Jump to content


  • Posts

  • Joined

l123's Achievements


Rookie (2/14)

  • First Post
  • Conversation Starter
  • Week One Done
  • One Month Later
  • One Year In

Recent Badges



  1. Thank you Rose Mosse. Did you mean if I don't remain cordial? Both! :( No, June has just made me realise what I need to do. Honestly I would love to start something with her - if only to get that feeling back. But i know I must do it the right way. I am not over the top at work. Sometimes I avoid her as well! I am trying to just keep it cool... My wife and I have spoken many times. The cards are on the table. I want it to be amicable but it won’t be. She gets very angry and I am concerned for her. This is part of the reason I have not left yet. When (not if atm) it happens I need to make sure she has loads of support around her. Thank you for your support. I have no-one to talk this through with.
  2. Rose Mosse - You have put this better than I ever could. Thank you. I am not defending my actions and nothing physical has happened but everyone deserves love and to be loved. I haven't got that and I guess I am looking for June to fill that gap. I think they call in an emotional affair. I can hand-on-heart say that I have tried to make things right with my wife but there comes a point where things have to change. June was the catalyst for me realising how I truly felt about my wife. Sometimes you don't even realise the situation you are in... Is June right for me?? It would appear not from the responses in this forum however our one saving grace is that we are both in a similar situation and both decided not to take it to the next level. Some will argue that the level that we have taken it to is too much I am sure...
  3. Thanks All! It's not a game to me. I guess i have a decision to make re my current relationship. We have been married twelve years and it has been tough. I haven't even looked at another women for all that time but it wasn't until I met June and she showed some interest in me that I realised that I no longer loved my wife. If I am going to leave my wife it would be for June. However if June is not interested anymore it makes it harder. The right thing to do is probably leave my wife so that we can both be happy and get on with our live (June or no June)... And yes, i am getting obsessed but I am not a creep and am playing it cool at work - as hard as that is.
  4. True , but don't women want what they can't get? Or do you think she is just starting to give up now as it is not achievable? When i told her I would likely be splitting up from my wife it did not make her want me more...
  5. The story so far… I am unhappily married and she has a boyfriend whom she is frustrated with, however….. Jan 2019 - June (not her real name) started at my work (a school) – I am senior to her. The attraction was instant between us and we would send nice messages to each other… March 2019 – I had helped her out by writing a reference for a job at work. She WhatsApp’d me and my wife saw. She was not pleased. I ended up telling June that she could not WhatsApp me anymore. Things went quiet for a bit and then we started flirting again. April 2019 – At a works do. We were chatting, I was staring at her, it was like there was no one else in the room! Other colleagues noticed and told her to stay away from me. At the end of the night I offered her a lift home. She accepted. We hugged passionately goodbye and then I told her that I had thought about kissing her. We didn’t because I could not go through with it. The next day I told my wife that I gave June a lift home. She hit the roof and messaged her on Instagram. I emailed June apologising for all the grief I caused. She said that she was pleased that she asked what I was thinking. She still likes me. April/ June 2019 – it was a bit awkward at work but we soon got back to flirting. I emailed to ask what would have happened if I tried to kiss her, she said she could not tell me because if she was too honest that would change our relationship. However if we both were single it would have been a definite…. I asked if we could talk about it in person. We never did. June/ July 2019 – the emails and flirting between us petered off. Things got worse at home with my wife. My feelings for June got more intense. Summer break – We did not contact each other at all. Sept 2019 – A bit awkward to start with but the flirting and looks started to happen again. I then almost broke up with my wife. I told June all about it and I think that this put her off. She would still email me a few times but not that much. Oct 2019 – She now emails infrequently. I get few flirty looks at work. But we still have some nice chats and I can make her laugh. I think we know that we are not friends. Is the attraction still there ? Yes (I think), but she is not as forward anymore. I do not know what to do next to get us back to where we were (and more!) Please help.
  • Create New...