I’ve been really struggling lately in one of the most stable and rewarding relationships I’ve ever been in. I met an intriguing bartender at one of my favourite bars and after months of going there just to see him we finally started dating. He’s a little older than I am (by 10 years) but I’ve received a lot of support from my family and friends given the circumstances, and the fact that he’s a charming guy that shares a lot of my interests and treats me very well. We’ve now been together for 3 months and it’s gone amazing, he’s been an absolute gentleman and we get along so well it’s truly uncanny. We’ve grown really close and comfortable with eachother and he does make me really happy. But. Yes there’s a but, I can’t believe it either. I had an experience just a few months before meeting my current boyfriend with my best friends brother. Now hold on, I know what you’re thinking. “How could this possibly be a good idea” but she knows and has been very understanding, our families have been really close since we were kids so I have known her and her brother for about 14 years now, and I have had a crush on him since elementary. So before my current bf and I got together my friends brother and I shared a couple really intimate moments (were both musicians so we wrote some really romantic songs and then may have kissed a couple times) but nothing came of it at the time. I believe it had a lot to do with the fact that it might be a weird situation for our families. Now I’m getting to the point in my current relationship where things are getting serious and could potentially be really long term, but I can’t get the thought of this other guy out of my head. I see him constantly because we live near eachother and our families like to get together and there’s constantly tension that I’m sure has not gone unnoticed. This other guy and me are also very compatible, and I’ve always been really intrigued by him but I feel as though I never got to persue the feelings I had with him then, and it’s really impacting my relationship now. All in all, It really hurts to think that I could possibly have found my perfect person but I’m constantly being reminded and tempted by this other guy. Do I have to find out what would happen with him before being able to fully commit to my current relationship and risk losing it entirely? Or do I just stay where I am and continue wondering if my best friends brother would have actually been the better choice for me? This has been weighing so heavily on me and I’ve had no one to talk about it with so I thought I might as well come here and ask for some kind of advice. Thanks for reading.