Nala02

Thankies Gradle. Yeah who knows, i could run into him and he could still love me and its just been lust with her, one can always hope Its so hard when you fall in love with someone and u think ur done over them but ur not. He was my everything and I threw it away, but then again he was treating me badly. Nala02

I have no intensions of tryin to break it up between them. whatever is meant to be willl be, just... i have so much i wanna say to him but i know that while hes with her he dont care about me, i dotn know... im just confused on a lot of things. Nala02

Thanks for all the replies so far.... I know there may be someone else out there im meant to be with but somehow I see this is all as a big mistake and him and I will be togther in the future, I just get this vibe. Do I sound weird? lol Nala02

Have you ever done anything that you still regret 3 years later? Im in that situation.... I was with my ex Adam for 2 1/2 years. I broke things off cuz he was treating me real bad. I was young and stupid I guess. I was with another guy at the time i dumped him, I just thought he deserved it. so 4 months after we split, he contacted me, we hung out off and on for a few months. He was undecided he wanted to get back togther but still loved me. We both were dating other ppl. Until...she came into his life. I guess its what goes around comes around. Pretty much he dropped me for her. shes 18 and hes 22 now. i am also 22. he is still at home living and she is there with him living. It will be a year in aug. since I last talked to him, but i pass him a lot on the road cuz he drives a lumber truck for his town. Now im to the point that Im finding out I still truly love him, sorry for what I did, I would do anything to be with him, I am so totally love sick! I know i was a b**** what I did to him, you can tell me I am, im not afraid to myself that. Just.. is or has anyone been in this situation? Replies are appreciated. Nala02

Ok, heres the update so far... Basically he has went from a total no of never dating to a maybe, i dont know. We talked about it a few nights ago, said hes never gave up on dating me, just we're not on the same level on things and Im not as experieced as him, and what he means by that is hes been hurt this way and that, it was a long convo. Said that when I get on the same level as him, we can date. I dont know the whole thing is confusing!! Nala02 What do you think?

well see he has told me theres no strong feelings as I do him but last night , I think he does, he has been burned bad in the past. I think yes hes interested as much as I as in him.

I have posted before about my friend Cody and I. To sum it up quick and get to now, well basically had a 1st date, I moved to fast, wanting him to cuddle up and stuff with me, he decided there was no feelings from him to me and so just wants to be friends, Ok, yesterday we hung out all day, I didnt leave his house till 8 this morning, we ended up kissing and hugging, a lil hot and heavy, both of us wanted to, i asked him if he would ever change his mind about dating me and he kind of looked deep in my eyes and said maybe. So do you think this is a good sign or what? Nala02

Yeah Cody and I talk everynight, we both work 2nd and also hang out whenever we can. Im hopin he will change his mind.

hey, I know how u feel about pushing guys away, I just did recently didnt even know i was. Great guy ive known for 3 years been talkin to each other the past 7 months decide to date and i screw it up the night of our first and last date! i wanted to cuddle and and kiss way too fast, now he just wants to be friends, everyone is tellin me if i dont push anything on him he might change his mind and come back around what do you think? Nala02

is it possible that guys come back around even if at this time do not share the same feelings?

can someone else help me out?

well see yes we have known each other for 3 years but.. only met once or twice through someone else, so this was a whole new thing of still getting to know each other.

so what should i do now? and besides he kissed me first, i never went for it.

Ok, I was dating my friend Cody whom I met over 3 years ago and havent seen him since then, just up till 7 months ago we started talkin online for the 1st time, well about 2 weeks ago we did some major flirting online and decided to meet up in person, then we had our first date last sat. things went great! we had our first kiss, told me he wanted to still date slowly, then build up a relationship well all of that has changed. Well 2 nights ago he got online to tell me that his feelings werent gonna be the same as I felt for him and he has given up on dating me for good I guess, sounds that way anyways, he still wants to be great friends and hang out. I mean I dont understand it, last sat. he was all for getting wtih me and now hes not. What do you think?

Heres the situation... My first love lives 2 hours away from me, we still have a very strong connection, hes had a g/f for quite a while, we email frequently to each other almost every day, I told him about 2 weeks ago how I truly felt cuz being single for a while now ive had time to think about what I truly want, I know he has a g/f but I needed to tell him. He replied back and said him and her were serious and was sorry if he had hurt me and said yes we stil have a strong connection. So I went a couple days w/o emailin cuz I was very hurt but then i emailed him and said I was sorry for getting upset and it was how life was suppose to be right now. So this past Thur. he emailed me was all cheery and bubbly when he emailed me like he was majorly missing me , told me after his school was out for the summer he wanted to come down and spend some time with me and went on to say I was right in sayin we dont know what the future holds, he didnt say anything about his g/f I didnt really ask cuz I didnt want to get my hopes up. I really do truly love him, I would love to try and 2 hour distance we've done it before but couldnt, im just on my knees I would love to be with him. Anyone have a good advice? Would be greatly appreciated. Nala02

I did not cheat on him.

