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  1. My girlfriend and I have been going through a really rough time lately and we had a talk about how I want to be with her but wish she wasn’t as controlling and respected the I want alone time and friend time. She doesn’t tell me I can’t do things, but when she gets upset if I want to do something, I don’t do it and it’s basically what I think control would be.? Anyways I know it’s healthy to have friend time and for guys to have other friends that are girls and vise versa, but this is something that she isn’t comfortable with, and I proposed the idea and she said she is willing to try and be okay with it and I’m very happy and am giving us the chance to see if it works. However, when she asks if I’m going to be hanging out with girls all the time or want to or if I’m going to be on the lake with other girls; all with my guy friends, I said it would probably happen and I wish she’d be comfortable with it, she said she never would be because that’s just too much. Should I compromise or is that something that’s reasonable for a couple that’s been dating for a couple years? She trusts me but is insecure and uncomfortable with a lot and I just don’t want to have us go through this and be unhappy for months until we figure we should break up and go through all of these tough times again. I guess I’m really unsure where my head is at, other than I know I want to do whatever I want to do, but still want her to be comfortable but don’t know when too much is unhealthy or “not normal.”
  2. Wiseman, I have never been one to go telling people about my relationship problems or girlfriend problems. I was with my buddies and his sister asked me how things were going and I was honest because I wanted advice or answers I didn't want to get with her. This is hard because I haven't known being without her for years and a lot of my friends are moving to college this coming fall and I planned on staying back at the community college to save money before I go to a four year. With that being said, if I do break up with her, I don't know if I will have anybody else here, I certainly don't want to befriend the younger immature friends my brother associates himself with. I tried telling her what has recently been making me unhappy and I viewed them as small things, but she says she doesn't think she can do it. I'm honestly heart broken because I am afraid of being alone and don't want to leave her because I love her so much. I'm not as afraid about making new friends, I've always been alright at that. It just makes me cry to think that we won't be together.
  3. I just wanted to see if I could get anybody else’s thoughts on the matter. She said she’s afraid of rejection if she asks me to hang out and I’m going to say no because I want to be alone. She said she doesn’t know if she can have a relationship with me if we see each other any less than we do already. I just read the rules because I didn't know how to delete this post but I know it can't be done, sorry. :moody:
  4. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for two years now and I love her with everything I’ve got. She’s my first real relationship but I’ve been with other girls before and whenever we go out and she sees one of them, she loses it and gets extremely upset and wants to go home which makes me not have a good time either even though there’s nothing I can do about it. This has been happening throughout the relationship and I’ve told her it shouldn’t matter and it’s not healthy because I love her and only her but she still gets super upset. She also doesn’t let me go to certain buddies houses if they have girls over or even if they have sisters around my age because it “bothers” her. I’ve let it go and just haven’t hungout at their houses for two years but I’m honestly getting fed up with it and I tried telling her that I want her to try and be okay with it because I’m not happy but she just cried during the whole conversation because I was telling her things that are “wrong with her.” Even using social media like Instagram or Snapchat talking to friends that are girls throws her overboard or just following their pages does too. Another thing is, that I’ve given her all of my free time for the length of the relationship and she doesn’t understand alone time when I need it, and she gets upset when I don’t want to hangout or when I’d rather be alone or with other people but she’s okay with not seeing her friends for long periods of time and doesn’t think it’s a big deal but when I’m with my friends I have an awesome time with them and make a lot of good memories. Lately I’ve been thinking about our relationship and I just don’t know what to do. I want her to try and change for the better so we can be together otherwise I might end things because I’m not happy. It would be awesome to hear what you guys have to say, thank you.
  5. I’m just afraid to end things. She loves me more than anything in the world and I love her just as much but I think I would be happier if I was able to do the things I wanted to do. Ive noticed lately I have lost some motivation in our relationship and get worn out and tired so maybe that is telling me something? I know other girls that have told me that it’s not healthy what she’s doing but I’m not sure if they mean it or if they’re just trying to hook up with me after the fact.. lol.
  6. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for two years now and I love her with everything I’ve got. She’s my first real relationship but I’ve been with other girls before and whenever we go out and she sees one of them, she loses it and gets extremely upset and wants to go home which makes me not have a good time either even though there’s nothing I can do about it. This has been happening throughout the relationship and I’ve told her it shouldn’t matter and it’s not healthy because I love her and only her but she still gets super upset. She also doesn’t let me go to certain buddies houses if they have girls over or even if they have sisters around my age because it “bothers” her. I’ve let it go and just haven’t hungout at their houses for two years but I’m honestly getting fed up with it and I tried telling her that I want her to try and be okay with it because I’m not happy but she just cried during the whole conversation because I was telling her things that are “wrong with her.” Even using social media like Instagram or Snapchat talking to friends that are girls throws her overboard or just following their pages does too. Another thing is, that I’ve given her all of my free time for the length of the relationship and she doesn’t understand alone time when I need it, and she gets upset when I don’t want to hangout or when I’d rather be alone or with other people but she’s okay with not seeing her friends for long periods of time and doesn’t think it’s a big deal but when I’m with my friends I have an awesome time with them and make a lot of good memories. Lately I’ve been thinking about our relationship and I just don’t know what to do. I want her to try and change for the better so we can be together otherwise I might end things because I’m not happy. It would be awesome to hear some other people’s opinions. Thank you.
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