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I've been dating a really wonderful man for a few months now. We were both virgins and then decided to lose our virginity to one another. I'll have to admit the first few times didn't go smoothly like I was hoping it would, but now we are extremely open and honest with one another. Although Just yesterday my boyfriend wanted to know what sex feels like for a girl. I had no idea as to how to describe the feeling and sensation to him, espically since don't have much experience. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how i could possibly describe it or show him what it feels like? Thanks for your help!

Yeah that is a long time! I waited for one month before my now exboyfriend kissed me for the first time, so i kind of know how frustrating it can be. Do you guys ever hug, cuddle or hold hands or anything? I wouldn't ask him why he hasn't kissed you, it might make him feel awkward. Why don't you just make the first move and say something like, "would you mind if i kissed you?" or "I really like you a lot, would it be ok if we kissed?" Hopefully somethinig happens soon. I'm sure it will be well worth the wait. I know it was for me!

Ok, I have been struggling with this issue for a while. I'm 21 years old and want to get my nose pierced, I told my parents that I wanted to get it done a couple of months ago, they refused at first then after talking to them my mom said if I decided to get it done I had to wait until after my brother's wedding. Well, that was last weekend. I am planning on going tomorrow to get it done. The thing is, is that i only mentioned it once to my mom that i still wanted one, she never really said yes or no either way. I haven't told them That i am going to get it done either. I don't understand what the big deal is. I come from a Christian family. My mom even went as far as to tell me i could get a tattoo, such as on my shoulder or ankle (where it would be visible sometimes) and permanent, but she doesn't want me to get my nose piereced (a tiny little stud ) which is not permanent. I don't understand. I don't agree with the way she was so firm on not letting me have one. Besides I'm 21 and at least i had enough respect to ask her, because technically i don't need her permission. It just really makes me mad.

I should specifiy that we don't work together or for the same company, but just in the same building. The only time i see either of them is on their lunch breaks, if it makes any difference, and i will be going to a different shift for the summer also.

Ok, hears a breif explination of my situation. I dated a guy whom I really liked and wanted to continue a serious relationship with, but he broke up with me about 3 months ago. I see him at work everyday, but he totally ignores me now like he doesn't even know me at all. (except saying "how's it going" about once every two weeks.) Well the girls that I work with want to set me up with another guy at work. I think this guy seems really nice and he is more talkative than my ex, but i don't know anything about him other than the basics. I would be interested in going out with this guy, but I don't know if i'm quite ready to start dating again? One minute i could care less about my ex, but the next minute i miss him terribly and sometimes i'm still so heartbroken that things didn't work out like i hoped they would. But then I think that if i go out with this other guy maybe he's "the one" (he doesn't know i have any intrest in him yet.) I guess my question is would it be a good idea to start dating again if you aren't completely sure you are over your ex, even though it's pretty obvious that they are over you? I think i'm afraid that things will turn out like the last time and i will have 2 people to avoid than just one. I don't know if i can handle another heartbreak. But on the other hand it would feel so great to tell my ex i'm doing great and have a hot date with someone the next time he asks me how i'm doing. Any thoughts?

I don't know, I would like to go out with other guys, but I'm a pretty shy person. Second I'm too scared I'll get hurt again. At least at this point, maybe after I've had more time to heal I would go out with someone else, but of course i would like to get back with him, I'm just not convinced he'd ever want to get back with me.

My ex-boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. I was shocked because he seemed to like me. We work at the same place and so I see him everyday breifly. We haven't called or talked outside of work, but every once in a while he will ask me how school is going and i will reply. I try to ignore him hoping that it helps me get over him. Well, on Friday someone was talking to him and they said "hey your girlfriend......" (I was too shocked to hear the rest of what was said everything was mumbled at that point.) I just felt so hurt at that point. It wasn't fair. Of course my first thought was that he probably broke up with me to go out with someone else. That weekend I did my best to not think about him and try to get over my feelings for him. Then Monday he's walking down the hall in front of me and stopped to put something away, and turned around and saw me walking down the hall. So what does he do, he turns around, smiles and says "hey how's it going?" so i replied and he kind of laughed and smiled, i wanted so bad to stop and talk to him again, but i just kept walking by. He's the one who dumped me. Why does he have to be nice and talk to me when he does? At first I was so angry because he would act like I didn't even exist, now he has to try and start making small talk. I wish he wouldn't make it so hard for me to just forget about him and move on. Do you think he wants to stay on good terms incase he ever wants to get back together?

I think that if you tell your ex you want to be friends with them it is just a way to soften the blow if dumping them, and a way to may you seem like you're not a bad guy. My ex said he wanted to have me for a friend and even though I see him everyday at work he hardly even speaks to me let alone acknowledge the fact that I still exist. At this point I don't see us getting back together. Which doesn't bother me much anymore, but what does bother me is the fact that there was a relationship there and now it's like we don't even know each other anymore. Trust me if you tell your ex you want to be friends with them you should mean it. What's the point in telling them you want to be friends if you aren't going to communicate with them. You might as well tell them you would like to have them for an aquaintance.

