So my Husband has supposedly been seeing another girl. They have known each other for the last 10 years but I was told anonymously that they have been seeing each other for the past 1.5 years.
When I spoke to him about it and showed him the emails I was sent, he denied everything and told me that she has been just a good Friend and nothing more. He even got the girl to text him to say that she was not the one who sent those messages. And told me that if it makes me more secure he will cut all ties with her.
I trust him which I ought to do since it was my husband’s words against an annonymous. We have been married for 12 years with 2 beautiful children whom he adores.
Since then everything with us has been good and back to normal. Till recently. I noticed that he had been changing his whatsapp profile pictures once every two days. Which he has nvr done before. He has had pictures for years or months. However that did not raise any red flags.
Until some of our friends texted me to check if he was alright because he has been changing his whatsapp status as frequently as his pictures. The statuses from ‘let it burn, let it burn...’ to ‘LET IT BURN’. His recent profile picture is with him with flames around it with an all caps shoutout.
He hasn’t been doing that on his FB or IG. Pictures and shoutouts are the same. I found out the “OW” was never friends with him on these social media platforms and is only on his whatsapp. He has not blocked her on whatsapp.
He sounds upset via his statuses but why though. If he is working it out with me then why does he sound upset over whatsapp. When he’s home he seems fine with all of us. Are these shoutouts for the OW?
Am I missing something? Are there red flags I’m unaware of? It got me thinking because I had friends asking me if my Husband is ok. The only thing that has happened to him is the “OW” leaving. Everything else is fine. Home life. Work life.
Need perspectives! Thanks.