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  1. so I recently posted about trying to get back with an ex and that did not work out, he started dating someone else and I became clingy and wanted a full blown relationship and needless to say I scared him off.... I did tell ya'll that I had a best friend and family as emotional support. Well, I guess the hole left by lack of male attention let me to kind of poke around and put feelers out on him. the best friend. well although I do sincerely care for him, I am cautious in developing romantic feelings for him or more like I do NOT have any romantic feeling for him. although we have been spending tons of time online together sending messages. I can't stomach making a move and then scaring him away. He is the only relationship I have . Im not sure where to meet others, but should I try to develop something further with him>? for instance, for my birthday in 2 weeks I want to go the the beach. He said he would come, I signed up and made a day pass reservation and I plan to go with our without him, but don't you think spending a day together going to the beach...a 2-3 hour drive would maybe cause some kind of emotional romantic spark??? Thanks in advance for your advice. violetstar
  2. Thanks everyone, the advice on here is unbelievably helpful. I can’t thank you enough for taking the time and care to respond to my questions. There has been no communication between me and this man. Suppose it’s for the best.
  3. Thanks Rose Mosse, I collected a bunch of his stuff or anything that reminded me of him, he was orange and I had an orange blanket for him, his water and food bowl, his brush ( he was a long haired cat) other stuff a picture and I put them all in a silver box. I also have his ashes and paw print and picture on the mantle . Oh I really miss him a lot. I guess I think now that I don't have a cat, maybe I am ready for a man to fill that role. My imagination really runs wild , I miss my ex a lot and wonder if he ever thinks about me.
  4. Thanks SophiaG. I only have one best friend, he is a guy. Other than that I only have my mom and sister and dad that I am close to. I work really hard and that is what I like to do with my time, but as for as friends or emotional support, its very small. Im just so depressed and hopeless. I have not contacted him for several days now only texted the other day 2 words hello and caught my self and then said bye. Its just sad , you know you love someone and then you realize they have completely and utterly destroyed you.
  5. hello Dash, I have been in a similar situation of a never-ending relationship, you just have to learn that you have not control except over yourself and your own feelings and the best you can do is live your life the way it makes you happy. move on, be cheerful. love yourself. and Hug yourself everyday even though you are broken and your heart longs for someone that you have had a past with. I moved on and met someone else. I healed with time therapy and everything everyone tells you about, but something always triggers my thoughts and there is always something that reminds me of him. You just live with it after a while. The love of your life, it was a gift . you cannot grab on to it you have to let it go. love, violetstar
  6. hello forum. this is my first post. I was dating a man five years ago. we me online and dated for about 2 months. he said he wanted to take things slow and at the time I was really lonely and clingy and gave him an ultimatum of relationship or nothing. he said no to relationship and we stopped talking. fast forward to last summer, I was recently out of a long term relationship and we started flirting again, I saw on his facebook that he was single. that lasted about 1 month. same thing again. I wanted to take things further, but he is really aloof and sometimes into his hobbies and work and basically on another planet and hard to contact a lot of times. that ended bad, he blocked me on facebook. a few weeks later I apologized for trying to force him and he accepted my apology and the next day said we could be friends if I wanted that. I said ok. The next day he posted that he was in a relationship with someone else. I was truly happy for him. I have not talked to him much, but I was thinking about texting him. He usually texts back. We had AMAZING chemistry. but I understand that he just wanted to be friends. He lives about an hours drive from where I live. Ive been feeling really lonely, my cat just passed and I m just alone and lost. Is it OK, to be his friend and just text him??? Thank you for your advice.
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