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  1. I'm approaching the end of my junior year in high school and have been thinking of colleges, majors, and whatnot. Since it's remote learning, I feel a bit alone in the process and am unsure of which colleges I would enjoy attending, or how to discover more colleges of the majors I like. I definitely want to major in something art- or design-related, and have wanted to for a while (it's just something I've been building up to and had decided long before my junior year- I've been working on a portfolio and taking multiple art classes per week and the like), but I'd also like to have my options open and maybe minor in some STEM or language courses for fun, rather than attend an art school with only art courses provided. Some colleges I know that have a great art program while also having many other options include UCLA, Carnegie Mellon, and Brown, but I'm having some trouble finding similar colleges with a good art program as well as a wide range of courses that I could explore. Also just as a side note: I'm also looking for an internship or part-time job for the summer, but am having trouble finding one for my age (16yo) and qualifications (entry level). If anyone has any suggestions as for where to look or which places would accept, that'd be great too!
  2. I recently began going to a really intense badminton training camp (3 hours, 5 days a week, for 3 weeks) that cost $500. I love badminton and my parents know this, and that I wouldn't decide to take a day off unless I felt I truly needed it. However, I asked them if I could stay home tomorrow from training because I had just been feeling sore and nauseous from the intense exercise (especially because it felt really sudden because of quarantine). I endured the soreness thinking I could handle it and that it could go away in time, but today, I was aching all over my body during training and got a blister on my thumb, and it was affecting the effectiveness of the training (to put it simply, I was just too tired and beat down to do the drills properly-- my coach also pointed out that I seemed "out of it"). I am aware of how expensive this camp was and that my parents would most likely make me sleep it off and send me right back tomorrow, but I felt that it was a bigger waste of money if I kept training in this state and ended up injuring myself (and couldn't go to training anymore) rather than take one day off to fully recover. But my parents wouldn't let me take tomorrow off, and I tried calmly negotiating with them about the money and about how I needed rest, but they simply yelled back that I could just get a good night's sleep and just ask for easier drills tomorrow (which isn't how it works btw). Although needing to recover is part of the issue, it also hurts me that they cared more about getting their money's worth from the camp than about my physical wellbeing. I'm not sure whether or not I want to negotiate with them any further about taking the day off, because I feel that it would really just result in a lot of yelling and blaming from my parents, which really takes it out of my mental health. Should I keep trying to negotiate with them for the sake of my physical health or bite my tongue and endure it for the sake of my mental health?
  3. A lot of times when I have an embarrassing moment, I have trouble overthinking what others thought of me in the moment. I am also aware that other people generally don't care in the big picture and that I'm the only one stressing over it when it's really not that big of a deal, but I can't help but keep overthinking my mess-ups or embarrassing moments even when I know they're not really something to stress over. How can i stop or distract myself from overthinking these embarrassing moments? (By embarrassing moments, it ranges from not realizing I was being annoying or inconsiderate until later and then deeply regretting whatever I did to tripping over myself in public). I've heard a lot about self-care strategies like using a face mask, reading a book, taking a shower, or watching a movie, but I can't always be doing all these things, and it seems whatever free time I have not spent keeping myself busy, I seem to find myself remembering cringy moments from my past.
  4. exactly as the title says, I've heard many fitness gurus and forums tell me that strength training is a great way to build lean muscle mass and lose weight. I would like to strength train, but i don't know where to start. I don't know of any gyms near me, nor do I know if I'd be allowed to use their equipment without a membership. I know the basics to weight lifting (I learned it through P.E. class of my freshman year), and I think I'd know what to do if I was simply in the right environment with the right equipment, I just don't know how to access it.
  5. female, 5'2", currently 112lbs
  6. I'm already really fit, I exercise 8.5 hours a week. 1 hour 15 mins of taekwondo on Tues and Thurs, 4 hours of badminton on Sat, and 2 hours of badminton on Sunday. I exercise so much that I'm sore almost 24/7. But I am not losing weight or burning fat?? I am also eating at a calorie deficit but it has been almost a month, and I see no change. Am I doing something wrong?
