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  1. Hi Shannon, I totally get you girl. It's tough. I'm in the same boat, I got out of the dating/love game after some long-term relationships one after the other and I've never managed to get back in there, despite wanting to. It's been 8 years which I can't quite believe! Like you I've been doing some soul searching and work on myself, but unlike you I still have a long way to go. I can relate to your self doubt and the feelings you describe, I think this is normal (though not exactly healthy!) especially if you worry about time passing by etc and there is a certain amount of pressure from society etc. I find it hard not to feel jealous or demoralised when I see so many young couples married and starting families and I am so far from that, but that is my own issue not theirs. I say keep doing you, focus on self love like you have been. There's a book called Who Says You Can't You Do I highly recommend which talks about mindset (for life in general) and positive visualisation etc and is backed up by science it isn't all airy fairy. Give this a read, keep developing yourself and putting yourself (safely) out there. Dating experience is always good to build up if you're comfortable with that. All the best lovely!
  2. It definitely sounds like you have some stuff to work through, and therapy or CBT will be best for that. All I will say from my heart to yours, is that you truly are not alone. So many people - male and female - feel this way. Even if it's not as extreme as your thinking, many people feel their partner will fancy someone more than them or they feel inferior to others. There is so much more to you than how you look. Who you are is more than skin deep. I recommend, and challenge, you to delve into some selfcare. Find what makes you feel good and do a little bit if it every day. Pamper yourself, relax, get some healthy endorphins, find a new hobby, learn something new, do your favourite thing, surround yourself with good people. Take care of yourself and you will shine from the inside out my lovely. Just remember you deserve happiness as much as anyone.
  3. Thanks so much for the replies, I really appreciate the solid advice and supportive words. I know that I desperately need out and to be honest once I've moved out again I don't think we'll keep in contact. I snapped and said something to her earlier after she made yet another degrading comment and she actually apologised and saud she didn't mean anything by it. She's got a lot of issues that are beyond my help now I've realised in recent years and she is so toxic to my happiness I just feel so guilty for feeling this way cause she's my mum y'know?
  4. Hi everyone, I'm in a bit of a transition stage in my life at the mo and to cut a long story short I've moved in with my mum for a few months while I get money together for a house deposit and find a decent place. We have always had a strained relationship but it has gotten better in recent years. When I was growing up she was very critical of me and made daily comments about how I looked, especially my weight. I have carried a bit extra for most if my life except for a couple of stages where I lost an extreme amount of weight in extreme ways. I have recently put some weight back on and now fall into the 'overweight category which has made me feel quite bad about myself but she is treating me as if I'm morbidly obese and is making me feel so disgusted with myself and ashamed of what I see when I look in the mirror. I feel myself losing confidence, which I worked so hard to build, and slipping back into old habits like buying diet pills, skipping meals, obsessing over exercise and taking heavy detox drinks etc. I feel so terrible about myself I genuinely feel like a teenager again. Every day these past few weeks she has made negative, nasty digs about how I've "let myself go" and "need to get back on track". I know it sounds silly but I just feel so low right now and every comment from her eats away at my self-esteem a little more. I know parents should challenge you to be your best self but she ignores everything except my appearance and I only ever hear negative words come from her mouth. This can't be right??
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