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  1. Thank you to all of you for responding! That is also one of the many reasons, I am glad, I found my current girlfriend. Not only is she more mentally capable of handling things like that, I think, she also care more about me than my ex. And yes, as you say, it is a good thing she left at the time, otherwise she probably would have left later in life, which only would have made it worse. But I don't know if one can call it minor, but that is a big discussion for itself. If she stopped loving me, then I can see, there wouldn't be any sense in staying. And there were more dysfuncti
  2. Hello everyone reading this. First of all I hope everyone is doing okay during the corona virus. Second of all, about 1½ year ago I spent quite a lot of time on this forum, as I had just been through a breakup with my girlfriend, and it was the most painful experience I have ever been through. I promised myself that I would eventually return and give something back to this forum, as I at the time sought help an read through endless "get back together" stories, which I am grateful of. So sit back and read - although with caution. If you are in the middle of your own breakup process, and all you
  3. No, it wasn't what I wanted to hear, because you were quick enough to jump to conclusions about me and my personal life, which I honestly thought was unjustified. The advises have now been replied, and those I am thankful for. All I want here is to be the good guy, so I just wanted some insight about what to do here. And if doing nothing is the right thing to do, then so be it.
  4. Well, about the lies, it was really an answer to another reply in this thread - I don't have much expertise with this, but I can understand if that was confusing. But regarding my friend, you have no idea of how he got info about it, and I don't want to put all the details about that on the table, as it is really not relevant for my post. I don't care what you think about my friend. And don't make assumptions about me, when you clearly don't know it. I made a post to blow off some steam. So don't try and twist this the way you see fit or perhaps making it about something in your own life, whi
  5. Well, first of all I never asked for any information about her, so don't try to insult me. My best friend happened to tell me this, as I told him, I didn't want to go for her. He did it, so I was prepared, if she eventually came back. People tell each other stuff, if they feel secure about that person, and that's just how it is where I come from. Awfull for my ex that the information came back to me, and as for me, I haven't told anyone about it. I have just reflected upon in. And I still believe it to be her, like it or not. The way I see it, it seems way to random. As for reconciliation,
  6. Hello all you awesome people! Long story short my now ex girlfriend broke up with me half a year ago, which let me to block her on everything this summer. I know for a fact from my best friend, who has been speaking with one of her good friends that she isn't taking it too well - being confused and sad about me moving on and seeing other people - she even considered taking me back apparently, so she wouldn't have do deal with it, but she was talked out of it by her friend. This I was told a couple of months ago. So last night about 2 am... I was awakened by my doorbell outside the apartment
  7. Hey guys, thought that I would share some insight on my own experiences dealing with breakup, as I have been down the road (still going, but not so tough anymore), and because it has been a great help using this forum. Long story short I was together with my girlfriend for almost two years. She was the love of my life, and I took the breakup seriously bad. I tried to win her back, but we never managed to get back together. It's now two months since we unoficcialy broke up for good, and I have pretty much blocked her on all social media - there has been a couple of times where we contacted e
  8. I get what you say. I truly want to get over her. But at the same time I feel torn - because of what we had. Again I truly believe it could have been avoided. I also know that if we had been compatible together we would have found a solution before it got to this. But sometimes I believe people got to grow before that can happen. But again, I get what you say, and I deeply appreciate it.
  9. But would you honestly say, my best chance of getting her back one day would be to befriend her? I know and understand that it would be a longshot, and that both her and I would have to heal and undergo some growing.
  10. Thank you for your response, Cherylyn. I just feel like if I do, what you are suggesting, then I will never be able to let go of her. I am affraid that all of these feelings I am trying to force away that they will just instantly come back. But I don't know.
  11. Thank you for your responses. I'll act civil without putting more contact into it. Whether or not it is manipulative behaviour, I think is up to the gods to decide. I am truly doing it also to simply move on and have the time of my life. I have no intention on waiting for her, as I will not wait arround for someone who potentially never comes back. But that is one thing, forgetting about her is another one. I want to forget about her, and I don't want to be in this situation, and yet it is the one thing I can't. There was a time when she used to tell me, she loved me, wanted to get married
  12. Well, we haven't begun the season yet because of sommer vacation, so there hasn't been a chance for us yet to meet.
  13. Hello everyone. I have currently been NC with my ex girlfriend for little over a month now. It's probably the hardest thing I have ever done, and I hate every minute of it, but I also know it's the only thing I can do now. My question is how do you stay in NC, when you've got a mutual social life? We are both into gymnastics 2-3 times a week, and this is where we met almost 3 years ago. Our whole social life is in this sport, and more often than not we go out to have a few drinks as a group. But how do you manage to maintain NC through all of that? I know dropping the sport is not gonna happen
  14. I have currently been in NC with my exgirlfriend for 4 weeks now. Gotta say this thread is a joy to read. I have read 120 pages, and it gives me great comfort. I hope one day to share my own story with you guys. Will share a story about my parrents though. When my parrents first dated each other, they quickly moved in together. My mother got extremely jalous on one of my dads ex girlfriends. The ex actually ended up with my dads brother, and whenever they all were together, she for fun would make my mother jalous. In the end my mother couldn't handdle it, and they went apart. A week later m
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