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Hi.......Thissite has really been a help to me.....My ex broke up with me 6 months ago and we have only spoken a few times until this weekend in which the ex and the mother had to contact each other.......It went about as bad as it could....Anyway, I am just curious about some things. One. Whast are the odds or what do you all think about dumpers coming back to the people that they dumped. Does this happen alot, never, sometimes? Does it depend on the age or situation behind the breakup? If it does happen, how long is the time period in the break. I was just thinking, I have been dumped three times and each time, somehow, we got back together, but in the end it never really worked out. My ex and I were together for six years until she left. I thought that I was over her, even seeing other women but, now, I don't know. I do still miss her. Anyway, was just curious and, another question, do any of you all believe in a person that is the "one?" Do you all believe in the notion that "if its meant to be, it will be"? Thanks for reading and any input or responses. Thanks

Thanks for responding......She did e-mail me the other night. I don't kniow wheather or not to write her back. Basically, she said she is trying to find herself, it sucks being alone and she wants to be friends but its too early......Seems that she is either trying to get a reaction out of me or she is in trouble somehow and is trying to get back into my life.....I have no clue....Should I write het back or stay out of contact and let her come to me?....Thanks

Hi everyone, I have posted a few messages about all of this but basically, about 4 months ago, my girlfriend left me after six years. Being from out of state, I figured that she would move back home. She ended up moving back into the same community as I live now. Anyway, she has avoided all contact with me, changing phone numbers, etc....She has called a few times once at 4 in the morning but I never tried to get into contact with her.....Well, about two weeksago, My friend tells me how well she is doing in her new job, about how much money she is making, she had just bought a new BMW and about how happy she is. Than kinda made me jealous and kinda made me upset. So anyway, the other day, I saw her getting coffee literally at a place 4 houses from my house. So I said hi and all of trhat and she was visiblely upset. She was shaking, tearing up and really could not speak.....I guess I figured after 4 months, she would be ok. Anyway, she pulls over to talk and I said to wait since, I was going to get coffee also. Well when I came out, she was pulling away. Also, she had the same car that we had when we were together, so the whole BMW thing was a lie, I guess to make me jealous. I guess I don't know what to think. After seeing her so upset, I figure that she still has feelings for me, but something is holding her back. Also, the lies about the car, What is that? I don't know, I know trhat now is not the time to try for a reconcilation but eventiually, this is what I want. I guess that, after 4 months, she would either just ignore me and tell me to leave her alone or at least be over it and have a conversation with me. It was just really weird. I am thinking of sending her a letter and trying ti establish contact with her again. Thanks for reading and any advice on what she might be thinking as well as advice on wheather or not I should try to contact her would be greatly appreciated. Hope all of you are doing well. Thanks

Hey. Thanks for reading. Anyway, My ex and I have not spoken for 4 months after living together for six plus years. I still love her but have not tried to pursue or contact her because that what she wanted. I know that she tries to keep up on whats I am doing in my life. She is from another state and thought that she would move back when she broke up with me but she moves in the same town as I. Anyway, I hear how well she is doing and that I should get my life in order before trying to contact her. Before she left, A close family member of mine died after a long illness. That really tore me up and our relationship. I would have thought that at least I would have heard from her personally by now. I know that she is not seeing anyone else and works a lot. I guess that I should just let this go, and thats kinda the way I am going, you know, if its meant to be......Anyway, any input would be appreciated. I'm almost sure that my ex still loves to also. Should I try to get back with her, let it go and hope that its meant to be or finsd someone else. I have had many chances at dating since she has been gone, but to be honest, she is the person I want....Thanks for reading

I have posted a few topics and am trying to figure this one out. I havee not spoken to my ex in about 7 weeks. and the last time I spoke to her I asked questions like "do you still love me?" and do you think that one day we will be together?" Stuff like that, She refused to answer these questions. I kepy pressing her and after a few minutes, she said that she would not answer these because "it would give me closure" Why would she do this...To want to torture me in getting me to think that maybe in the future we would be back together or did she say this to hide the fact that we would talk again in the future, but did not want to say this at the time? Stupid questions, but would appreciate anyone's advice...Thanks

Hey....Thanks for responding I guess that I just don't know what to do, leave her alone and hope she comes back....or....make a play for her I'd appreciate all feedback. I figured after so long that at least I could live somewhat well without her but its getting worse rather than better...Thanks Again for reading

Hey. Just had a question. What are the major reasons behind having no contact with your other/ex. I guess that I am just trying to figure this out with my exgirlfriend and I We broke up and have not spoken in about 6 weeks. Auitomatically, I would have to assume that there is no hope for reconcilation. But the emotional side is still hoping to hear from her again..I know these seem like stupid questions but is she doing this to get over me or is she doing this to see if I'll chase her? Any other reasons? Noneof her friends will return any calls too. Only thing is that when we moved out of our apartment, she moved home out of state but then decided to move back into the same town where I live. I don't know, Other than an e-mail and a letter I sent her, I have left her alone. When we last spoke, she said that in time we would talk. She also told a friend that in time, we probably would get back together but down the road when I got my life together. Sonn before she broke up with me, my grandfather died, which caused a lot of problems with me and in turn, in the relationship. I just never thought that this would end after 6' years together andd 4 years living together. Anyway, any help and advice would be greatly appreciated...Thanks

My girlfriend of mine broke up with me about 5 weeks ago..We we're having problems with finances and a clove family member of mine was dying so going to the hospital almost everyday for two months was draining on the both of us. We both started drinking a lot and I began a sort of depression.....Anyway two weeks after this family member of mine died, she broke up with me. She w3as origionally from out of state so she went to live with her parents and told me that I had to get out of our apartment by a certain time. Anyways , I thought that she would have moved back in with her parents, out of state....Anyways after that she calls me, tells me that she is not in love with me anymore, etc....The next day, my mother sees her and asks if she would ever get back together with me in which her reply was that probably, but down the road...She has removed back into the same town in which live in but has not contacted me in about 5 weeks....I guess that I am looking for answers to, one, do we have a chance one day, two, should I pursue her, three, why would she spend all kinds of money to live basically down the street form me and so on....None of her friends, who were my friends also will even return any calls......Anyway thanks for reading, sorry for the long post and appreciate any advice....Thanks