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I have asked him and he says that he has a reason. I ask him what it is, but he smiles and doesn't answer. He's a strange one, that's for sure.

I have wonderful boyfriend of eight months. It would be over a year, but I broke up with him for a month last summer. Anyway, whenever we are in band class (he a sax, me a clarinet), I look over at him when we are not playing, and before I have to fight for his attention, I see that he is staring back at me. It isn't always like this, but many times I have caught him. Also, when we are hanging out, I will look over at him and see him looking at me. I don't exactly mind, but it confuses me. We are both 18 years old, have never dated other people before (I have called people boyfriend, but they weren't really), have said that we love each other, but we both know we are not in love. We talk seriously of the future, but we know that things can change at any moment, so we don't talk as if it is set in stone. I know he isn't yet in love with me nor am I with him, but why do guys stare? I know some of them have good reasons, but what could his reason be?

Good idea. But there are so many bands at my school already that I wouldn't be able to find instrumentalists. I sing and play clarinet, but the latter would get me nowhere. LoL. Besides, of all my friends, there are only about three that I could recruit (because they aren't yet in bands) and they all play guitar. *sigh* Maybe I'll still ask around, though. Hmmm... that would be very interesting! THANKS!

Well, the skateboarders in my town aren't all that. In fact, being such a small town, most of them are either flunkies or eight year olds. OKay, so maybe there are a few that are twelve, but still. LoL! It's true, unfortunately!

Hmmm... I just may have to do that. It's always sounded interesting to me, but I never wanted to delve into it. THANKS! Anyone else?

Hmmm... you have some great thoughts. I like them. Anymore? (That is, I liked all except the surfing one. Yeah, I live in Missouri. LoL!)

I'm seventeen, a junior in high school, come from a town of about 6,000, and need some excitement. I have never had a boyfriend over six weeks because I get bored really fast. I also have only ever held hands with a boy. That is it. I need excitement in my life, and I would love to find that with a nice boy. But I don't exactly know where to look or what to look for. I need tips. Anything I can do to attract excitement, a new look maybe? I don't know. A little help would be nice!

Well, what I meant when I said just being his weird self was me just asking if this is a normal guy thing or if it is something more. He is an odd fellow, yes, but he never acted like this before. Before now, he treated me as a friend, would talk to me about weird stuff, but would treat me like one of the guys. Now he still treats me like one of the guys, but responds more when he sees that I am down. It's odd. He has been behaving differently. I just wish I knew...

Well, there is this boy in my Adv. English class and Chem class that has been my friend for about, oh, three years or so. He isn't that bad a guy, pretty cool, but he rants about really boring things half the time. And when he gets annoying boy does he get annoying. Anyway, he and I have been picking on each other for the past three weeks or so because our English teacher said one day that we are a lot alike and that it is "so precious". And then little things have conspired: he and I were absent on the same day and people thought we were together (we turned this into a big joke), we think a lot alike, we are a lot like Ron and Hermione (from Harry Potter books. Only, he is the girl and I the boy), and we are lab partners in Chem. Now, I know I have a tendency to flirt. I am not girly by any means, but I'm not a man either. I like to have my girly pleasures like lip gloss and pretty clothes, but I'll start, and win, a burping contest with any guy that is willing. But I was wondering if he is a flirt. Lately, he has been telling me I am mean and acting/is really hurt by it. I know I say things, but I tell him that I kid and that he and I really are friends. He'll believe me (and he should) and we will start to bicker in our "we've been married for eighty years" way again. Well, when I turn to the board in Chem, he will mess with my hair (I have really long hair. Blah). And then, when I sometimes am either thinking or spacing, and then look at him, I catch him looking at me. Well, at my eyes. He doesn't have a staring problem, I know that for sure, but I also know that I am NOT the prettiest girl in the room (he is kind of superficial). He is by no means popular, but he is my friend. He's a cool guy. Some may think that I really like him because it seems like I am flirting (my friend Nick, who is in Chem with the boy and me, says so), but I really don't. I'm good about knowing who I like and who I don't. In fact, there is actually a different boy I like. I just really want to know, based on the information given, what others think. Is he flirting or just being his weird self? Any advice would help. Thanks! P.S. The only time I really see him or even talk to him is in those two classes. And sometimes in the morning, if you count the times he has come over to my friend's car to bug me.

