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  1. Ex-boyfriend broke up with me in November 2020. I stupidly kept in contact with him afterwards and we caught up a week or so later. Been getting mixed signals from him ever since. I asked if we could catch up recently and he was sort of interested but half not. I told him today that I think our reasons for catching up seem different (as I obviously still like him) and he's probably doing it for friendly reasons. He agreed and said it's sensible to not catch up for now but we can revisit it anytime. Does this sort of sound like he just wants to wait till his feelings possibly change?
  2. Ex-boyfriend broke up with me and lately, I feel like I've been the one who has been pushing for us meeting up. There have been some slightly positive signs of either friendliness or reconciling, we've been speaking on the phone for an hour (something we never used to do) a few times, checking in with each other over Christmas/nye and a few texts here and there. But he's happy to catch up but doesn't want to talk about us as he feels it'll drag things out/rehash things. "I was reluctant before because as I've said a few times it just feels like we'll be rehasing things again and drawing things
  3. I personally think it's too soon to be asking someone where they think you two are heading after the second date if that's correct. Sure, you can ask what are they looking for the long term but not necessarily with you two. I would pull back the breaks a bit. Be clear what you are looking for long term (not exactly with her) and if she doesn't like that or gets weirded out - she ain't for you.
  4. Good point. Sorry, what do you mean by I want to keep contact in the hope he changes his mind? As in, no contact probably wouldn't work or I'm doing that in hopes he changes his mind?
  5. You can find my posts about the situation with him and me. He ended things with me a few weeks ago. We caught up again recently, went to the beach with each other, he enjoyed it. I went back to his for a cup of tea and we spoke about things, he said it's the best decision for right now. Although he isn’t fully confident he’s doing the right thing. Maybe in a years time, things will feel more right with each other. I think maybe because he feels I'm still quite immature, I'm 25 and he's 34. He said that he told his mother we broke up and she got really angry. Something was quite odd, he told me
  6. Thank you, I appreciate your answer. It's hard because I felt like up until a few months ago, he put in a *lot* of effort and I definitely felt the love. But since the last month or so I've been sensing something is weird, I've been getting into slight arguments with him over text/phone call and I feel it has sabotaged our relationship. Yes, he has his reasons and they are probably going to stay there regardless of the last month or so. I think there could have been a few things I could have done on my part as well, introducing him to my friends/family etc. Time will tell.
  7. I’ve been dating this guy for about 8/9 months. We’re 9 years apart and I don’t notice the age difference. We get along like a house on fire, always laughing together. He tells me regularly ‘I laugh so much with you’, I know his friends, his family know about me but we haven’t been able to meet due to Covid. He used to call his parents every Sunday but since we’ve been dating, it’s become less and less. To me this is also a sign of being in a relationship with someone. We normally see each other a few times a week, sometimes less or more depending on our schedule. He invites me to all the 'big
  8. He's 33! Yes, it definitely is concerning. Not that I'm excusing him at all but probably I would say the same about him, I do very much like him but in love with? Hard to say. I was hoping we would have continued and our relationship and would have blossomed eventually. I know people that have dated for a couple of years and it took them a long time to really love each other. Maybe I'm being naive, I do not know.
  9. Thanks tinydance! I asked him if he loved me and he said no, he said he has never loved someone before besides his family. He has apparently had 4 girlfriends. As hard as it is for me to keep following up with him, I think even a week of us not talking would be great. The longest we have ever gone is a few days.
  10. I’ve been dating this guy for about 8/9 months. We’re 9 years apart and I don’t notice the age difference. We get along like a house on fire, always laughing together. He tells me regularly ‘I laugh so much with you’, I know his friends, his family know about me but we haven’t been able to meet due to Covid. He used to call his parents every Sunday but since we’ve been dating, it’s become less and less. To me this is also a sign of being in a relationship with someone. We normally see each other a few times a week, sometimes less or more depending on our schedule. He invites me to all the 'big
  11. He is quite emotionally immature and acts like a child at times as well. We both can be immature with each other. He's even admitted this. Also, not sure if this is a reflection of deeper issues but he's got into this career later in life (the exams) so all of his friends are younger (study friends) so I don't feel the age gap. His friends are my age. Get my drift? Of course this is not the only factor but it does add to it all. It would be harder to date a man whose friends all 30-40+ with different life stages.
  12. Thank you Rose! I feel there is a bit more clarity now. Sleeping with him is something I love doing but we also have fun doing basic, but fun things together. I'm assuming that he wouldn't say I'm his girlfriend if he didn't mean it as he's a naturally very risk-averse person.
  13. (25F) (34M). So I’ve been seeing this guy for around 6/7 months. All things have been going well, we get a long really well, I know his friends etc. All signs of a serious relationship. For a few months I was unsure of what we were as he never asked me to be his girlfriend. We had the talk a few times. He had a few concerns regarding some things or lack of in common. He said he wanted to only make a decision after his exams (they have just finished). We haven’t talked about until briefly tonight. Okay, I was under that impression; we aren’t official yet. Tonight I mentioned that I wasn’t sure
  14. Sorry, yes he's definitely apologised for those previous insults and has stopped them now.
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