I will try to make this short, Ive already posted in another forum about this but didnt get too many responses. My ex Dan and I dated way back our sophmore year of highschool off and on many times, I was never sure on my feelings for him, he was always crazy for me but I was never for him. So after that year we never dated again cuz I was with someone from my Junior year on through after highschool. We graduated in 02. Well after we graduated Dan went on to the navy, so we pretty much lost communication, well last Aug., Sept. he contacted me, still was love sick over me like always and I was single, still am, wanted me to date him, I wasnt sure of it, but I went for it. Turns out was great! Well great at first but.. it went downhill slowly... Our relationship always led to sex, he always told me I was never open enough, I dont know if it was cuz I had been away from him for so long but I just couldnt be open enough as he wanted. Then I messed up even more I guess. I have an ex, whom I thought was a close friend of mine whom I've had friends with benefits for lil over 2 years, which stopped when I got with Dan. Well Matt asked me if I would sleep with him behind Dan's back well heck yeah, I thought it was best Dan know about it cuz I did not want to hide it from him, well Dan was furious as any guy would be, told me he didnt want me Matt at all or talk to him and before he told me that I had already decided that for myself, well 2 weeks went by after that and I started talkin to Matt again, went behind Dans back when I did it, and so when Dan and I had an agruement I brought it up what I had been doin well that broke his trust factor with me, so I really messed up and so I think it was maybe a month after that he broke things off, said he no longer had feelings but after the break up he continued to call, email, wanted to see me and so I did cuz im crazy about him! Still am! Well just recently a month ago, was the last I seen him, he kissed me and asked me how much I wanted him back and then asked me how much it would take me to get over him? I thought that was crappy. We work for the same temp service and he goes in every Thur. and Friday and asks the one girl that is our friend if I had been in there earlier and talkin about him. I mean I dont get it, if he dont have feelings for me why is he askin about if I am talkin about him? I want him back so bad! He has a new girl hes been hanging out with and stuff, I havent tried to contact him, cuz last time I did he said I was lookin too needy and he said if I wanted him back to remember what he looks for in a girl and being needy isnt one of them. Some days im alright and others im not. Any advice is appreciated. Nala02

I have a bestest best friend, shes been a few other ppl in front of me for a good long while now, I bet the 2 of us havent hung out just the 2 of us like in 2 months since before last sat. has a guy living with her that went awall in the army, try to tell her that they can come get him even if he dont have no warrants on him. We had to cut our time short of hanging out last sat. night just like always so she could watch her friends kid its all the time, she yells at me cuz i work 5 days week when shes not like giving me the guilt trip and yet when i have my weekends free theres no time for me and her to hang out. what do you think?

Thanks so much for the advice Michelle Remember I posted that I thought that one girl was his g/f, turns out I found out today they are only friends, thank goodness. But yeah Him and I havent spoken in over a month now. So i dont know what will happen, I work 5 days a week and on the weekends try to occupy myself and try not to worry about him.

thanks so much for ur post, well like i said he wanted his space and hasnt came into contact with me i think its cuz of his new g/f , so i mean is my best bet to talk to him when he contacts me first?

Hello, I am new to this site and my first post. This is my situation. My ex and I dated way back in highschool, we graduated in 02. After we graduated we pretty much lost all communication with each other but this past Oct. we got back in contact, he got in contact with me, I wasnt seeing anyone and neither was he, he had just got out of the Navy. We dated for 3 months, the first 2 months were great but towards the end got bad, he started tellin me I wasnt open enough and we didnt have anything between us so broke things off, after the break up we hung out almost every weekend and kept in contact, he still kissed me and I always thought it meant something more. But just recently well as of like a month ago was the last I saw him, we kissed and he kept askin me how much I wanted him back and that was stupid for him to ask cuz he knew the answer and kept kissing me so and then asked me how much it was gonna take me to get over him? what a crappy question. I talked to him maybe 3 weeks ago online he went on to say it was wrong of me to of kissed him, but he kissed me first, that kind of made me mad and then went on to say we needed space, and now he supposbly has a new g/f and I feel so lost with out him, I know everyone that reads this will prolly think im stupid that I want him but I really do love him and care about him, I want him back. Im open to any advice. Thanks! Nala02