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I just wanted to say... I like anchovies too. I eat them deep fried with lime. I don't think there's any harm in voicing what works or doesn't work. Although for the most part, I will say that this forum is very mild in comparison to other forums. The crowd here is smaller and there's always some ongoing discussion so I'm thankful for that and for the moderators who do a very good job keeping this place running. Being aware of the other members and their general disposition (strengths/weaknesses) helps also. I didn't know anyone here or what they were like when I first started posting and I'm sure I offended quite a lot of people. I see each member as a person with some background, likes, dislikes. You should stick around, Firelily. Get to know a few people a bit more, read and post with us. With that kind of effort put into the analysis of a website, you would be great helping others. I'd like to see more of your posts.

It's pretty happy! Some days are muddy and rainy but that's ok too. Makes the green appear greener and more blooms all around.

I think of this place like a meadow of wildflowers. Some stick out taller than others and all different shapes and colours. :)

I want to see the pumpkins! Also those movies... gosh, was it that far back. I liked The Last of the Mohicans when it came out. I think I will re-watch it this weekend. You gave me an idea.

I completely agree about accountability and responsibility. (re: post #118). I think I understand a little better where you're coming from, Firelily. You've repeated the concept about fragility several times in the thread here and that's where you and I differ. I don't see the majority of individuals partaking in the discussion as fragile - it doesn't cross my mind. There are instances where a person's posting style, thought process or material might suggest that there are mental health issues or some kind of emotional problems but the vast majority of members are fairly levelheaded and quite fair and open in their thoughts. I really haven't had a single bad experience with anyone here on ENA in this forum. Differences, yes. Some jousting and elbowing (similar to siblings poking each other in the backseat of a long drive), yes, but I can't say I have anything against anyone here and I respect those who give respect. Most of all I'm very grateful that the forum is available for those who want to share thoughts or ideas or concepts. From you, I've learned that there is a predisposition in considering OPs as fragile (a premise). I see OPs as equals, as people just like me and if I came for answers I'd want to know the straight honest truth of how the situation appears. Of course not all the details are privy in a one-dimensional box or a wall of text but we take it for what it is. The reason why I'm here is because I'm processing something in my personal life (loss of a loved one). I'd say the most difficult threads for me are those involving death and issues surrounding death or illness. If this is my fragile or weak spot, on any given day, I tend not to frequent threads that speak about those things. On the instances I have, I know I didn't react well. I'm still processing. But the fact that I tried and the forum challenged me and evoked that response out of me tells me that I'm not completely there. I know I'm not fragile in any sense of the word and that's why I keep trying to look at things from a different perspective. If it shakes me up, there's probably a reason. If it doesn't as your comments seem peculiar and different to me (you don't bother me, by the way), I'm still open to learn. I think bad often balances out with good if we're willing to look for it.

You're not going to gain many followers with vigilantism or force, aggression, misunderstandings and personal agenda. The two most active members in this thread are the OP and one other member and neither seem to have been very active in helping anyone in the past few months except to create and promote negative commentary on the site instead of elevating it and creating safe spaces for discussion. There seems to be irony in that. There are a few threads available currently as we speak waiting for help or ideas. A person's opinion encompasses thought, expression, norms, culture, disposition and personality. I think if you make the effort to get to know people, you'll realize an inter-connectedness in the community here. If you have walls up and think that you're better than the majority or others on the forum, you won't get much from the forum. You will continue to live with the sense of vigilantism, self-entitlement and isolation. Unfortunately your views will be as negative throughout as they were to start. There is a mirroring effect and I tend to look at a person's overall posts to get a general idea of what he/she is about instead of targeting one specific post. If a person is argumentative and appears to have a personal agenda, it won't benefit the discussion as a whole.

We should be the change we want to see.

lol don't worry. I know the feeling. There are large canvas sheets you can buy at an art store to protect your floors at home (if you're ever doing it at home). I like the lasso story too. I'm a lot like you. I can see the blues in the apple. Sometimes you have to work out your own style and just roll with it. Every mix of colour and technique you develop for yourself just makes you more practiced or knowledgeable for the next painting. You'll know how to create reds with that blueish hue next time to develop a purpleish red. Your teacher might have taught you about the colour wheel too and cool reds or warm reds. The top right apple looks more realistic, to me, because it more accurately reflects different hues around a room from blues to reds and is not a flat or traditional red. Good for you for just letting her know her style wasn't quite working. Don't feel bad about that.

I like the top right apple most too. The depth there and the blue are good contrast against the redness of the apple itself and you seem to have gotten the angle of the light bouncing off of it really well. Did you layer red on top of the blue in the darkest areas of the top right apple?

Does it have batteries? The battery inside might be running low. The newer detectors all have batteries.

I laughed reading this because it happened to me over the weekend. A young man was doing groceries and on the phone and parked his big cart right in the middle while deliberating with the person on the phone what to buy. No one could get through in both directions and the meat lady came out to restock also looking perplexed and displeased at the traffic jam.

Seems very unjust and unfair to the company, not to mention the people who have to cover for him while he's away.

For some reason I cannot like a post in this thread. Great thoughts, Batya. I'm also definitely learning still. Wow. Why did the company stop asking for proof? Shouldn't this be more reason to ask for proof.... ? Sorry to say the obvious. What's going on??

I had a friend growing up like that... but her whole family was like that though (super outspoken)so she never felt like she was doing anything wrong. I got more and more quiet the longer we hung out and my mum actually called me out on it and said I wasn't ever happy coming back from her house after a sleepover etc. We were maybe 13 or 14 at the time. Maybe I was trying too hard to impress her without knowing it but it drowned out my own thoughts. That's when I learned some people aren't wrong for being who they are... they just don't bring out the best in me, different filters, upbringing, personality etc. I don't know if that makes sense. That's really great that the person you met (not her friend) ended up being fabulous and friendly.

Yikes. What did she do /say? Sorry this happened.

Thanks... I give everyone decent room and never had issues before, not even motorcyclists, so this was a first for me. Anyway... all good! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Thanks, Camber. I rolled away, thinking the same thing. But then felt guilty for some reason. I don't know if it's the same motorcyclist who fingered me on my way home one day too - another day/separate occasion. He looked awfully similar. I didn't see him at all that day and always check and shoulder check. The next thing I knew he was leaning into my moving car in the lane beside me with his middle finger in my face in my window...

On my way into work I saw a motorcyclist in a heated argument with a driver in a car with the window rolled down. They were both pulled over. They were jabbing fingers in the air at each other and the motorcyclist still had his helmet on but looked very aggressive. So many cars passed by including mine. If it had escalated or a fight broke out (this didn't happen) what would you do? Is it advisable to pull over and call the cops?

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