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  1. You know what, they are an unwanted intrusion in my life. I was simply trying to make something positive out of something awkward and uncomfortable. I hadn’t been in touch with him prior to this and never thought I would see him again. I don’t believe she is jealous and never said that. I said a threat - to her mental health, or something I don’t know. I don’t want to be “pals”. Since I contacted his sister it had been a year. I’m not bombarding them or harassing. I sent one message. The only reason I’m asking for advice now is because I’m going back to work soon. You may be a “wise man”’, but you are not a very nice man.
  2. Yes that’s very true. I hadn’t really thought about that. I’ve seen them both from a distance and walked past her one day and I could see her watching me (lumbering along in my 35 week pregnant state lol). It was a few months after that that her request went in. Maybe she’s decided ima. Threat based on things he’s said too. It’s hard to know. I’ll just be my usual friendly self and try to be confident.
  3. I get what you’re saying. What myself and my husband would do was my only point of reference, which was why I was friendly. I’ll be more aware now.
  4. I know right!!? She must be the jealous type. Maybe there’s more to it that I don’t know. That’s not my issue though. I feel relieved to know I’m not the only one who didn’t think this was a big deal.
  5. I won’t do any more contacting that’s for sure. I was just hoping to break the ice after so long and thought we were on friendly terms.
  6. Being a wife myself for many years, I wouldn’t be bothered at all. I trust my husband implicitly and vice versa. My husband is such a friendly guy that I know he would say hello to an ex and is actually still on friendly terms with his first gf.
  7. I suppose because I work there I feel a bit of a professional obligation to be nice, because I know him.
  8. Thank you! I’ve spoken to many many friends about this and they also think it’s bizarre! I honestly did not think it was a big deal to tell him to say hi. The only reason I contacted his sister was because I had no way of contacting him. I don’t think she thought it was an issue either, as she replied quickly and was lovely. I was really hoping he would, simply just to get it out of the way before I went on maternity leave.
  9. Yes ok you’re right. I’m not supposed to know. Haha
  10. Thanks for that. That’s what I’m leaning towards doing too. So you think approach them? What do you mean - for all I know nothing happened?
  11. Yes I am in some ways. We are Facebook friends, went to uni together and work in the same industry so see each other at various events. That’s why I messaged her. I ummed and aaahed for a week about whether to even say anything, but I didn’t want to seem rude. I actually thought by doing that, he would see that I was ok about it.
  12. That’s what I’m hoping. I think because it’s been prolonged it’s being built up to be bigger than it is.
  13. I probably am a little territorial. I’ve been there for 13 years and feel very comfortable. So to now feel uncomfortable is new. It’s not really about being disliked. I get that they would want to avoid me in some ways and after an initial hello I would be avoiding them too. I don’t want anything more than a greeting to come from it. I’m probably just being a bit selfish because i want to feel confident again going to work, especially after being on leave.
  14. I’m not really dwelling on it or our history together. I don’t think I want too much for someone to be polite. I had no thought about either of them until they turned up at my workplace so unfortunately the past has been brought into the present. I am respecting their wishes. I was hoping to be the bigger person and be mature about it all. I didn’t think it was a big deal to say hello.
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