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  1. Her husband is retired and has some mental difficulties which made her want to seek someone to fill the emotional voids in her life. Much like I had done. She tells her husband that she is going with her friend. He never questions her. We have a great connection with each other from the start but this whole Hawaii thing has thrown me for a loop.
  2. She says its not true that she would rather go on vacation with her friends. What am I to believe after pulling the Hawaii stunt?
  3. She doesn't go on trips with husband, family, etc. just friends. She's not having sex with husband or anyone else but me. She send pictures when she is on vacations with her friends so it doesn't appear that she is really going on vacations with other men. I would just like your opinion on why it appears she would rather go to Hawaii with her 75 lb over weight friend instead of me. As it appears to me. I was stunned when she told me she was going to Hawaii with her friend.
  4. We will never marry. Not all relationships need to point in that direction. Yes she is still married and will be. There is no reason to at our ages. Do you think she would really rather go on vacation with her friends as I presented in the Hawaii example?
  5. I shouldn't be surprised. It's just hard to see the forest.
  6. Sorry Camber, responding to Skeptic76 who suggested that.
  7. Yes. She has always done this type of traveling with her friends. Actually, the marriage thing is really not an issue. Can't explain here.
  8. Not really. There are special circumstances with her husband which is irrelevant to this.
  9. I like your "totally drop it now that you've spoken mind." I'll find another way.
  10. I don't know that the feeling is resentment. I'm not sure I can put my finger on it.
  11. We are both older. She 63 and I am 68. We met which led to my divorce from an unhappy marriage. We have a great relationship along with a really great sexual relationship. We text all of the time and talk constantly. Generally we are together a couple days a week if not more. We don't live together. When we have a problem we try to talk it out. I love being with her and she feels the same. Circumstances in both of our lives keep us where we are. She is still married. Of course there are reasons for that which it is not necessary for me to go into. She is very giving to me and constantly brings me food etc. I think we complement each other very well. I never asked her how much she spends on travel but it has to be a considerable amount.
  12. There are some things in your reply to my post that don't really jive with my original post. No discrepancy in socioeconomic status. We have vacationed together but when she's traveling 6 times a year with friends, that doesn't leave a whole lot of room for me. I'm anxious to see if others agree with you. Do you think she would rather vacation with her friends? Thanks
  13. Yes. I guess it does tell me something. It's just hard for me to accept. The other night I told her I was going to step back from this whole vacation thing. She got really upset.
  14. We are, but I'm still bugged by this Hawaii thing. I will never get a chance to go to Hawaii now unless it is with someone else. But now she says she does want to go. (Not with me.)
  15. I can't help but to be hurt after my girlfriend told me she was going to plan a trip to Hawaii with her girlfriend along with other trips (Australia, New Zealand). This is after I had suggested that there were some cheap flights to Hawaii some months back and maybe that was a trip we could consider. She said that she wasn't interested in Hawaii. When I brought that up a few days ago when she told me about about her trip plan to Hawaii with her friend, she said "well, I guess I am". Meaning, I guess I am interested in a Hawaii trip. But she still insists that Hawaii is really not something she was ever interested in. To be fair, she has traveled with her friends for years. She just recently came back from a cruise (not with me). Went to Cancun earlier this year (not with me). We went to Europe earlier this year by the way. She is going to Cancun again in February (Not with me but with a different friend. Not the Hawaii friend). But I still can't help but feel that she would rather travel with her friends. She goes on these, what I would consider should be romantic trips but just not with me. I really don't feel that she is going on romantic trips with her girlfriend but they would be if the trips were us together. I can't help but to feel hurt and I told her so. She said that "does she want me to just stop traveling with her friends?" No, but the whole Hawaii thing has me stressed. It's been a few days now and I can't seem to get over it. We had another conversation about it and I told her I was still upset. She said she didn't know what to do. She didn't want to disappoint her friend. (I guess it was better to disappoint me). I relented and basically said she should go with her friend. We have been seeing each other for 3 years. We don't live together but love our time together. Can anyone help me make sense of this? I just don't know what to feel about this.
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