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  1. Once again I've screwed myself. Went out with this girl for 5 months. She broke up with me, hooked up with another guy the next day. Regretted every min. of it. It's 2 months later, and we're kind of "together" , but it's destroying me as now that we're getting close again, all the resentment for what she did to me, and the hurt is coming back. What do i do? Tell her i need a lot of space? Help me! - Mike
  2. After a long struggle, and a final conclusion that I love this girl, but there is no way possible I can be with her anymore because she hurt me twice, and I'm in no position to be hurt again by her, I am willing to just be "friends" and to attempt to let her go. Now, how is it that I don't let it bother me when she begins to have sexual relationships with other guys? I don't know why, but it kills!!! - Mike
  3. If you guys have been keeping up to date on my story: My ex g/f did me dirty. Broke up with me, and then hooked up with another guy the next night. Past 2 weeks have been crazy. She puts up a fake front of not caring, but last night she spilled her guts to me and told me that sh eknows damn well what she lost and that she MADE A MISTAKE. We had sex last night ... Was that the worst mistake i've ever made in my life? - Michael
  4. If you guys have been keeping up to date on my situation .. here's the deal ... My ex who broke up with me and hooked up with someone else the next day and then put on a fake front that she was "perfectly fine" and happy gave me a call tonight. Being that I'm absolutely disgusted with her actions, anything she said to me over the phone resulted in an "That's nice, I don't believe a word you say." She's a compulsive liar, and the truth is, I'm too smart for that. Nothing she has said she's been able to back with ACTIONS, which are what count. Her doing that to me (another guy) one day after, showed what her TRUE feelings were. Even though she denies that. It's ACTIONS that count. I did project myself VERY MEAN, and VERY DISGUSTED with everything she has done to me. It also in a sense shows me how in reality i DO NOT want to be with her, but my heart is what kicks my own ass because it won't listen to my brain. Do i keep doing what I'm doing? Do i change something? I'm hurting .. - Michael Please help!
  5. The latest .... (this weekend) Friday night I decide to go out and party with my friends. Get drunk, have fun. My friends tell me that they saw her at a Miami Heat game with 2 guys (destroyed my inside), but THIS TIME, I didn't let it ruin my life as I have decided it's time to move on .... Saturday Night .. I went to a club ... partied .. and saw her at the end of the night at aroudn 4 a.m. Being that I was drunk, I walked up to her and told her that I wanted to speak to her (as its been about a week and a half). We started to walk, and talk. I eventually took her back to my house and we sat in my car until about 7 in the morning takling about things. She began to say that she misses me, was sorry, and all of this, and in my mind for the first time ever, i regarded all of it as being *beep*. Sunday morning she called me, and attempted to make things "the way they used to be". Got her hopes up, and thought deep down inside of her that I was going to take her back, just like all the other times. The thing is, ENotAlone has made me 1000 X's stronger than I've ever been before. After telling me she misses me, she made a mistake, and all the other crap, I told her that it was time for both her and I to move on. Now is when the tables have turned and she is beginning to realize what she's lost. I told her that because I was with her for 4 months I would eventually be her friend, but that right now i was not in the position to do that and that she's going toh ave to give me my space before I can consider going into a friendship. I seriously think she's feeling the pain now. Here's my problem: This girl has hurt me more than anyone ever has in my entire life. Yet, i still loved her so much , thats' freaking weird. On top of that, she has the balls to tell me that she has no feelings for and "hates" the kid which she hooked up with ONE DAY AFTER BREAKING UP WITH ME, and people have come up to me and told me that they have been chilling, RECENTLY. *beep*, for all I know, they still hook up, and she's trying to play mind games with me that just aren't working anymore. I'm trying to move on but I'm strugggling Another problem of mine is that I constantly think of what I'm giogn to do if one of my close friends takes this opportunity to try and get into her pants. I know i should move on and not care anymore, but I have about 5,000 friends, and only consider 2 to be TRUE and never do this to me. I don't like to constantly worry about something like this, as I'm looking more than ever towards the future, as i WANT TO GET OVER HER. I'm battling my feelings, while still trying to remain strong. I completely understand that she has done me dirty, and understand that I'm going to move on. (Do you know how hard it was to turn her begging self down on Sunday morning?) I just need some advice on how to get the balls rolling in an even more positive direction. I have subconsciously been making her feel bad in school as she has done to me in the past. (AKA: hugging girls, being happy, etc... but the cool part is .. it's NOT AN ACT. My feelings for her are fading ... ) I'm looking for some advice, and direction to make my final move in not caring about what this girl does that will eventually hurt me in the future. I'm ready to move the *beep* on .. and find someone who can appreciate the amazing boyfriend that I am. Just recently she's been beginning to realize what she's lost ... trying to speak to me, leaving me messages, trying to prompt me to care for what she has to say after she hurt me so badly. I won't give in. But damn, I want to get over her, this is crazy stress, this was the love of my life .. sadly enough, i want her gone because these feelings are driving me up the walls Please help, - Michael
