Hi everyone, I don’t know how to feel anymore or if I’m right or wrong so please help me out.
Im an accomplished, educated female (33) and my husband (32) is a foreign educated (associate degree) with minimum English. We’ve been together for 1.5 years. When we met he was a cab driver and i saw potential in him. I paid to start a business for him and tried to get him to learn English and encouraged him to take a course in anything that he liked.
Sadly he is happy with earning bare minimum, saying he doesn’t want to go back to school and he may want to expand his business which is not successful yet. He doesn’t contribute much or not at all and i am paying the bills as well as his business expenses.
I work 8-10 hour days and try to cook and clean. He doesn’t do household chores until i start nagging at him. He wastes his days smoking (promised to quit million times), eating alot, looking around on Instagram and not exercising or doing anything worthwhile. Sex has seriously gone down as he cannot keep an erection anymore at 33.
His good qualities are he’s loyal, kind to my family, doesn’t yell or swear at me. Whenever i tell him that we’re incompatible and I’m done with him he says I’m leaving him due to lack of good sex or cause I have money. He just refuses to acknowledge that he has no motivation and ambition in life. During past year i have paid for everything (vacations, his business, our household expenses and his lifestyle) expecting him to use the resources and at least learn English or come up with a plan but nothing. Im often embarrassed of him in public as he can’t hold a normal conversation and says nonsense that is not scientifically proven.
Am I expecting too much?
I have asked him to move out and he became frantic and accused me of being a bigot and holding over his head how I’ve paid for everything and how I wanted him only for sex. Please help me and give me your thoughts.