I'm looking for advice on abusive relationships please . I have been married for 8 years, have three children and am at the end of my tether.
I'm just exhausted.
I have itemised aspects of my relationship that are bothering me. Would love some advice. Can people change? Should say I have a full time job Mon-Fri. I basically work full time do everything in the home. How can I get my husband to have insight- there is no talking to him.
Never compliments me.
Slags my shoes asks me why I'm not wearing high heels instead of flats
If wearing a top he might say where did you get that top and I might say why do you like it.The response is usually interesting which means he doesn't...
Leaves all the children's activities to me to research and pay for
Life is about hotels , eating out
Does no domestic chores , shopping or cooking
Generally doesn't like my clothes and says I should shop in expensive stores
When he wants to go away for the weekend I have no say when he insists on getting a rate for a third night
Makes me have a drink and gets pissed off when I don't drink
Blames me if any of the kids have anything wrong with them and says why didn't you take them to the doctor before now
Never services or valets car
No discussion around what do get the kids for Christmas yet if I go and buy them presents its why do I never get a say in what to buy them. Will go off and buy them more presents and over indulge them not good parenting.
Leaves all the purchasing of kris kindling to me and family birthdays
Criticises my cooking and has no right to when he doesn't cook.
When I make staples likes spaghetti bolognese he tells me he hates mince yet someone else would make it and he would happily eat it.
Hates when i shop in the cheaper supermarkets has to be the best.
When planning my child birthday he complaines that it wasn't more extravagant and that he has no say in said birthday when none of the little pre school class friends have started to have parties so was family only.
When highlighting my hair complains if I don' t go to the best of the best hair salon .
for the last 4 years I have done all the driving . Begged him to learn to drive . Found him two driving instructors, did all the research, booked his tests. When he did pass barely got a thank you.
Never get a birthday present, mothers day present from him.
organised a significant birthday in the house for his family barely got a thank you.
Didnt thank me for his significant birthday present
never does any washing or cooking
Refuses to fold his clothes or hang up his suits
Doesnt help with childcare
Won't discuss finances
When unpacking shopping does a disappearing trick
I pay for everything and have to get the money back then
Leaves all the admin to me - paying house insurance, car tax , renewing passports.
Lives beyond his means refuses to discuss childcare , bills, plan for family holidays.
Doesnt know how much is in his account can't do internet banking
Sees weekends as just for fun
Spends a lot of time watching football and netflix
Thank you for any advice as in a bad place,