Hey. I know the feeling. I am sixteen, and a female, but I can still try and help. See, I recently just discovered what love is. And, like many people say, you can't describe it. But, I am a personal believer in the fact that you have to experience puppy love before you can find real love. Now, I've no idea if you have felt puppy love before or if this girl is the one that will show you what it is, but you will know of it's power one day. Have you ever thought that maybe this girl isn't allowed to have a boyfriend at her age? If she is, maybe there is something stopping her. Maybe she is scared that her feelings are wrong, or maybe she doesn't want to think about going out with you and risk losing you because it will hurt, or maybe she really doesn't see you two together. What you need to do is connect with her on more levels than you have been. You need to get her to trust you. You need to show her, without a written or spoken word, that she can tell you anything and do anything, and that you will feel the same for her. You can't tell her flat out because it can sometimes look desperate. You have to let her know without coming out and telling her. Trust is the key here. You need to be able to trust her and she has to trust you before you two can move on to anything more than friends. And whether this girl is the one that was made for you, or if there is another out there you have yet to meet, you will love again. I promise.

I am glad to say that I finally know what love is. At least, in my eyes. I may only be sixteen, but I have discovered puppy love. When my second boyfriend broke up with me, after only a month and not ever holding hands, kissing, or hugging, or anything of the such, I was really mad. Not at him, just mad that I would buy so deeply into something. I couldn't believe that I had found someone that I thought I really liked and that really liked me back, and that I lost him. I thought it was something I did wrong, but it wasn't. It was just a hurt unlike one you can describe. After two and a half weeks of seeing him everyday at marching band camp, and knowing he was no longer mine, I was able to finally let him go. Now, as my life has moved on, I am glad to say I am no longer with him. Sure, him and I are still best friends and talk each day, and we both have discovered we can't get rid of each other, but we know that even though we both like each other again, it can't happen and it most likely won't. And that's a good thing. But, and here's the confusing part, I am still having relationship troubles. Nothing major. I mean, you may say to yourself, "Oh, that's easy to solve." or even "Oh, well, I went through that before and it wasn't a big deal at all." I know how people are because I do the same thing to people I may or may not know. But, truth be told, we shouldn't do that because if the problem is big enough for someone to worry about it, then it's a major part of their life and no one would put a friend down, or even someone they don't know, for fear of breaking that person or ruining their life. OKay, so that sounded a bit like I am off the deep end, but I am really perfectly sane. Anyway, on to the problem. See, there is this boy I liked in marching band with me (Yes, all the members in my school marching band date each other. It's actually kind of funny.), but I wasn't sure if I DID like him or if I liked the IDEA of liking him. But, my ex boyfriend, the one mentioned above, went and told the whole band that I liked him and it eventually got around to this kid. Well, it turned out the kid liked me too. That would normally be great, but not for me. We had a marching band competition the next day and he stands behind me in our troop. Well, he whispered something in my ear and asked me out. And, being the person I am, I said yes. Well, as we were going home that night, we sat by each other on the brass bus. Anyway, he started off by rubbing my knee, and stopping because he realized I didn't like it. OKay, that was good, but then he held my hand. I was fine with this because I had held my friend's hand before, but that is the most I have ever done. So, I guess since I held his hand he thought it was fine to touch me and all. I had shorts on that night, despite it being a bit chilly (I forgot to bring actual pants for the trip home after we changed.), and by the end of the night his hand was halfway up the inside of my right leg. I was really uncomfortable because I thought it was moving kind of fast. Now, I understand that doing stuff like that at that speed is fine for some, and he didn't do anything wrong, it just wasn't really my type of thing, you know? Well, I broke up with him through a note that next Monday (we dated Saturday, Sunday, and Monday until Marching class). I explained to him everything and we are still friends. Well, I found out from a girl that rides my bus that this kid can get a little obsessive over a girl. That was kind of scary, you know. She knows this because he has kind of been after her for a while because her brother and the boy have been friends since like 2nd grade. Now, I'm glad I broke up with him. BUT, and here is the kicker, him and I still went to our school's homecoming dance together. I figured he would come over, hang out with my friends, and then we would all go together. Boy, was I wrong. It turned out that he bought me a corsage, he bought the dance tickets, he drove me to the dance, I danced with him more than I danced with anyone else, he hugged me a few times, AND HE BOUGHT $65 COUPLE PICTURES. I felt so bad because the best I could give him was my company. And I wasn't going to give him anything else. I just wish I had given him a boutineire or something. Or even a kiss on the cheek. But I was rude, I guess, and I didn't. And now I don't know if I am kind of obligated to go out with him if he asks, or if I should like him. I mean, he apoligized for moving so fast the past weekend and that he didn't know what he was thinking, and he was a perfect gentleman, but I just don't know. Should I like him because he is a great guy, tell him we can only ever be friends, or should I just pretend like the night wasn't that big a deal, kind of like running into each other at a school function? I mean, I want more advice then just answers to those questions, but that is all I am able to think about right now. I hope you all understand what I'm talking about and I hope you don't think I'm a bad person. The best I can do is try to be a good teenager, and so far I am succeeding. Thanks in advance for any advice you may offer. Sweet dreams!

