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  1. Blocking should never happen, ignoring does happen if someone is angry or upset with certain behaviour especially if they feel that they have been betrayed or lied to. Eight years is a long time, something happen or this has always been the case?
  2. The way to approach a successful relationship is first to see if you can be just friends for 2-years. The idea is to create a foundation where both can fall in love with each other and work out if you are compatible for the next x amount of years. I am sure he likes you, he is always replying to you but if you are getting fed up then that's a red flag for him.
  3. Best relationships are the ones that are usually forged when young but in your case, he wasn't the right one even if you feel the bond is/was very strong. I hope that you will get through this, keep your mind busy.
  4. Depends on how serious the issues are, if there are problems that cannot be resolved then you have to move on. A successful relationship requires sacrifices, a person needs to change and if you don't want to change then you'll be forced to change your partner which just means, you'll end up in the same situation again with someone else instead.
  5. We never die, we leave our bodies behind but the energy inside, some call it souls do not cease to exist. Now, he lives in your memory so keep him alive there as your life will take on a new journey.
  6. Soulmates, it's just an illusion. You think she loved you yet look at the results. A relationship in this day and age breaks even quicker, one day you might find another girl that you like and she will also be classified as a soulmate - it's just a label. Think about what you want, where do you want to be when you are 50, surely not depressed. Try to keep your mind occupied. You should be glad that you didn't marry or have children and be in this situation 15 years later.
  7. Minimising friends are one of the best thing you can do, finding a new friend on the other hand is not easy as everyone gets busy with routines. Some people need to socialise and if that is you then you have to get out first. If you make a wrong friend, it'll hurt both of you. A good friend is very difficult to find, a good friend is someone who promotes your relationship and wishes well for you - find that, then that's a person to keep otherwise continue your life with your partner and know for sure that he is the one.
  8. It will work short term only, it is rare for a relationship work over distance - too many variables.
  9. It's not about being the bigger person, usually majority of the female make up and not the males. He is a male and wants to be protective and it doesn't matter how you view it or what Google says - listen to what he is saying - you pushed him away in this case.
  10. There are two types of categories formed when we talk about family. Primary & Secondary. When you were single without any children, your primary family were your parents and that excludes any siblings that you might have. As soon as you got married, you became a husband and when you have a child then you take on your father's title and your family becomes primary. Both of you should concentrate on your own family, the rest are secondary and your siblings will have their own families.
  11. Majority women are like this, if a man who is confident, is a boss, has money then she will be attracted to him easily regardless how much she says she loves you. It's just how it works, love is only short term and so is passion and romance. The main objective here now is to raise those children with love and take care of yourself.
  12. Some point in your relationship he feels that you have lied, if that has been true then unfortunately it'll just get worse. Even a successful relationship can crumble down on a lie, and the immediate remedy is to be honest all times. People lie, people cheat, but if you are none of those then be straight and if he still does not want you then use the time to move to Plan B.
  13. Now that you are aware, there is no need to confront it yet. It'll only create negative memories. Instead, step up and pull yourself together and work on your marriage where it matters. Do more activities together, walk, talk etc.
  14. It's clear, if he had the same amount of interest as you displayed - he would have taken the opportunity to take it further.
  15. If you are happy with her personality, the way she looks and want success then make sure you delay falling in love with her as long as possible. She has been with someone for 5-years and it was her first love. First loves usually don't last that long so she is connected with him and feels betrayal of what he did. So, if you like her, that's a good start. Just be her friend, support her and don't allow more than holding hands - let her fall in love with you first so she can slowly over come her past.
  16. First there is physical attraction, after that phase you learn to love the person. In your case, you never reached to that point - stuck between like vs. love. It should be a relief that she has moved on and you should not feel the way you do. If you are working, stay in your routine and keep life as simple as possible and hopefully one day you will meet the right person.
  17. He isn't serious about you, if he was - everything would have been open. If you do move on, my advise would be to be friends with the next man and work on friendship for at least 2 years before kissing.
  18. This one is a delicate one, her husband died and I am not sure if that was a long term situation and how strong their love was. For such a woman, waiting 2-years before moving on is a no no but she felt lonely. Her going down on you was not easy, it must have been really difficult and really with her situation - intimacy should have only been holding hands at most. On top, privacy between two people should not be exposed on social media - that's between you two. Her friends have no choice but to look for her best interest. In your case, stick to text messages and just see how it goes, women like her can't be pushed to decide, if you love her - then all you need to do is listen and support and if she falls for you over time, then there you go.
  19. A distance between two people and trying to be in a relationship at the same time is challenging. If you both can't find a way to live together then how can you be closer to each other from far away? Might work for a year or two but as time extends, more new memories are created which are less related to your lives.
  20. Sounds like her priorities are elsewhere, especially her mind - it's not with you. If it was different, you would have known. Better to begin to think where you want to be in 5-years time, same situation but with more heartaches?
  21. Tricky situation, she seems like a good woman but with a lot of experience in life. The father of her son will always be a part of her and this cannot be changed. However, she has spent some time with you, a year isn't a lot if you think about it. Marriage is still soon, especially if both can't communicate openly. This should be highlighted, because after you are married down the road and this subject hasn't been resolved yet then it'll keep resurfacing.
  22. This is something he has done a long time, and he knows exactly how to relief himself the way he wants. Intimacy between partners is very important, talk to him and make Wednesday & Sunday your nights to enjoy each other every week especially if his s-drive is higher than yours.
  23. You shouldn't need to change him, when you met him, you liked the way he was. Of course, if he loved you more than all the other girls he met then you would have known by now. If this relationship has been short, better to cut it loose as you can already see where this is heading. If not this week or month or this year he is leaving a door open for a relationship to build elsewhere.
  24. Very hard situation, clearly his actions are having a great impact on yourself and the kids. He has crossed the line, and staying away 3-months and to give you only £30 and not to love his own children is clearly illogical. What do you think drove him away?
  25. It can happen, if you have you or your partner has not slept with another person then there is a chance. But for this to happen, both need to be on the same page, forgive. Not get into debates about the past.
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