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  1. Not sure if I I used the proper words to position my question but I’ve known this guy for over a year. We met because he was pursuing me and wanted to date me. I liked him a lot then or else he wouldn’t have gotten my number. Problem was, timing was bad. Literally JUST got out of a relationship and I was really broken. Didn’t realize this initially, but once I kept cancelling dates and not wanting to hang with him, I knew I wasn’t over my ex. So I kinda ended us, but remained friends who spoke to each other sporadically. Fast forward a year later, I’m healed and ready to go. I begin to pur
  2. No it isn’t a recurring topic. His sister was in town this weekend and he hung with her and ex. I didn’t find out until after the fact. When I asked why ex was there, he explained her and sister has been hanging out recently. I know this may sound like an oxymoron but I do trust him. My fear is that this relationship could reopen doors
  3. I’ve dated him since he split from her. And you’re right, he introduced her as a friend so technically the sister didn’t know she was an ex at the time but she knows now. I’m more concerned that she was introduced at all. Why not say hi and bye? Why would he allow a relationship develop between the two? Had the sister and ex known each other prior I wouldn’t be worried. But for her to be introduced after the break up and while I’m here kinda bothers me. And yes, to answer your other question him and his ex dated briefly. Like 6 months tops I believe, if even. I don’t think they even got ser
  4. I have a bit of a weird dilemma and my hopes are you guys can confirm if I’m being dramatic/paranoid. I met a nice guy and been dating for a little while. I like him a lot and are in the process of possibly getting more serious. Now the weird part is he broke up with his ex about a year ago. The circumstances surrounding this breakup hasn’t been explained in detail to me, but what I do know is he broke up with her because he didn’t feel she was the “one” for him. They supposedly ended on good terms even though it took her a while to move on. Flash forward a year later. He’s out with his sister
  5. *Sighs* to be honest and looking back, perhaps I did inadvertently lead him on. Honestly, our “dating phase” ended solely due to the fact he was extremely frustrated with my lack of motivation to see him or go on actual dates. It was only then I stated why I was so distant, but at that point......he was done trying regardless. All of this is great advice. He’s not interested. Time to cut my losses
  6. You're absolutely correct. I should've been more direct. I was direct eventually, but I probably waited too long to be direct. We never got serious initially just talked back and forth for weeks. But yes, I did explain to him why and apologized. But I agree with you and the other posters. He's not interested and move on.
  7. Hi all, Roughly a year ago a met a really nice guy. We hit it off right away and exchanged numbers. He tried multiple times to hang with me and take me on dates, but we never got a chance to do so. This was primarily my fault. I was fresh out of a relationship and had some baggage at the time. I didn't want to bring that into my next relationship so I was distant towards him (I did explain why). I took some time to myself and now I am good as new. We bumped into each recently we sparked contact again. I noticed he wasn't as responsive via text (although whenever in person he seems FULLY
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    4 years of intimacy is a long time.Was there nothing else but sex involved? Also, people say things they dont mean. It was a heated argument so he couldve been angry and just wanted to say something to hurt you
  9. My ex broke up with me. Broke my heart into pieces. He moved on quite quickly. Got serious with an ex and moved her in within weeks of our breakup (yes, I am aware that this means he was seeing her behind my back). The point of providing this detail is because I want to make it clear that hes moved on.Nevertheless he wanted to remain friends. Took me a while to get there but i'm here. What confuses me is when i do text him and it's purely platonic and nothing more, he doesnt respond or takes hours and days to respond. But when I text him about my emotions or us (which I dont do anymore) he was
  10. I actually did this two days ago. He responded "Ok" as if he didn't care or me being done doesn't bother him. Maybe his goal the entire time was to get me to move on.
  11. Never cheated. Was actually crazy over this guy. I thought the same as you. I've been questioning myself and wondering if I may have said something hurtful to him and didn't realize it? And now he's taking revenge out on me? My best friend thinks he didn't really want me to move on and lashing out. But this theory makes no sense because he actually moved on
  12. Ironically, they were on and off for years. He said it was nothing serious then turned serious pretty quickly. My gut tells me that is the real reason he dumped me. While being dumped hurts, that isn't my problem. I am more concerned with why he feels the need to throw things in my face.
  13. My ex and I dated for roughly 8 months. Things were really good (or so I thought) until one day he sat me down and said he felt chemistry was missing and was breaking up with me. He wanted to remain friends and I objected to this saying it isn't possible but insisted we try because he cares for me and values my friendship. Weeks go by and we are doing OK. Still talking every day, but its platonic. It wasn't until he confirmed he was seeing someone new that it became harder for me. I would get emotional at times. I eventually came straight out and told him this is difficult for me. He suggested
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