Well, from a sixteen year old girl to a sixteen year old boy, I just want to say that betting on who can get more numbers is wrong, but can be fun for both parties involved. A girl will like that she is getting attention from a guy, and even though she will be waiting for a call, she will still have the feeling that someone liked her, even if you really don't/didn't. Anyway, back to the subject at hand. I'm not sure what state you live in, but if you live in Missouri like me, or in a state with a good state slogan then you may have it made. Someone once said, "Boy: Are you sure you are a girl? Girl: Yes. Boy: Well, I don't believe you. Girl: Well, too bad (this one can vary). Boy: Well, this IS the 'Show Me' state, so maybe you should prove it." It was very sexist and very rude, but also very cheesy. And let me tell you. The girls that are really worth it are supposedly the ones that would find that funny, much like a guy would. But, other pick up lines could be the classics like "Boy: Did it hurt? Girl: Did what hurt? Boy: When you fell from Heaven, did it hurt?" or "Boy: You must be really tired. Girl: Why? Boy: Because you have been running through my mind all day." Or, a not so classic, but still pretty well used one would be walking up behind her, and when she looks your way, turn away real fast and then turn back again and say, "I just had to take a look because I thought I saw an Angel. And what do you know? I was right!" That one really got me. But, hey, those are only a few. If you need more or need tips or anything, feel free to post back. I'll reply. Good luck with you illegal betting.

Well, the boy in question doesn't fall in love easily. In fact, he has only had two girlfriends in his entire life, not including me. So, I'm sure that cannot be the case. But all the same. He may be confused by love, I agree, but we are always talking about it and we have love surrounding us. My parents have been married for 35+ years and his have been married for 18 or so. It's weird because love is always around us, and we have a good grasp of it, but neither of us can completely understand it. Everytime I tell him I've given up on love, and I'm not sure if I truly have anymore, he seems to be able to pull me back by what he says. He seems to really understand it. I just don't know.

OKay. I have a question. I have a best guy friend whom of which I have known since sixth grade (we are going into tenth). Lately, we have been getting closer. I dated him once around three months ago, but I broke up with him. I didn't think it was working because I didn't feel anything. Now I'm not sure. We are always talking late into the night about love and soulmates and how to tell if you have found yours and how to tell if it is love. What gets me is what he said one day. This past Monday, he called me up and told me he had a secret and that he couldn't tell me. I didn't pry on it, but he kept saying it and couldn't hold it in. He finally said it and it was, "I think I'm falling back in love with you." I thought what we had before was only like. I might have been wrong, but I also may have been right. Anyway, what is love? I know it is different to everyone but I know everyone also has some common ground. Well, him and I have been talking and he has talked about a girl that he thinks he likes and may love, but he doesn't want to tell me who it is. The thing is is that I am the only girl (besides my best friend, whom of which he talks to but would never date. They have nothing in common and could never be more than friends) he has talked to over the summer. I am the only one he has invited over to swim, the only one he has invited to a fair, the only one he tells everything to. Only I'm too scared to go with him and his family to anything. I like his family, and they like me, only something scares me. I've only had two boyfriends, both lasted a month or less, which might be the problem. What I don't understand is if you are capable of feeling love at my age (16) and his age (15). We are both light-hearted and fun-loving, and like to goof around, but we also enjoy being serious. I would really like someone with experience to give me advice. Especially someone who has been married or dating for a REALLY long time. Thanks! Have a nice day and/or night!

I think that she may be thinking that she made a mistake by breaking up with you. She wants to see how you will react so she can see if you would want her back or not. Either say, "Yeah, that is funny that we never kissed." if you're over her and, "Yeah, but I was thinking about it, I just didn't want to move too fast for you." if you're not over her. It all depends on how you look at the sitch. I've been in the same type of situation as the girl before, and I know that I was thinking that I might have made a mistake. But, he wasn't over me and we went back out. Just do what your heart, not your brain, says for you to do. You won't be disappointed. I guarantee it!