The ex popped up again in Relationship Advice Posted August 26, 2019 Of course the X popped up again - you keep giving him reason to. He'll keep popping up until you give him no reason to. He knows how to push your buttons and you LET HIM do it - so it'll continue as long as you both are willing to play this game. So.. cut him off. You and X are going nowhere - that's why you're ex's and have remained it. it's so easy to get greedy and "look a gift horse in the mouth" - but it's foolish to.