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About pinkyankovic

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  1. Yes! I would LOVE to move to Jersey! We've talked about doing that in the future, but it doesn't look like it would happen for at least 5 years, so I've got my fingers crossed for solutions on the interim. The short-term privacy lock sounds like a great short-term solution to me. Thanks for your thoughts!
  2. Thanks so much for your feedback. Yes--that is the way I see it as well. I have been sympathetic to seeing it from my boyfriend's POV since it's his father, but they also don't have a good relationship (not surprising). I know that I need to keep checking myself because I've been fortunate to come from a family that, for the most part, communicated well, and parents who would *never* put me in this position. I understand that isn't everyone's experience, and that my boyfriend was raised in a family with few boundaries, and a home that often crossed over into abusive. This is a complex I can't
  3. Hahaha thanks for your feedback! That was my attitude in the beginning, but after seeing how he only judged me, did not show embarrassment, and continued the behavior, I've become much more sheepish and terrified of him walking in on anything. And yes -- the privacy lock is my favorite idea so far. It's highly unlikely that my boyfriend would approve putting on a deadbolt anyway, but a short-term privacy lock at least while I'm home alone would be great.
  4. We do not have a lease (although we've been trying to draw one up with him for almost a year, but he keeps saying it isn't necessary). In terms of laws, we live in NYC, and most of the laws are in the tenant's favor here.
  5. Thank you for your reply. My boyfriend is in his 40s, which is why this feels so ridiculous to us, and I have supported myself since age 18. That's why it sucks every day to feel like we're 12 even though we're both working to contribute most of the building's rent.
  6. Actually what prompted me to post this today was that he walked in this morning while I was changing my bra... he gave me a stern look and then continued to the bathroom! and I ended up being the embarrassed one!
  7. Thanks in advance for reading.... my boyfriend and I have been together 3 years and live together. His parents own the apartment building we live in, but they live about an hour away. My boyfriend and I pay the highest rent in the building, which we can barely afford, but this is to make up for all the other apartments where they charge very little because they are family friends of my boyfriend's father. Our rent is still technically low for our location, so that is how we justify it with ourselves, and why we don't just move elsewhere. His father has keys to our apartment (as he is our la
  8. It sounds like you may be in middle or high school -- let me preface this by saying how glad I am that I did not have access to social media through grade 12 -- my first words of advice are Limit Yourself On Social Media. That is just unrelated personal advice, because I think it tends to be cringe-worthy to look back at all the things you self-publish. Maybe keep a journal instead so you can remember things privately. Your friendship with K sounds toxic. We have only heard this scenario from your side, but ask yourself these questions: Do you think K has your best interest at heart? Do you
  9. I am in a sexless relationship. We have been together 3 years and live together. We were not always sexless... before we were "officially" together, we had sex multiple times a day for months. It stopped altogether when we were officially boyfriend and girlfriend. I continued to try to initiate, but he just is no longer interested. It makes me feel awful about myself and the relationship will not continue forever. I know that there are people out there that it can work for, but I'm 23, unmarried, and a very sexual person. I think what is attractive about our relationship is that it basically f
  10. Thank you for your reply and thorough feedback -- I hear and understand all your points. These same points have been in my head the last couple days, which is why I decided to post here. It's a very fresh situation and I don't feel good about how either of us handled it. I will clarify though: when she booked her tickets, there was a very clear conversation that this was a trip specifically to visit me. I had no intention of asking her for money. And I agree that it seems unreasonable to ask for money in the last few hours of her stay, which is why I gave her a loophole to get out of it, appro
  11. Thank you for your reply. We had kept in touch often over Facetime, and she was very aware of the AirBnB room, as we often discussed it over the past 2 years.
  12. I was very best friends with this girl all through high school. We were inseparable. We are now in our mid-twenties. I went to college in a city, and she moved to the other side of the country. I have not seen her in 5 years, as our trips back home have never overlapped. She booked a 5-day trip to come visit me. I live in a 2-bedroom apartment with my boyfriend, and we have a guest room that we AirBnB out. That is how we pay most of our bills. We had to cancel an AirBnB reservation because she didn't communicate well with me about the dates she booked to come visit. We did not plan on charging
  13. I'm sorry to hear you're having issues with your confidence, and also most likely your relationship. I have experienced the same thing in a long term relationship, and noticed the feeling especially when we weren't having sex for long periods of time. I'm curious as to how active and satisfying this aspect of your relationship is. I don't think it's inappropriate or self-serving to crave physical validation, especially from the person who should be giving you the most. I wish I had more detailed advice for you, but I think the best thing I can tell you to do is to communicate clearly and calml
  14. Yes, it's controlling. A controlling partner's fears often originate either in a past partner's actions, or in actions of their own. Did a former partner of his cheat on him? It sounds like infidelity is one of his bigger fears, and often those who are most openly suspicious about cheating are cheaters themselves (consciously or subconsciously looking for justification for their behavior). If this doesn't sound like him, it could just be that he's a controlling boyfriend. If I were you, I would make plans with a few friends and make sure to keep the plans even if he gives you a hard time abo
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