I've decided on Monday I'm going to ask my boss if i can change shifts, although this won't happen immediately, because of school, hopefully it will be at least for the summer. Then once classes start up again in the fall i will go back to my current shift. I think if i had some time away it would help me heal. Then maybe once I go back to my current shift I won't care so much wether he's there or not. I try as much as possible to ignore him and pretend that he's not there, but it's really hard not to want him to notice me. It's also hard for me to not look at him and see if just maybe he might be looking at me. I think that would be the best thing i could do at the moment, because I don't think quitting my job is an option.

I know this is kind of long, but i just need some advice. My exboyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. We didn't know each other at all until we started dating, and we got along really well. I told a friend that i liked him and they told him, so he gave him my phone number and he called, so we started dating. He told me he had a crush on me and i admitted that i had a crush on him. We were together for 3 and a half months when I noticed he seemed to be growing distant in the last week or so of our relationship, so i asked him, in an email, what was going on and i apologized if it was anything i had said or done. (I didn't know how to bring it up in person and i didn't want him to see me upset, because i had the feeling what his response would be.) Well, he replied back and said that i had not done or said anything wrong but he had things in his life that he needed to change and wanted time to get his prrorities straight. He told me i was a great person and didn't want to say or do anything to upset me. He said he would rather have me as a friend than an enemy, and that a relationship was the last thing on his list right now. We work at the same place, I see him everyday when he is on his lunch break. He has only spoken to me a few times since that. It has only been while we are at work and its is just " Hi, how's school going?" so i will answer him. I emaild him once to invite him out with my friends and I about a month ago, and he never replied or came. I never mentioned it and niether did he. I know this may sound sad, but is it possible for the pain of the breakup to last longer than the relationship? I had really strong feelings for him and wanted to be more intimate with him and he expressed the same. I just can't understand how two people can be really into each other, and one person just decides to split. If i decide to contact him it would be through email. I basically just want to talk to him again. I still want to be friends and i don't know what i should tell him or if he will even respond? I think the only way I will be able to get over this though is to either change jobs or change shifts so that i won't have to see him at work. I have good days when i think i'm going to be ok, but then there are days like today where it feels like it's just going to eat me up inside and i don't know if i will ever be happy again?

I actually asked him what was going on with him, because he had been acting distant in the last week or so of the relationship and he said that there was a lot going on in his life and there were some things he wanted to change. (news to me, he hadn't mentioned anything!) as for the times we have spoken, he spoke to me first, and i just replied. I try to ignore him as much as possible, but it is inevitable that I will see him at work everyday.

This past November i finally had my first date ever with a guy I had a crush on, and was excited to find out that he like me also. We work at the same place and I see him everday at work when he is on his lunch break. To make a long story short he was my first boyfriend (and my first kiss that I ever had!) I was so happy with my life and so excited that someone seemed to like me as much as i liked them. But here's my question, How can a guy that was so interested in you, who talked about doing things together in the future (like this coming summer and fall), who wanted you to meet his family and friends before you even considered letting your family and friends meet him, who treated you like you were the only women in the world, decide to break up with you, and then just ignore you? (except for asking how classes were going, etc three times in the 2 months since he dumped me.) Why do guys breakup with girls they really like and act like nothing ever happened? (We were together for only 3 1/2 months, and we've been broken up for 2 months, but it still really upsets me. There is basically no contact at all between us even though we still see each other everyday at work). I can't understand why he is acting so cold. I can't stop thinking about him, and seeing him everday just makes getting over it harder. I know that there are other guys out there, but I was falling hard and since I had never been in a relationship before I was afraid of scaring him away by telling him that I was falling in love with him. He told me that he once asked out a girl and she just laughed at him and it took him a long time to get over it. I wish he knew that I feel now the way that he must have felt then. Besides that when he dumped me he said that he would "rather have me as a friend than an enemy." Is this how guys treat their "friends" I don't think being an enemy would be any worse?

I know how you feel, I was in a relationship where i was only able to see my boyfriend on the weekends, but I think it makes the getting together more anticipated. I think you should just make plans to go out whenever you can. I'm sure the both of you agree work and school are important, and when you do get to go out it makes the wait worth while. Just keep it up, i know it's hard, but if it's meant to be i'm sure you two will be sure to make time to get together. Good Luck!

Here is a list of songs I've been listening to recently since my boyfriend dumped me. Incomplete~ Backstreet Boys (the newest single, the words say exactly how i feel) Goin Crazy~ Natalie A Thousand Miles~ Vanessa Carlton Always Be My Baby~ Mariah Carey Insensitive~ Jann Arden I'll Never Get over you, getting over me~ Expose' Never Ever~ All Saints Anytime~ Brian McNight Have you ever, and Almost doesn't count~ Brandy Almost~ Bowling for soup Take your sweet time~ Jesse McCartney Unlove me~ Julie Roberts (another good one) Fighter, and Walk away~ Christina Aguilera Cry~ Faith Hill You'll think of me~ Keith Urban (another fave of mine) Hope you like these songs as much as I do!