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So why the cuts on the arms? You say it's another problem? It seems strange to me that these problems would be unrelated, I would at least think they may be 'caused' by another problem, or that one of them 'causes' the other one... ...but this was before you told her about the shiny armored dude, right? Sounds nice but um... you didn't actually meet him yet did you? That sounds like a question to ask the therapist lady, once she's ready... Call me a little girl, but if I was in her place, I think I would want to hear about this too. Nicer too hear than the cutting, and probably not less interesting. Have you got any brothers/sisters, nosfetorious? And where's your dad in this story? Dunno... is the average Canadian an equally fanatic christian as the average American? Here in Belgium, you don't meet that many people who believe in it, most don't care at all about what the bible says...

Thank you. I'm 23 and I didn't realise that, I feel pretty ashamed. I really thought my girlfriend was saying that to make me feel better about myself... must've been overanalyzing. (And thank you for helping me understand my girlfriend.)

I didn't reallly expect these kinds of responses, I think I can hold it as long as I wish. I does start hurting after a while, but this can be minimized if I make sure my balls don't move ('shake') too much... and it's also allright if I just stop when it starts to hurt, just don't keep going (too long) after it starts to hurt because that can be painful. And in my case it doesn't have long-term effects (unless we should correct for sleeping less and its consequences). But I never timed it, I might want to try for a record... but I haven't really got time for that.

Thanks for the long response, Orion75. A lot of it makes sense to me.

I have a friend who had the exact same problems (except for the suicide-thing), and he tells me he's feeling much better since he stopped smoking some months back... not that I understand how this could've helped. I'll have a talk with him to find out whether it 'solved' his existentionlism-problem. Edit: Correction: He mainly has the existionalism-problem, but hasn't been diagnosed with dysthymia (although the symptoms could well fit him).

Sorry again for sounding cold, oddanonymous. Maybe I was a little too pessimistic because a couple of days before your post I realised I would never see a friend of mine again because I told him how I felt -- the reason why I found these boards. Maybe I'm a little pessimistic because it wasn't the first time this happened... just want to warn you not to interpret any 'signs' from him too much the way you would like too. And I would like to advice you to make certain he has no problem at all with it before you tell him how you feel -- if you ever tell him.

I don't really know. Maybe you should try to find out more about why she is acting like this towards you. From the information you give, I also seem to think that it is a problem 'within' here. Can't you find any clues in her past or so? Also, how old are you two? And did she have any previous boyfriends? I don't really have a decent view on the situation (I read your previous posts though) to give you much advice or anything...

Hey, I am taking you serious. And yes I guessed it was America. But does it not seem obvious to you what is wrong with the situation? (and that's what I tried pointing out -- not trying to make fun of you or anything)

So everyone says masturbation is good, but 'some guy' says the bible says (but doesn't specifically state) it isn't? And now you want to know who is wrong? Which country do you live in?

Wow, this almost sounds as if she's your mother. Hiding your usage would seem the obvious solution if it were, but not in this case. She'll be really pissed when she finds out you're still smoking... however as long as you do this often enough, she might eventually accept it. But the obvious thing you'll want to try is make her see weed is not heroin. It's not hard for me to understand she doesn't see this: as far as I can tell from your story, you never actually smoked in her presense. And I guess she doesn't actually have that much other stoner-friends, does she? So I guess she's scared, just like a mother (unfamiliar with weed) would be. (And no, I haven't actually been there)

OK thanks. I just HATE it when I get a piece of advice which contains the phrase "I was once like you", and it turns out to be from someone younger than me. But that is clearly not the case today. For starters, I can't make friends or get dates. It's been that way for as long as I can remember. This is probably the main cause. Maybe consider starting an "how to find friends"-topic in the friends&friendship-forum to get some good advice? And you probably would want to explain your situation a bit more in this case... like how's your self-confidence? How's your self-image? [OK, so reading some of your others posts: low self-esteem] Do you come out a lot? How's the relationship with/between your parents? Why do you have low self-esteem in the first place? Actually, you can without a doubt guess some of the advice you'll be given. Without knowing much about your situation I would guess you're stuck in a vicious circle you'll need to break (no self-confidence --> no friends ++ no friends --> no self-confidence). Good luck

That "lost half" popped in my mind and i typed it... i mentioned of being a missing part of me, that would fill me out if i stay near him... nothing of i can remind.. i had no traumatic experience except for a car accident once... which does not make sense I asked this because I had quite similar experiences to that... getting somewhat attracted (mainly affectionate (not focused on sexual feelings), desire for protection) to guys who 'resemble' me alot. ...and sometimes that kind of feels like a 'lost half' of me I see in them. Ever happened to want a twin brother? These guys always seem to be people I could easily be friends with. But I don't know what it is for sure. I tell my friends I'm bi - but to me it feels more like I'm straight, while there is still this one guy I somehow 'admire' (pretty much like you describe it). Bad idea. He would freak out. And as you describe further, you can become 'friends' with him. But I doubt those feelings will go away, and it probably will go wrong when he finds out about the rest... I can give you little advice, but no matter what (sorry to sound pessimistic) I'm quite sure this situation will hurt you. I myself would try to get to know him (slowly), and pretend nothing's happening... And coming to think of it... there were two of these guys of which I knew quite certain they had similar feelings towards me... too bad I haven't found out more about that.

Too bad... haven't heard of such an adverse reaction before (assuming no other medication was taken at the same time). 24 Why do you ask? I hope you don't feel offended by the suggestion, but seeing you're suffering... I though I should at least mention something that worked for me. You describe your sadness, but can you not at all see a cause for it? (I assume not, since even the psych can't help, and you've already resorted to medication).

You mention he is a 'lost half' of you... did you happen to undergo some kinda traumatic experience in the past? (which made you lose this half?)

arrowbee, I feel sorry for you pal... makes me think of a past me. Question about your medicine though: does even the holy herb not give you strength?