before I blocked her that she still loves me but she thinks it's as a friend. I feel like maybe that because of how busy she's been that she hasn't really had time to process the break up. I've also been in contact with her at least once a week since we split up and she's been able to keep tabs on me through social media. So my question is: Now that I've blocked her so she can't keep tabs on me and I'm starting full no contact, do you think that this will make her miss me? I also told her that I was doing this to finally move on and to help me find someone new but a small part of me wants her to miss me. I'm stuck between whether she has truly got over me or maybe she hasn't been able to process the emotions yet because of how busy she has been. I also told her that, if sometime in the future she figures that she hasn't taken everything into consideration about starting a new relationship with me, she can contact my phone if I haven't already moved on. I haven't blocked her number for that reason, only social media.
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