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  1. I’ve already said i didnt want sex and he said it was fine. The thing is his birthday is also a few days aterwards if we do go out should we split the bill,let him pay or should i pay.
  2. Maybe some of you have read my previous posts and whatnot but the summary of it is im 18 and he is 19, we dated for three years and broke up almost 6 months ago. At first we became fwb but i broke it off in august/early September. Yesterday night my ex and I were talking (we have been in regular contact) and I asked how his party was on friday night and he said it was okay and admitted that while he was out at a party he realised how ungrateful he was. He has jokingly said “can i be your boyfriend” or maybe seriously im not sure but usually I brush it off. Yesterday he asked if we could go out for dinner and movies I havent exactly gave him an answer as I am getting ready for an event. During this time we both have not seen or spoken to anyone new. Does anyone have any tips on how i should take this on. I don’t exactly want to get back without easing into it. I do still have feelings for him.
  3. Its pretty equal, sometimes i initiate and sometimes he does
  4. I guess instead of moving on i moved “forward”, I don’t spend my days constantly thinking about him. Instead I do go out, focus on my studies and have fun etc. I think this is pretty good? Although there is still a desire to be with him and I can’t exactly stop it.
  5. Hey everyone, my relationship details are all in my previous threads. - basically im a 19F who had been dating my ex 19M for 3 years, became fwb and i broke that off last month. Its been 4-5 months since we broke up and we’ve still been texting (although sentences are very brief) we mostly text about random things about our days. I guess in a sense it is good that he still talks to me despite taking fwb off the table? We both have not spoken/seen anyone new. Sometimes I make jokes and about his “future girlfriend” and whenever I do he would go “lol no” and still shows a strong physical attraction to me and maybe not so much emotionally. Although recently he’s been more open to doing things like calling me to sleep (something we used to do when we dated). I do want to re-build our emotional connection but I don’t know how to do it. Even though we do talk theyre often about random topics, is it best to implement LC and only talk to him when he initiates a conversation? If you have done LC what was your experience with it?
  6. Whenever I try to talk to him he thinks that i want to resume to being bf/gf immediately, and feels pressured even though I assure him i am not expecting that. Its hard to get my message across when he either doesnt comprehend it or will brief over it and go “ok” so that he doesnt get “stressed” out by it. The last time i tried to talk to him about it he would get fustrated saying that he was “annoyed” because now he cant “focus on other things”. I don’t want to come off as someone thats sends paragraphs and paragraphs which is annoying but i also cant exxactly shorten my thoughts into three words so that i dont come across as pressuring
  7. It’s almost like a coping method right now. He often at times just talks to me about his day and work like we used to. Honestly his motives feel blurred right now.
  8. - Thanks for following up on my posts, honestly i feel like a mess. I’m a really rational person and i’m so used to seeing things objectively but im really struggling to right now. I like to analyse the situation and discuss it contrary to my ex who likes to “forget about it” as if the problems will disappear if that happens. Your answer helped quite a bit. - I’m pretty set on doing no contact although i’m not sure for how long... its crazy how people think you can just cut someone off after years of talking everyday. Sometimes i wished he’d done something really bad to make the process easier...
  9. Should i implement NC, apart of me wants to send him a huge paragraph telling him directly how I feel before doing so
  10. Hi guys as i detailed in my previous posts about my breakup with my ex of three years and how it kind of progressed into a fwb (we only did it 4 times it wasnt a regular thing). We are both 19 and its been about 4 months since breaking up. I went to his house yesterday because i wanted to see the “vibe” that would be there between us. Before going over i specifically told my ex that i wanted to know if we could work on our relationship or i think it would be best to cut off contact. At his house everything felt fine, it felt like we were together again. However, at the end i popped the question again and i also couldnt stop crying, he would dab my face with his blanket and hug me. The thing is, my ex is the “go with the flow” “everything will be find in the end” type of person. He dislikes listening to our issues and thinks that we should focus on the present instead of planning for the future..? He kept comforting and kissing and hugging and everything just made me feel like things were the same. I’d turn the other way in bed and he’d get sad and want me to face him. He says he simply doesnt want a relationship and to live life. My family members and friends have said maybe its because we’ve been together at a young age for so long that he wants to experience new things. This makes me sad. However, honestly my ex is an introvert he literally does not speak to anyone besides me. Since breaking up ive had lots of attention from guys so it doesn’t make sense. Recently he’s been realising this and making it known to me that im the only company he has. I love him, we’ve been talking for everyday for 4 years, we went to school together and basically that just makes the attachment worse. I want to let go but i also feel like im losing a friend and a part of myself. So when people tell me to just “move on” i just cant. I don’t know what to do. A part of me wants to cut things off to see if he actually cares enough to do something about it but apart of me just doesnt have the courage to do so.
  11. I’m a 18F, my ex (19M) have been broken up for nearly 4 months after a 3 year relationship. Guess considering my indecisiveness its best to start a journal instead of asking for advice. Since our breakup, we have continued contact and had a fwb situation (this has stopped for about two weeks). It made me sad, so i went NC which only lasted two days until he would message me and he has continued to initiate contact. Several days ago he said he wanted to take things slow after i confronted him about our confusing relationship since we still kind of flirt. He wants to see me on Friday to see how we feel about each other... at first I was thrilled that he wants to “take things slow” and showed signs of jealousy and interest in my life. But right now i’m at a dilemma on whether i should agree to take things slow. I feel like i should wait until he’s 100% certain and tell him that during this time he will just be like every other guy to me, that my options are open and that if he really wants me he should show me. At the same time i feel like this is too pressuring and might be damaging.
  12. I guess you’re right. I am here for advice however i’m a very indecisive person, i’ll probably start a journal thread
  13. I personally think continuously asking someone what their family issues are is annoying. Family issues, i’d like to keep to myself as it is a sensitive topic.
  14. I guess you’re right. I am here for advice however i’m a very indecisive person, i’ll probably start a journal thread
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