Healing and confusion after cheating in Healing After Break Up or Divorce Posted October 10, 2018 I am sorry to hear what you have been through. I had the same issue. A girlfriend that was cheating but saying nice things. She told you only the nice things to soften the blow. But also to ease her own guilt. In my situation I went NC and she contacted to relief her own guilt. The lesson here is exactly what your sister says. If she wants to be 100% with you she would be able to contact you (at least multiple times) Now ask yourself. Why do you want to be together with somebody that is not choosing you? I was in the same position also. I wanted her even after cheating. Now realise this is not a good way of dealing your self-worth. Please please think about your own healing.