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Everything posted by RayofLighten

  1. He didn't change, he has always been like that by the sounds of it. He just put on a facade to draw you into a relationship with him. This isn't a relationship though, you are his carer not his GF. Don't stick around and be treated like that.
  2. BDP is not to blame for her cheating. I can guarantee she knew exactly what she was doing.
  3. We're not trying to scare you or upset you lovely. We're giving every possibility as to what may be going on. His hot and cold temprement and complete lack of availability is not quite right. We're not against you here. I feel for you and I you haven't done anything wrong. You are a good person who deserves better.
  4. I'm having a hard believing that he works 12 hours a day 7 days a week with no time at all to spend with you. Something ain't right. Either he is seeing someone else or he has lost all interest in you and avoids you as much as he can, only seeing you when he wants sex. It's not good at all.
  5. This friend is trying to break you up by bad mouthing you and showing your bf videos to make you mad. Maybe arrange a holiday with your bf so you can have some time alone so you reconnect and your bf can appreciate and be reminded of how much he loves you. This friend is out to cause trouble between you.
  6. Now you're turning completely around. You said he was the one who took a week to respond to a text. He was the one who didn't say anything after you professed your health issues to him. Now you're saying YOU were the one that failed to respond. This is really confusing. You need to decided what the truth is here.
  7. Oh dear, you are a walking car crash. It doesn't matter what you say after that, it'll just make it worse. Just apologize for saying stupid things and leave it at that.
  8. The answer is no because she has made it clear that she is not interested. Let it go.
  9. You really only have 2 options. You either have to put up with it or find somewhere else to live so you don't have to stalk them anymore.
  10. Maybe you shouldn't have let him put his hands wherever he wanted on you. What kind of signal do you think that sends him!
  11. So you ditched him during the toughest time of his life instead of supporting him? You claim you were great together and had a great life, but when things became tough you bailed.
  12. I'd stay well away. She's a cheater and a druggie and doesn't seem to care. She's also with that other dude so you really need to just move on. If you pursue this then you're in for a world of hurt.
  13. Why are you clinging to something so insignificant? This means nothing. He doesn't care. Maybe start being respectful and stop using it. You're only using at as a link to him anyway.
  14. A week? you can't overcome all your issues in such a short space of time. It's only the very beginning and there's no guarantee that you wont lapse back into a depressive sate again. You will. I think she has realized that such an uncertain life is not what she wants. She has moved on and fallen in love with someone else. Accept that. Don't pester her for reconciliations and move on with your own life. Continue with the therapy because you've barely scratched the surface with them yet. Good luck :)
  15. Whatever happens OP, i hope everything works out ok :)
  16. He and his wife clearly thought it was an issue. It is a bit weird tbh. Also just a little heads up, you need to 'reply with quote' so people know who you are responding to :)
  17. I don't really think she'll contact you again tbh. There is a way to stop her reaching out and that's to block her on everything. That way you wont have to worry about her contacting you and you have all the time in the world to heal. You need to stop thinking about all this now and put it out of your mind. Nothing good comes from constantly dwelling on things.
  18. Wow, you both steam rolled into everything so fast without actually getting to know each other properly. You are so bad for each other but never took the time to find that out. You treat each other badly imo and it seems like he has resentment for you forcing him into things like having children when he didn't want to. He's already paying for three and you pushed another two on him. No wonder he had to get away. You said you are controlling and jealous, major deal breaker right there. You both have such big problems and are so incompatible. I suggest you get a lawyer and start dividing assets.
  19. He doesn't love you, so I'm afraid you really are going to have to let him go. You have been acting very desperate and needy but he really shouldn't have used you like that. Yes I'm sorry to say that he used you. It's time to accept it and move on.
  20. Firstly, you are just speculating everything and sugar coating it to make yourself feel better when you absolutely no idea why he split with you. 'He split with me because he was worried that this "relapse" was going to hurt us both & he wanted to end the relationship before that happened' If this was actually the case, then no, he bailed when things looked a little tough rather than face it and support you. I agree with someone who said you should stay out of relationships for a while because you seem to be too emotional dependent on them.
  21. It really does help to write things down. I do this, i write emails out that i never send but it makes me feel better. From the things you say, it seems no amount of time would have mattered for her reach out. Even if it had been 6 months, it still would have thrown you back to where you started. It still would've reminded you of your feelings for her. Keep the NC permanent and let her go for good. Give yourself a chance to properly move forward with no set backs.
  22. Also you admitted in a comment in your last post that you have abandonment and codependency issues. I feel you are still trying to cling to a rebound out of fear of being alone.
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