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Darcus30

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  1. Thank you so much for your kind words, makes alot of sense. I'm going to make today the day I don't stress, and live my life, can't wait for the pubs to be open so can get out there again.
  2. I'm actually worried that if her new relationship doesn't work out she'll think she can come back but I can think of nothing worse lol. We speak cause of the kids but she's always saying bad things about him to me and I can't bd arsed to hear it if I'm honest. I'm definitely going to start dating and feel ready but won't lie, after 20 yrs will be scary, but I guess it's like riding a bike right lol
  3. Hi all me again quick update, wow how things change! I'm totally over it! After aosta 2 years a switch went off about a month ago, even after all your advice I just couldn't heal, now I'm not in the slightest bit bothered - why is this? I'm glad just intrigued as to why I could have done this a year ago. I literally wouldn't want her back now. I thank you for all your help It must have been so frustrating to hear me go on and on xx I have a new Question, if she did want to come back how do I tell her no with out sounding horrible ๐Ÿค”
  4. Hi all me again quick update, wow how things change! I'm totally over it! After aosta 2 years a switch went off about a month ago, even after all your advice I just couldn't heal, now I'm not in the slightest bit bothered - why is this? I'm glad just intrigued as to why I could have done this a year ago. I literally wouldn't want her back now. I thank you for all your help It must have been so frustrating to hear me go on and on xx I have a new Question, if she did want to come back how do I tell her no with out sounding horrible ๐Ÿค”
  5. Thank you so much for taking the time out to answer me i will give this a go! So could to here from someone else that has been through it Can I ask did you ever settle down with someone else in the end? Stay safe x
  6. Yes thats what I thought, but will I still feel the same in a different house?
  7. I get that you guys n girls give me that advice and wish I could move on. Yes I know it sounds sad but cant see my self with anyone else. I wish I hated her I mean she is with someone else now so why can't I move on. Sorry if I'm annoying repeating myself but I'm lost
  8. Thanks for a quick reply, yes I totally get you but its just not that easy I can go for weeks ok, then its hits me like today - thinking about when we first moved in together etc. Yes Im aware I sound like a wet blanket but I'm here for help. Thing I don't get is if she's with someone else why does she message me? In my subconscious I suppose I still think there's hope. I feel robbed of thd future we were meant to have and grow old together. She said yesterday she's scared of the future and no one will be like me. Its easy for people to say move on but we are not talking 2 years hear it
  9. Ok so I thought id start a new thread about my break up feelings, so long story short, my partner (45)and I (47)of 20 years separated nearly 2 years ago, we have 2 girls together 17yo lives with me and 21yo lives with her mum. We have kept in touch had teas together etc.. she has started dating a new man โ€“ she still messages me, just to see if im ok etc.. I donโ€™t spend all day wallowing in self-pity anymore but do still miss her and have yet to even become interested in anyone else (I donโ€™t know why). She moved out and I live in the house we brought our kids up in! a lot of memories, do people
  10. So does that make her a narcissist?
  11. What a lovely response thank you. And good to hear it from a ladies point of view, I think you are right! What I dont get is what does she get out of stringing me along? Is it narcissism? I think as you say I need to stop it now, yes I have said this before but life is too short for me to be this unhappy. Thanks for the talk Mark x
  12. Its al a bloody mess, I cant block her cause we share 2 children. Yes I agree I shouldn't still be feeling like this but cant shake it off- I wish I could. Being in this house we shared doesn't help- all the memories. Such a struggle ๐Ÿ˜”
  13. I know I've had good advice and I took it! I stopped chasing and nis she says shed made a mistake, so what jf she is genuine? And does want to give it a go? People make mistakes dont they, im going to give it until 31st of this month to come back if not I need to just tell her good luck etc.. Should I give her the ultimatum? Thanks all for your support
  14. Ok so its been a while and feeling low so thought I'd do a quick update, she has been seeing this new guy for a good few months now and sleeps over there alot, he has 3 kids, she has been calling me saying she's made a big mistake but said she doesn't want to upset anyone! Tells me she loves me, she cries for me etc... She said everything is messed up, any advice, it would be hard for me as I know she's slept with him but I could overcome that we could be a family again. Im a lost soul
  15. Ok so its been a while and feeling low so thought I'd do a quick update, she has been seeing this new guy for a good few months now and sleeps over there alot, he has 3 kids, she has been calling me saying she's made a big mistake but said she doesn't want to upset anyone! Tells me she loves me, she cries for me etc... She said everything is messed up, any advice, it would be hard for me as I know she's slept with him but I could overcome that we could be a family again. Im a lost soul
  16. Why are Sundays always harder, I know have good days and bad days, does it ever turn to just good days? Still find myself thinking about her ๐Ÿ˜”
  17. Thank you all, I felt like I was not getting over it but certainly alot better, its wierd I don't miss her anymore I miss the companionship, real robbed of the future that was planned out. I seriously doubt he would have seen it cause only calls me when she not with him. You guys/girls are great thank you x
  18. Ok so quick update guys n girls, have been doing the no contact and no longer staring at my phone for it to receive a message. It was my birthday yesterday, and Friday night at exactly 12.00 midnight she messages me saying I love you I miss you. Please don't message back. What's this all about? Thanks for listening all
  19. How you coping my friend, feeling any better? I feel your pain
  20. Today is Sunday, always miss you more on a Sunday, miss our lie ins watching rubbish films! Miss having a Sunday dinner with you, miss my best friend. Ill always love you, now another man's chance to enjoy all the things we did together! This grief hurts more than if you had died. I hope one day we can find each other again. I love you emm xxxx
  21. sorry I added my email, just wanted to say im here if u need to talk
  22. thanks LSL means alot to know im not on my oen, no drink now just gym and long runs, it helps! Keep at it. As you said nice walks with nature will help also. I'm always worse on Sundays, i used to lie in bed making myself depressed, but now I get up right away. Keeping busy is good, I've never had such a clean house lol! If you ever need to talk let me know, im a good listener. Head high Mark x
  23. hi, I feel your pain, its been a year for me since she left and still battling through, soon hard! All I can say is keep busy! Listen to me offering advice and I cant even help myself lol. Just dont do what I did and turn to drink. Head high your going to be ok x
  24. I know and I do appreciate it! I'm having a bad day today, always do on a Sunday, trying to ne strong for my daughter that lives with me. I'm trying to move on, how long does this take. I am stable not a split personality somedays I'm positive and think if she dont want me then thats just how it is then others really emotional and soo tempted to reach out (I dont) she text me today asking if im ok again. Why does she do this? Cheers guys and girls
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