So I'm engaged to someone who I've known for over 2 years before we started dating. He has been there for me through a lot. And I recently found out over the summer that he watches gay and trans porn. Not a big deal, I do too. The issue was at the time that we both had agreed to only watch porn together. So I confronted him about it, and we talked and he was I thought 100% honest with me We have since opened up sexual play to include crossdressing, and this has been a fantasy of his for quite some time. We both are very open-minded people in a committed relationship so why not? Recently, however, I found out that he was secretly in trans/gay chatrooms, and hiding the porn which we agreed to watch together if at all. Not only that but he is soliciting nudes from trans, and having group chats on whisper asking if there are older men near by our home. I don't know what to do. I'm very hurt, because I feel like I don't really know this person, and he isn't who he claimed to be. If I'm open to anything, why hide it? I don't know what to do, I love him with all my heart but I can't be with someone who keeps hiding ?