Sorry to hear that Kim, but that's what families do!
A comedian once said about the holidays... "Why do I want to spend my vacation driving for hours to spend time with people I can't stand?!!!!"
We stayed home! It was nice... no B.S., gas-lighting, or scapegoating. Of course, now I am in the dog house. Oh wait! I've been there for 40 years! Now it's time for this to be THEIR problem!