Soo I met him in like 2010. He was super sweet, we had things in common and nobody has treated me nicer. However I was in my early 20's and very messed up from past experiences. We moved pretty fast and moved in together after a few months. We had some really good times,but in general I was depressed and didn't know how to deal with my issues so I was an awful girlfriend.
I wasn't working, he was, I would sit around all day and I didn't look after the house. I didn't cool for him, I didn't ever really appreciate him or think about him. Hell I could barely look after myself and was neglecting myself, so I couldn't be a good girlfriend or keep a good house. He would work then come back and take care of the house and food etc. I was often moody with him too and just unappreciative and I was jealous and probably somewhat controlling too.
Of course he wasn't perfect, he didn't know how to deal well with emotions but who can blame him mine was scary. But he did really try with me. We lasted like a year or a bit more, then he broke up with me saying he couldn't cope. I obviously took it really really badly and even self harmed. I begged for him back and he was saying sorry I can't do it. I cried and he even cried. He kept in touch with my mum a couple times right afterwards to check on me. But apart from that it was complete NC. I worked on my mental health and moved on slowly.
Then in 2017 he randomly msgs me on Facebook. At the time I wasn't ever even thinking about him and was dealing with ending with an abusive guy. We had random chit chat, but it turned into sexual talk from him which was really out of character for him. He was sending me dirty gifs of boobs and stuff and it was really weird,i was like . I went along with it for a little while then got annoyed and blocked him. That was that. I did see him about a year or maybe a bit more ago, holding hands with a woman. He has crossed my mind now and then the past month and last evening I decided to msg him on Facebook.
Around 10 mins later he accepts request and replies
Me: How are you?
An hour later
Him: Yeah all good, and you?
Me: I'm good. You popped into my mind so though I would say hello :)
Him: :) well hello
By then it was around 10pm and I didn't click on the msg. I replied this morning with just a smile face, so that was about 9 or 10 hrs after his msg. He read it but didn't say anything. A few questions...
Was what I done weird? To randomly msg him like that?
Did I sound too forward saying he popped into my mind? Or did I not say enough?
Do you think there could ever be a chance? Or will I forever be the crazy chick?
I obviously don't know if he's single or if we would ever even work out. The sexual chat before makes me wonder if he's the same person or not. But I would really like that chance to get to know him again and possibly date again. I'm a different person to who I was them years ago, but I know he doesn't know that.
I have also wondered if I should apologise for how I treated him when we were together? Or would that be weird?
I'm assuring I should treat him like a new guy. And if he wants to talk to me he will. So should wait and see if he reaches out, or should I be more proactive? My friend says she's not sure if I should apologise yet, maybe if we get talking more deeper. And she says he might be thinking I literally just wanted to pop and say hello since I didn't keep the convo going? I would love outside perspectives and advice!