OmegaQuest

Last night when I wanted to make Love, she said she was tired, so I just went to bed and she finished watching TV. When I woke up this morning, there was a note on my dry erase board from her saying: My reply was: We will see her reply when I get home...

Well, not much has changed. She now says that it hurts. Is there anything I can do to make it not hurt as much? I have told her that if we have sex more often, it will get better in time. I have tried everything from going slow, to lotion... Nothing seems to help. I have even tried to compromise with her and tell her that 3 times a week would be good for me, and she could pick the times and days... but she didn't like that idea. I don't know what to do. I know I Love Her and I am not willing to get a divorce. Thanks for all your help. Also are any of you professionals or just surfers? ](*,)

I am going to give her a little more time (After our Honeymoon next week) and go from there. She keeps saying that its only been 5 days and to wait more. I reply back that even after waiting a few more days and we do have sex once, It will be right back where we were.. I'm sorry but I agree that a Strong Marriage is not only about your feelings about someone, but also physical, She just doesn't see this... It really hurts what she is doing to me, and yet, she doesn't seem to care. Does anyone have any Ideas I can do that might get a more Immediate rise out of her? I have tried Flowers, Candles, Candy ....

We were together a little over a year before we got married. We got married March 19, 2005. I was her first to have sex with, but the excuses before we were married was just that, we were not married. So we maybe had sex once a month after a lot of persistence each time... Also the remarks about maybe she's worried about getting pregnant. She is on the pill, so I know that's not the problem. I Love my Wife, but when I get denied so many times my mind starts to wonder and think I must be doing something wrong.... When I tried to talk to her about this yesterday, we got into an about it. And Nothing ever comes out of it but more excuses as to why...

I just got married 5 days ago. We have had sex on our wedding night once and that's it. My wife is never in the mood for sex. She likes to cuddle but nothing else. Every time I try to have sex with her, there's always an excuse... I have tried everything, from Rubbing feet To Cooking Dinner. Nothing ever gets her in the mood. She has told me that she doesn't know why Sex is so important to me. And I reply that I don't see why Sex is the least important thing to her. A strong Sex relationship is apart of a strong marriage. Is this normal or is there something wrong? Please Help!!! P.S. We have not been married before, and have no kids. She is 23 and I am 26.