  6. You're on the right track Just make sure to keep thinking that if you two are no longer together ... it's HIM that lost YOU. You will lead a very successful life and shary many happy times with someone you're even MORE compatible with. Cheers, - Mike
  7. My original Posting was the following: ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- This was my first love. I did absolutely EVERYTHING for this girl .. treated her right .. never ever ever thought about cheating on her..took her to expensive dinners ... treated her like a queen... All is well .. then she lies to me about another guy 2 months into the relationship ... after 4 days of begging, i TAKE HER BACK like an IDDIOT. 2 months later, on the day that we are together for 4 months, the EXACT day, she breaks up with me.. tells me her mind is on "other people, and other things". I now am going to try and move on ... not speak to her etc.. This was a Friday night. I am so sad i try to go out with my friends, and manage to find myself back in bed crying, thinking that she was doing the same. Monday comes, and she beggs me to let me tell her ONE thing. Tells me that she did a couple of things she regretted this weekend, and that one was hooking up with another guy. the guy she almost cheated on me with to begin with. I'm so ego-cracked, heart broken, and *beep* off, that i don't know what to do .. and I've never had to move on before, that I don' tknow wha tthe *beep* to do. I miss her, but hate her .... ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- An update ... I took some of the ENotAlone posters advice and totally blocked this girl from my life. Problem is, I go to school with her, and that's absolute torture. What she was originally doing to me was destroying my life ... She knew that I was still absolutely in love with her, so when she walked the halls and stuff, she would act as if nothing happened and she was the happiest girl in the world. Per advice from other people, I was told to act the exact same way ... and the good thing is .. it's been 1 week and it's no longer becoming an ACT! I'm actually starting not to care anymore, and I think it's getting to her head ... Having no communication with her is doing a great job in helping me get over her, but please tell me if this is normal ... Whenever I'm a bit tipsy and/or under the influence, I start to miss her immensely, and the only thing I want to do is pick up the phone and call her. But reality is , she F*CKED me over and she doesn't even deserve a smile at this point in time. What do i do? At times I feel there is noone better, and that I can't be alone .. even though logically theres obviously someone better than her as she treated me so poorly. Advice as to how I continue working towards getting over her, and moving on with my life would be greatly appreciated. This is the first time I've given in to a girl, and I'm not sure how to move on ... Understanding that it's OVER has really helped me a lot ... and understanding that she ALREADY DID hook up with another guy and accepting all of that is helping a lot also. I just don't like the fact that my mind still battles thoughts like .. "Maybe because you love her so much you should go back with her .. " when deep down inside, that is NOT what I want .. even though it is .. but ahh! help me! - Michael
  8. This is the story. This was my first love. I did absolutely EVERYTHING for this girl .. treated her right .. never ever ever thought about cheating on her..took her to expensive dinners ... treated her like a queen... All is well .. then she lies to me about another guy 2 months into the relationship ... after 4 days of begging, i TAKE HER BACK like an IDDIOT. 2 months later, on the day that we are together for 4 months, the EXACT day, she breaks up with me.. tells me her mind is on "other people, and other things". I now am going to try and move on ... not speak to her etc.. This was a Friday night. I am so sad i try to go out with my friends, and manage to find myself back in bed crying, thinking that she was doing the same. Monday comes, and she beggs me to let me tell her ONE thing. Tells me that she did a couple of things she regretted this weekend, and that one was hooking up with another guy. the guy she almost cheated on me with to begin with. I'm so ego-cracked, heart broken, and pissed off, that i don't know what to do .. and I've never had to move on before, that I don' tknow wha tthe hell to do. I miss her, but hate her .... Help Me, - Mike
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