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Thank you, seriously that helps put it into perspective

I can tell you now, there far from easy, bloody painful

Hey no need to be sorry at all, I genuinely feel for you. Sorry that I triggered all those horrid memories for you. My situation in s%£t and we've brought it on by ourselves- I suppose this pain in kalma for me

Mabe so but a holiday is just that and it won't last? We've been together through 2 Dummer holidays now

Yes I know, I'm do sorry you were subjected to all thst abuse - sincerely

I've not met the kids, or family (obviously) She says she doesn't know how to do it

What makes you think this

Yes possibly and I totally understand that. Keep positive, yes he made mistakes but I'm sure he loved you unconditionally

Nightmare by name, have you no compassion my friend

I feel for you and sorry re your dad and aunts passing . I get this has turned your whole life upside down and i am sorry for that. No situations are the same and I'm not proud

So she should stay with someone she doesn't love for the kids? Surely there better off with 2 happy parents apart than 2 at each others throats

Yes I've not told them because I am ashamed but we are genuinely in love

We met at the gym initially then became good friends

I was in a 21 Yr relationship, I have 2 children 20 and 24 whom live on there own now

I'm 48 she's 44

I'm 48 she's 43

I only wanted some advice, not for you to come at me, yes im apprehensive about going alone but self consciousness (I don't see what that has to do with engaging in an affair

Only a few, they live with there partners so don't see much of them

No its not like that at all for me, I can assure you - wasn't looking for an unavailable woman . We've known each other 15 yrs, friendship grew

Pls dont judge as this can happen to anyone - I know its wrong - in need of support not to be judged. I appreciate your honesty

They don't know about it, yes i should of been stronger and walked away but never done this before And didn't know the heart ache it would cause me/her

Thsnk you all, Im thinking of going solo camping in Wales uk tomorrow buy feel self conscious, you think it will do me good??

She does message me as and when she can

I appreciate your honesty- but not that easy to end it when your in love. But as you rightfully say I was aware of what I'm doing. Just hurts like hell

Hi all, I'm a single guy and not proud to say I've been having an affair with a lady (not married but been together 20yrs and 2 kids) for 2 years, we are in love. My problem is today she went away with her partner and children- I'm in turmoil - can't eat or focus on anything. I'd this normal to feel this way? Will she miss me-, she told me last night I'm her everything and we always pour our hearts out to eachother. Its going to be a week of hell. Any ideas to ease the pain? Or coping mechanisms? I'm not after sympathy just some guidance. Or is this just kalma We do want to be together Thank you in advance