  7. I actually don't talk to many guys at school because of this reason (only two or three). But to the guys out there, do you guys think of this as craving attention? I've always wondered and I'm curious about your opinions on this (ofc women can answer too, I'm open to everyone's opinions :)) Also I don't mean it in the sense that they're flirting, being extra touchy, or wearing super showy clothes specifically only around boys, but rather as in they happen to be good friends (or at least acquaintances) with almost every guy in the grade.
  8. There are many things I'm too afraid to do (e.g. asking a crush out, etc.) and many things I can't do due to stress from school. This makes me scared that I'm wasting my youth, and that ten years later, I'll look back on these high school years and wish I had done all these things while I could. Any tips to preventing a wasted youth? (I've heard "live in the moment" and things like that, but how do I do it, specifically?)
  9. I struggle a lot with self compassion, and I'm sure a lot of other people do as well. Its mainly due to a constant fear of becoming arrogant or conceited from too much self compassion (if that's how it even work lol). The problem is that every time i become upset/feel down and try to cheer myself up, I'll always think that someone somewhere has it worse than me, and that my problems and struggles are irrelevant and miniscule compared to theirs, and I stop myself. At this point, I have no clue at all how to practice self compassion. Sure, I'll stare into the mirror and tell myself "yes, you can do it" but those words just feel empty and repetitive. p.s. Should I go see a therapist? I've thought about it, but I feel like if I tried to go see one, I would be wasting precious time that could be well-spent on other patients that need more help than me.
  10. yun


    I'm trying to eat healthier and lose weight, but my school doesn't exactly provide very healthy foods. They usually serve pizza, cup noodles, or a "specialty" that changes throughout the week (usually burger or tacos). I can't bring food from home, since all the leftovers always go to my parents' lunches. Should I just skip lunch every school day to avoid eating the unhealthy foods they serve?
  11. We all have a couple flaws here and there that we wish we could fix (e.g. crooked tooth, voice too loud??, etc), but my insecurities (I worry about my overall body shape,, mainly the thighs) have begun creating setbacks in my everyday life. Now I feel like I'm too fat to wear shorts/skirts or go outside or hang out with my skinny friends, and looking into the mirror always leaves me feeling depressed. I've felt this way for a long time (maybe 2 or 3 years now?), my friends and family just think that I'm on a temporary diet, but it is much worse than that in reality. I want to be confident again, and be able to wear shorts, skirts, skinny jeans, and all those stylish clothes without a care in the world. I want to be happy again, like I once was before my insecurities developed, but I don't know how to be. Please help//
  12. Many of you have probably dealt with something like this before, but I am still inexperienced and need some advice on what to do when your love is unrequited. I have a crush on this boy on my high school badminton team (same grade, we just don't talk often), but I'm not sure he feels the same way (I'm also really insecure about my body shape/weight, so I'm 99% sure he doesn't like me back). I never thought I would like someone to the point where I would even think of them liking me back, but this time my heart aches when I see him with other girls (he is neighbors with my best friend, but she doesn't know I like him, and they're really close). I've never experienced this ache before, but it's painful and I'm unsure of what to do. I am extremely shy and have never told anyone (not even my closest friends) when I have a crush on someone, and I definitely don't plan to tell him (any time soon anyway). He's a really funny and nice guy, and I would love to get closer, but I feel like I should try to get over this crush before it hurts me anymore. Any advice?
  13. During badminton practice (for high school), we were practicing girls doubles, when both my partner and I went for the birdie at the same time. My partner was a strong player, and when she swung, the racket hit me right in the mouth, causing my lips to start bleeding (both upper and bottom) and immediately sending me into tears of pain. She didn't apologize, and acted as if nothing had happened. I think she might have genuinely not known that she had hit me, but it still hurts a lot and still causes me some trouble when eating (my parents applied medication, but the effect is slow). I kind of doubt that she doesn't know she hit me because we made eye contact directly after her racket hit me (I was in tears), but she is generally a nice person and I also doubt that she would just not apologize after accidentally swinging metal to someone's face at high speed and power (and knowing it).
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